In daily life, many parents will leave a message to the teacher in the background to express their anxiety about educating their babies. Today, the teacher would like to share with you the [classic] educational perspective to help you get out of anxiety.
1) Before the child is 1 year old, or even before the age of 3, it is best to be raised by the mother. People are very helpless in the early stages of life, and recognizing people is the earliest emotional attachment, so that parents can give their children a sense of security.
2) The child must be managed well before the age of 6, otherwise it will not be managed in the future. When your child rejects him at 4 years old, he rolls on the ground at most, and when he rejects him at 14 years old, he will run away from home. From what aspects? For example, there are 6 aspects: restraining willfulness, preventing pressure, learning to control, learning to endure, preventing selfishness, and learning to frustrate.
3) There is a critical period of psychological development, before the age of 12 is called the attachment period, and the age of 12-18 becomes adolescence; The attachment period requires family education, and adolescence requires social involvement.
4) In the early years, the more hardships a person endures, the better his ability to endure. Especially if you have a son at home, don't be obedient, many rebels are spoiled.
5) Children's psychological growth is more important than intellectual education. I'd rather my child be an ordinary happy teenager than be a mentally depressed Xi machine.
6) Grades are important, but that is the teacher's task, and as his parent, your task is to focus on his all-round development; Pay attention to how he is doing today, and pay attention to whether he is having difficulties.
7) After all, the child should go out into society and be an independent person. Therefore, parents should keep a proper distance and give their children space to grow freely, which is not only conducive to maintaining the parent-child relationship, but also conducive to the healthy growth of children.
8) Parents must let their children know that on the road to growth, it cannot be smooth sailing, and success is often accompanied by hardships and setbacks.
9) Frustration tolerance is related to willpower, and the cultivation of willpower does not rely on intelligence, but on physical strength, so when the child is young, let him do more physical work.
10) There are shortcomings in children, but what is terrible is that as the leader of the child's life, parents lack correct family education.
11) The education of human nature is greater than the education of intelligence; Survival education should be greater than elite education - intelligence is used to do evil, and it is more harmful.
12) Problems with the way you educate yourself from your child's attitude. Sometimes he will repay you in the way you treat him; If you respect him, he will respect you, and if you don't respect him, he will naturally not respect you.
13) The problems of minors are lagging behind, and when you find that children are difficult to manage, in fact, the problems have already appeared.
14) For adolescent children, there must be a method for education. Sometimes it's okay to say it, you don't have to force your child to admit your mistakes, write a letter of guarantee, and if you force your child, it will be disrespectful to you, and it is difficult to make an adolescent child admit his mistakes.
15) Accompanying children to grow up is the greatest kindness. A sound family does not mean a sound family education, many social problems are attributed to people, where do people's problems boil down? It comes down to the early years of man.