I am Xu Jiayang, 35 years old, from Henan, working as an accountant at a construction site, and I also work part-time for two other companies, working three jobs a day, with a monthly salary of almost 20,000 yuan.
But I told my wife that her monthly salary was 13,000, and I secretly saved the remaining 7,000, because I still have a younger brother who is not married, and my mother asked me to prepare the wedding house and bride price.
I was already weak in saving private money, for fear that my wife would find out and make trouble with me. But this year's Chinese New Year, my wife did something that made me completely panicked.
My family is in the countryside, and my parents are authentic farmers, and a few dollars from the field are only enough for the family to eat.
When my parents gave birth, they were just in time to plan for a child, and in order to have a boy, they gave birth to three girls (my three sisters) in a row, and then they gave birth to twin sons (my brother and me).
Therefore, they paid a lot of fines, made the family destitute, and they have not been able to turn around and change until now.
In order for my brother and I to go to school, the three older sisters all dropped out of school early to go out to work, and they all got married before they reached the age of 20.
Although my brother is only 1 minute younger than me, my parents are used to him, and they are all close to him for delicious and fun things, and I have to let him go, so that I often go hungry.
Since I was a child, I wanted to escape from the countryside, so I studied hard Xi and my grades were always at the top. My brother is naughty and naughty when he doesn't study Xi, loves to cause trouble, and often fights with people.
When I was in the fifth grade of elementary school, I was shot blind in one eye, and I no longer go to school, and I slept and ate at home every day.
When I was admitted to university, my mother told me that in the future, I would earn money, and I would not only take care of myself, but also support my brother in addition to my adoptive parents.
My brother didn't want to do anything when he heard this, he was already missing an eye, and now he was waiting to gnaw me.
I majored in accounting, and after graduating, I found an accountant at a construction site in the city. When I first worked, my salary was only 3,000 yuan, and I lived in a shack.
My mom asked me to leave 300 yuan for dinner, and I called her the rest. She said that my brother was blind in one eye and could not work to earn money, so I had to support him and save money for him to marry a daughter-in-law.
At that time, I had a very hard time, I didn't dare to go out with my colleagues, and I didn't dare to go to dinner because I had no money, and I couldn't return the invitation after eating them.
I don't have the money to fall in love, and there are girls who are introduced by enthusiastic people, and after learning about my situation, they don't even want to meet in person.
It wasn't until I attended the 10th anniversary party of my college graduation that I met my college classmate Wang Xuan. She is still single, and her classmates actively match the two of us, and I am not qualified to pick others, so Wang Xuan took advantage of the situation to hold my hand.
Wang Xuan and I are in the same city, she is from this city, her parents are public officials, she is an only child, her family has a car and a house, and she has two houses for rent.
She has good conditions, and the conditions for finding a partner are naturally high, and she picks and chooses to leave herself.
I asked her, my family's conditions are so poor, I can't afford to buy me a wedding house, and I can't give much as a bride price, why can she take a fancy to me?
She said that now that she is over 30 years old, her parents are anxious to urge marriage, saying that if she doesn't get married, it will be difficult to have children.
Moreover,She has experienced so much and figured it out, she doesn't expect to get married and get rich, she has everything herself, she just wants to find a suitable partner and be able to live.
As for the wedding room, bride price, etc., she can do without it, but she has a few requests, and if I can do it, she will marry me immediately. She said
First,When I get married, I want to be a son-in-law, and my child has my surname, but in the future, I will give her parents a pension.
Second,In order to maximize the interests of the family, the family income is handed over to her, and my salary must be handed over to her.
Third,She is an only child, and has no siblings to help, and we only have the responsibility of supporting our parents, and we have no obligation to support our siblings. That is to sayI can't support my brother
I couldn't make up my mind, so I asked my mother, and my mother said that she couldn't find such a lantern from her in-laws, so she almost agreed.
I said that in the future, my salary cannot be given to my family, and I have to hand it over to Wang Xuan. My mother poked my head and scolded me for being stupid, telling me not to tell the truth to Wang Xuan and to hide it privately.
My mother also said that Wang Xuan is an only daughter, and her parents' property will be hers in the future, and I will marry her, which is mine, and mine is my brother's.
She asked me to learn to be smart, to behave better in front of my parents-in-law, and to have everything.
