Today I heard the sad news that the son of a young friend was diagnosed with depression, and at the age of 28, he actually tried to commit suicide, but fortunately in the end it did not succeed. In the eyes of others, this young man has everything to envy: his family is well-off, and the clinic run by his parents can easily earn six or seven hundred thousand yuan a year;He is the only son in the family, tall and handsome, and graduated from a 211 university. His parents had high hopes for him to be admitted to the civil service and lead a stable life.
However, it was this expectation and pressure that became the straw that broke the camel's back. His parents always wanted him to inherit the family business or enter politics, and forced him to study hard since he was a child, spending his summer and winter vacations in various cram schools. In high school, his mother even bought a house near the school to take care of his life and studies. After graduating from college, he returned to his parents, who did not let him do other jobs, but only let him concentrate on preparing for the exam
However, he never got into the civil service as he wished, and this time he failed the exam again, which plunged him into despair. He attempted suicide, but was fortunately found in time and taken to the hospital. After examination, he was diagnosed with depression.
This heavy story is not unique. Many children suffer from depression due to excessive expectations and stress from their parents, and their schoolwork, life and health are severely affected. These children used to be top students, but eventually collapsed due to their parents' high expectations. Their lives are confined to the path set by their parents, ignoring the true needs and dreams of their hearts.
Many parents are overly anxious about parenting, imposing their own expectations on their children, forgetting that each child is unique in their own way. Forcing a child to follow a particular path will only trigger the opposite effect, like a cow that is forced to drink water, and will only bring harm.
For the parents of this young man, they should deeply reflect on their own approach to education. They should understand that there is not only one path in life, and that any successful field requires hard work and sweat. Parents should teach their children the spirit of hard work instead of forcing them to follow the path they have set for themselves.
In this pluralistic society, the definition of success is no longer limited to academic qualifications or specific occupations. The life of a senior welder can also be very good;A senior nursery teacher can also have a stable income;A chef can gain praise through his love and dedication to good food. Therefore, parents should respect their children's interests and talents and support them in pursuing their dreams.
Mastering any craft takes time and effort, but forcing a child to learn is not necessarily the best approach. Give your child the freedom to play in their areas of interest, and they will be more motivated to explore and grow. If parents are unable to provide sufficient resources to support their child's development, then they should start with themselves and set an example for their child through their own efforts.
The best education does not come from word of mouth, but from self-education. When parents demonstrate the spirit of continuous effort and pursuit of progress through their own actions, children will naturally learn this spirit and carry it with them for the rest of their lives.