My marriage with my husband was originally very happy, and we fell in love for three years before entering the palace of marriage. After we got married, we lived in the house we bought, and only went back to visit our in-laws on weekends. Usually, my in-laws almost ignore us and let us develop this marriage freely.
However, just this year, my husband's company set up a branch in Shanghai. It may be that the leader has great trust in her husband's business ability, and her husband was directly sent to Shanghai to manage this new branch. At first, my husband would rush home every few days, but gradually, he stayed in Shanghai for longer and longer, sometimes half a month before he could see each other.
As a university teacher, my place of work is far away from home, and it takes more than an hour to drive back and forth. In the days when my husband was not around, I planned to live directly in the dormitory of the school, which would save a lot of time on the road. Who knew that this decision annoyed my mother-in-law, and she quietly came to my house to "visit the class", and immediately came to ** to question me after discovering the chaotic scene. I hastened to explain, but my mother-in-law was clearly upset.
The next day, my mother-in-law carried her luggage, called my father-in-law, and moved directly into our house. She claimed that it was because her husband had been absent for a long time, and she was afraid that I would not be able to take care of myself alone, so she came over to "accompany me". I didn't think much about it at first, just thought it was my mother-in-law's kindness, but I didn't expect that the next scene completely dispelled my illusion.
On that day, several colleagues from the school got together for dinner, and everyone chatted very happily, you and I joked one by one, and the topic also talked from work to life. I was about to continue singing with my colleague when I received a call from my mother-in-law.
I knew I wouldn't be able to go back tonight, so I told my mother-in-law in advance. My mother-in-law was silent for a few seconds, then asked me in a somewhat trembling voice, "You guys are going to sing?".Is it just you and your colleagues?Will you come back late?I replied impatiently, "Yes, it's just a few of our female colleagues singing and chatting together." We didn't go back to the dormitory until late, so you and Dad should rest early. ”
The mother-in-law's voice immediately became a little serious: "How many people?."Who are they?Are you sure it's just a gathering between colleagues?"I can't believe my mother-in-law's question, is she suspecting that I have some improper relationship with my colleague going out?I held back my anger and said as calmly as possible: "It's just that a few of our female teachers sing and chat together, and it's a normal gathering of colleagues, so you can rest assured." ”
Hung up**, my mood has been messed up by my mother-in-law. At this time, my colleagues were joking hotly, but I couldn't get involved anymore. "Are you alright?"Colleague A noticed my abnormality and looked at me with concern. I shook my head and poured a big sip of beer into my mouth, trying to forget about the ** communication that annoyed me.
It was late at night, and a few of us reluctantly ended the fun of the night. I walked back to the dormitory alone, but at the door of the dormitory, I saw my mother-in-law sitting on a bench with an anxious face. I also have more than a dozen missed calls on my phone. When my mother-in-law saw me, her eyes were obviously full of confusion and suspicion: "Why did you only come back now?".With whom?”
It dawned on me that my mother-in-law didn't believe me, and she was afraid that I would cheat on other men while my husband was away. She's just here to spy on me.
I was so angry that I shook my hand and walked upstairs to my dorm room. Before going to bed, I called my husband **, hoping that he would tell him about his mother-in-law, we are all adults, and my mother-in-law is completely violating my privacy like this!
However, the next morning, my husband's reply disappointed me. He said that he also hoped that I could be considerate of my mother-in-law, as an in-law, they would be somewhat conservative and did not want me to play alone outside at night. For the sake of my safety, my mother-in-law will do this. It seems that in front of my husband, I can't say anything about his mother at all.
The days of being watched by my mother-in-law seemed to go on endlessly. The time when I go home is always controlled by my mother-in-law, and I hardly see any friends at night, for fear of upsetting my mother-in-law. It was as if I had gone back to the days when I was unmarried, when I was bound by my parents, and all my freedom was taken away.
One day, an old classmate came to my city on a business trip and asked me to have a meal together. I excitedly agreed, and it had been a long time since I had been able to catch up with my old friends. But just as I was about to go out, my mother-in-law grabbed me with a serious face: "Who are you going to see again?"A married woman runs to dinner with another man and asks for some decency!”
He's just my old classmate!I explained impatiently, "Can you please let me go?"”
I disagree!The mother-in-law looked angry, "I have to watch you while your husband is away!."”
I was so crazy that I shook off my mother-in-law's hand and ran out. I don't care if my mother-in-law agrees or not!For so many years, my feelings have always been very single-minded, and my mother-in-law is simply insulting to my personality.
But not long after I left, my mother-in-law actually called ** to complain to the old man, saying that I was disobedient and ran to meet my male friend without permission. My husband called directly and asked me where I was in a very bad tone. I looked at the expression on his face, and my heart suddenly cooled.
I've booked my ticket home and I'll be there the day after tomorrow. I'll go back and talk to you face to face about it. Although my husband's words were short, they gave me hope.
Sure enough, on the day my husband came back, I had a serious talk with my mother-in-law for the first time. Although I don't know what they talked about, my mother-in-law's attitude was noticeably more relaxed. My mother-in-law no longer monitors my every day, and I gradually regain my social time.
Actually, my mother also has good intentions. "One night, my husband suddenly said to me, "She's just worried that you're out on your own and wants you to take care of yourself." I know it's not been a easy time for you, and I'll think more about your feelings in the future. ”
My husband's words made me feel very warm. I understand that as a daughter-in-law, I also need to learn to tolerate my in-laws. After all, at the beginning of human beings, nature is good. I believe that through communication and understanding, our family will become closer and closer.
Well, I'll take care of myself too. I gently put my arms around my husband and imprinted a kiss on the corner of his mouth. This turmoil finally ended in understanding.
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