There are always a lot of disputes in life, what is the root cause of this, it still comes from one's own psychology, the direction of the heart, and the direction of behavior.
The heart of fame. The heart of fame is a double-edged sword, which can both make or destroy a person.
When a person does not have the heart of utilitarianism and fame and fortune, he looks down on it, and he does not want to fight for it in his heart, so he naturally does not mix with these people and things. Maybe it is because I feel that it is not necessary, I don't care, I am not proud of my merits, I don't show it, my name is just a nothing, and I may become a burden to bind myself. Maybe you don't have the ability to recognize the status quo, do what you can do, and don't have extravagant expectations.
However, in order to compete for fame, many people will do whatever it takes, and the means are endless, and they have become victims of fame. Of course, everyone has the heart of fame, and it is understandable to strive for it in a legitimate way.
The heart of taking. When a person wants to get something, it is because of its value, and if it is something precious, there will be a stronger desire. The ways to get it are usually begging, demanding, stealing, robbing, etc. In addition to these obvious behaviors, there are also some hidden behaviors, through the suggestion of verbal acts, indirect exploitation, instructing others, taking advantage of human weaknesses, and so on.
The heart of taking, self-centered, harming the interests of others as the premise, in order to meet their own needs. It not only creates obstacles in interpersonal relationships and is criticized in behavior, but also allows itself to form a kind of habitual psychological thinking, which affects mental health.
The Heart of Desire. Desire, it seems, is innate to human beings, and from a certain point of view, the driving force of life is desire, just like living for desire. Need food, a good living environment, reputation, status, etc. If there are too many desires, so much that they cannot realize their own abilities, or if they are illegitimate desires that do not conform to ethics, morals, laws and regulations, it will be pain, despair, and even disaster.
In short, the mind is not chaotic, the behavior is not chaotic, the heart is right, and the behavior is harmonious. Reduce some improper desires and grow mentally healthy.