Recently, a 45-year-old man has been on a blind date for more than 100 times and is still single, and he was complained by the matchmaker that he was looking for a post-90s generation. To this, the man responded: I have this capital, I have a baby face, and I look tender. Some agree with and some question the man's response. Those who agree think he is confident, while those who doubt him think he is too narcissistic.
First, let's take a look at this man's self-confidence**. He said he was baby-faced and looked tender. This is indeed a kind of capital, because appearance is the first impression to make, and a young appearance can give more opportunities and possibilities. At the same time, this man also believes that he has enough capital to attract young post-90s women. This shows that he has a certain awareness and self-evaluation of himself, and is not afraid to express his thoughts.
However, this self-confidence also raises some questions. Some people believe that the man is too narcissistic and only values his appearance and ignores his inner qualities and cultivation. There is some truth to this view, because a person's value is not only determined by appearance, but also by internal qualities, character, abilities, and values. If a person only values the appearance and ignores the inner cultivation and growth, then this self-confidence can easily turn into arrogance and self-deception.
In addition, there are some who believe that the man's blind date is too demanding, because age is not the only measure of a person's worth. Indeed, a person's worth should not be defined solely by age. In the process of choosing a mate, we should pay attention to the compatibility of the other party's internal qualities, personalities, hobbies, values, etc., rather than just looking at superficial factors such as age.
So, why did this man keep going on a blind date without success?In addition to the factors mentioned above, there could be other reasons. For example: he is too demanding of himself, and he is too demanding of the other party;He paid too much attention to superficial factors in the blind date process and ignored the importance of understanding each other deeply;Or he lacks effective communication skills and presentation skills, etc. These are all issues that he needs to reflect on and improve himself.