When a daughter gets married, she must cry, which is called "crying marriage". I believe that many friends have heard of this custom for the first time, don't ask the question mark first, let me take you to unlock the new knowledge of the wedding customs of the Chinese Tujia family
Crying marriage is a custom of traditional Chinese Tujia weddings, and it is a traditional skill of the Tujia people.
The daughter of the Tujia family must cry when she gets married, crying beautifully, and crying touchingly. This kind of crying is not simply wiping tears and howling, but there is a special "crying wedding song".
Crying marriage is the prelude to the Tujia wedding
When friends and family come to see them off, crying becomes a friendly etiquette. Crying to express gratitude to relatives and friends for their blessings is more sincere than expressing it in words.
The content of crying is also rich and diverse, crying ancestors, crying parents, crying brothers and sisters-in-law, crying sisters, crying matchmakers, crying themselves. The form of crying is also very interesting, you can cry instead of crying, crying with songs, or even touching the scene and having a freestyle on the spot.
Someone asked, why do Tujia girls have to cry when they get married, how can there be so many things to cry about?
In the ancient rituals of "crying to celebrate marriage, singing and dancing to sacrifice the dead" as the traditional custom, there are very rich life rituals. The daughter of the Tujia family has changed from identity to emotional release, and expressed her pursuit of a better life and hard work in the form of crying, which is also a microcosm of the etiquette culture of the Tujia family for thousands of years.
The ten sisters are too sad to sing, don't let your mother cry and stain her clothes!
Ningshan is close to Wushan Gorge, like Ba Niang crying bamboo branches. ”
This is the description of the Tujia poet Peng Qiutan in the Qianlong period of the Qing Dynasty on crying marriage, and there were still local folk songs at that time: the girl who marries out, splashes the water. 
The girl got married, suddenly left her mother's house that gave birth to her, and went to a strange in-law's house, and since then she has become a member of her mother-in-law's family.
Although the meaning of crying marriage has some feudal ideas and is different from today's trend of advocating women's independence, the meaning behind it has long been not limited to form, but has become a cultural symbol and a reflection of the ideological changes of the Tujia people over the past thousand years.
Crying and marrying, a relatively rare national ritual, has been passed down from generation to generation, and its own content has been constantly changing with the changes of the times.
The content is not only short in the family, but also covers the agricultural totem, the liberation of farmers, and today's freedom of marriage.
As an authentic Tujia daughter, a national vocal singer, and a "Sealand girl", Deng Chaoyu knows this kind of ritual and customs very well, and she has shared the process and content of the crying wedding ceremony for fans in the camera.
To this day, crying and marrying are still popular in many Tujia settlements, and with the development of the times, they are also advancing with the times. It is not only an integral part of a national culture, but also a unique female space in Tujia society, and an exposure of Tujia history, life, beliefs and values. Instead of examining it with a modern eye and finding fault with it, it is better to use dialectical thinking to feel its unique cultural value.
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