After I got married, I told Wang Xuan that my salary was 13,000 as my mother taught me, and I handed over the salary card to her directly, and she was moved to say that she would give me 2,000 yuan of pocket money every month.
Actually, I didn't lie to her, it's really my salary. But I didn't tell her that I was still working part-time in two other companies, and my income was 7,000 yuan together.
In this way, with the 2,000 yuan of pocket money given to me by Wang Xuan, I will have 9,000 yuan a month for my mother, and 100,000 yuan a year.
But my mother said that my brother only has one eye, and he is lazy to eat, and if he can't buy him a wedding house in the county seat, I'm afraid no girl will want to marry him.
The house in the county town costs more than 400,000 yuan, to say the least, and it will take me almost 5 years to save enough. My mom said that my brother was 40 years old at that time, and no one wanted a house anymore, so she asked me to find a way to hide more private money.
But this is my limit, I am worried every day, I am afraid that Wang Xuan will know about messing with me, and then give me a break, I am really entangled and difficult.
I took Wang Xuan back to my hometown for the Chinese New Year this year, and my mother wiped her tears in front of Wang Xuan for the first time.
She cried to Wang Xuan and told her that her life was hard, and she gave birth to 5 children, and it was not easy to raise us, but I didn't expect that I would have to worry about my brother when I was old.
She said that my brother is 35 years old, he only has one eye, he has no ability and can't even afford a wedding house, and he can't marry a daughter-in-law and can only beat a bachelor, so she can't even raise her head in the village.
My mother wiped a handful of tears and took Wang Xuan's hand, saying that fortunately she had this capable daughter-in-law, which reduced her burden, allowed me to live a good life, and allowed her to hold her head high in front of her relatives.
Wang Xuan has been listening to my mother's nagging quietly, wiping away my mother's tears from time to time, and letting my mother talk to her heart's content.
My mom said that her wish was to see my brother start a family and have children in her lifetime.
After we came back to work after the Chinese New Year, one day Wang Xuan took a bank card, she said that there was 300,000 yuan in it, and said that this money could be lent to my brother to buy a house.
I was ecstatic and praised my wife for being sensible. However, Wang Xuan said that the money was not borrowed for nothing, and that he wanted my brother to write an IOU for a period of 5 to 10 years.
If it can be repaid within 5 years, the interest will be calculated at 1% per year, and if it can be repaid after 5 years, the interest will be calculated at 2%.
I agreed, and my mother asked me to write an IOU for my brother, saying that I could agree to any conditions. I know she wants me to help my brother pay it back, and I'm going to do the same.
But Wang Xuan insisted that my brother come and get things done in person. Wang Xuan said that she didn't want me to get involved in this matter, and she wanted my brother to be able to support himself in the future, and after getting married, he could take on the responsibility of supporting his family, and stop gnawing at the old or us.
Hearing Wang Xuan's words, I suddenly panicked. What does she mean by that? Did she know about me stealing money? Is this banging me?
Thinking of my wife's trust in me, she never cares about money with me, she is filial and respectful to my parents, my father-in-law and mother-in-law treat me like a son, sometimes I quarrel with my wife, and they all protect me and criticize my daughter.
The more I think about it, the more I feel that I shouldn't do things to hide money privately, I am a person who has nothing, how can I marry such a reasonable family and enjoy a happy life, I should be grateful.
But what about my brother? Will he be able to support himself and take care of his little family?
Oops, tangled skull hurts, what should I do?
Little Plush said
Thank you Mr. Xiao Xu for sharing, you can meet such a kind and kind family, it is really your creation.
Although you are a son-in-law, people treat you as your own son, your wife trusts you, is filial to your parents, and is willing to help your brother get through the difficulties, you should be grateful.
Especially your wife is an atmospheric and wise person, the reason why she asked your brother to write an IOU and repay the interest in installments is to let him learn to be self-reliant and self-responsible.
Because in this world, only oneself relies on oneself, and it is not good to live by others. If you still listen to your mother do the work for your brother, there are only two consequences:
One is to disappoint your wife and family who are really good to you, and the other is to harm your own brother.
So,Hurry up and stop hiding, stop hiding private money, use all your money to build a small family, and everyone can live well if the small family is good.