It was a special day when my husband and I hosted a full moon wine for our precious son. The house was filled with a festive atmosphere, and relatives and friends came to congratulate and send them full of blessings and gifts. My husband and I are filled with joy and gratitude, and we are so happy that our son has so many people who care for him.
However, in the midst of this joyous atmosphere, something happened that made me feel uncomfortable. After the banquet, the daughter-in-law Xiaoli suddenly offered to take away the gift money. I was stunned, I didn't expect her to make such a request. The money was from friends and family, and we originally planned to buy toys and clothes for our son as a souvenir of his growth.
On the one hand, I understand that Xiaoli may also have her considerations, after all, she is a member of our family and should have the right to participate in the management of the family's financesOn the other hand, I am reluctant to give money that represents the blessings of my family and friends. It bothered me a lot, and I didn't know how to deal with it so that everyone was happy.
So, I decided to talk to Xiaoli. One quiet evening, I invited her to my room, ready to communicate with her. I first expressed my understanding of her, telling her that I understood her idea of wanting to be involved in the management of the family's finances. Then I explained to her the meaning of the money, telling her that it represented the blessings and love of family and friends, and that we had planned to buy toys and clothes for our son as a souvenir of his growth.
Xiaoli listened to my words and was silent for a while. She looked at me with understanding and apology in her eyes. She told me that she had offered to take the gift money because she had heard that some families would take a lot of money for weddings or full moon wines, and she thought we would have a lot of it and wanted to help manage it. She admits that she didn't think about the meaning behind the money and is very sorry.
Hearing Xiaoli's words, I felt a sense of relief in my heart. I understand that she also has good intentions, but is not aware of the sensitivity of the issue. So, I came up with a solution where we could discuss how to use the money to fulfill her wishes without hurting the feelings of her friends and family.
Xiaoli happily accepted the offer, and we began to discuss together how to use the gift money. Eventually, we decided to use some of the money to buy toys and clothes for our son, and the other to buy some necessities for the family to make our lives better.
Through this communication, the relationship between me and Xiaoli has become more harmonious. We learned to understand each other better, respect each other's opinions, and work together to find solutions to problems. This incident made me understand that communication and understanding between family members is the key to solving problems, and only through sincere communication can we find a solution that satisfies everyone.
Now, whenever I see my son playing with a new toy or putting on a new clothes, I think of that special day and how I spent the gift money with Xiaoli. Those memories made me feel warm and happy, and made me understand the importance of family harmony.