Introduction: I am a retiree and think my life is full and interesting. However, in her daughter's words, she unexpectedly realized whether her concern had become a burden. Is it true that I interfered too much in my daughter's life, as they said?Or is it just an inevitable conflict in the family?Let's get closer to the family and see what happened.
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I have lived in the community for several years, my daughter has been married for three years, and her husband and she live a busy and happy life. I used to think that cooking breakfast and taking care of the housework for them every day was a matter of course, after all, to make my daughter's life better. At the beginning of each day, I would go to the market, pick up fresh ingredients, and go to my daughter's house to make breakfast for them. However, they are always in a hurry and do not like to eat breakfast. I do the laundry and cook for them, and they don't seem to care about it. However, a conversation last Sunday made me think deeply. My daughter's words made me wake up suddenly: Did I really do something wrong?
My daughter said to me, "Mom, please don't come to our house to cook again." This is our own home, please give us some personal space. ”
Her words made me stunned for a moment, I never thought they were so disgusted by my concern. I was mired in deep self-blame and contradictions. When I got home, my wife saw me depressed, and said with a smile: "You wash people's underwear**, you think it's caring, and people think it's an invasion of privacy." You don't care about them in the future, you just take good care of me. ”
Although my wife's words made me feel relieved, I was always at peace with my heart.
As I learned to let go, my daughter brought the overjoyed news that she was pregnant. It was supposed to be a happy moment, but there was a mixed mood in me. My daughter told me on WeChat: "Mom, we are very happy, and I hope you can share our joy too." But at the same time, we want to have some personal space during this special time, and we hope you can understand. ”
This sentence made me ponder. Maybe I've been trying to play too much of a role in their lives and care too much. What they need may just be a space of their own. I began to reflect on whether I had truly let go.
So, I made a decision: to release them completely and allow them to breathe freely at this important moment. I expressed my best wishes to my daughters and solemnly promised not to interfere too much in their moments of joy. This may be the moment when I really learn to let go, and it is also a profound way for me to understand love.
I once thought that I was caring about my daughter, but I never thought that this concern had become a kind of pressure. I deeply feel that every relationship in the family needs to be treated with care, and the love should not be too strong, otherwise it will become a burden. In the process, I not only understood my daughter's independence, but also learned respect and tolerance. Perhaps, letting go of some and letting them experience it for themselves is a better way to care.
Conclusion: Today, I am not a lonely old man. Although we are no longer busy with our daughter's housework every day, my wife and I have more time to spend our old age together. Let's plan our trip to Hainan next year and enjoy our world for two. Through this family twist and turn, I learned the moderation of love, learned to give space, and learned to take better care of myself. Perhaps, this is the most beautiful change in family relationships.