How to choose your spouse

Wen Shaojin Miaohan.

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I'm Shao Jin Miaohan, a sentiment analyst, let me touch your heart with my story and bring you some spiritual comfort.

There is always a choice between people, whether it is a spouse, a friend, or who we are brothers and sisters with, it is our own choice. Every choice will correspond to an outcome, and the good or bad is in a flash.

Let's not talk about anything else, let's talk about how we choose our spouse, after all, the spouse determines the quality of our life in the future, and if the choice is not good, there will be constant chicken flying and dog jumping.

So the question is, how to choose a spouse?How can I be happier?

Let's take a look at what fan Liu Zhiyuan said about this question?

Zhiyuan said: "My wife and I are an arranged marriage, the relationship lacks foundation and trust, some difficult, and my wife likes to read and Xi, I like to play games, a quarrel, my wife thinks I am not doing my job, I work hard until late at night, come back to the table without food, she has slept well, at that moment, I feel that I am really too bitter, why should other people's wives be considerate?My family is not even as good as a stranger. Later, I told my sister about this, and my sister called me and my wife together to persuade her, and at that moment, I realized that my wife looked down on me, and disliked my low level of education, and disliked that I had no common language with her, you know?At that moment, I was broken and helpless, I worked hard with physical strength, just to give her a good life, but she disliked me in every way, and this marriage also came to an end, at this time, I realized that if I want to be happy in marriage, I must find a person who is willing to pay for my family, and I will be happy, find the wrong person, marriage is really a grave, and there is no way to experience the happiness of marriage. ”

So how to choose?I would like to summarize three aspects.

First, you must have your own opinions

Do you have the experience of blind dates, not that as long as the marriage arranged by the parents should be resisted, but to see whether the person chosen by the parents and themselves is suitable, at this time you have to have your own ideas, if the other party's conditions are good, there is no problem with the character, you can try to get along first, you can't run in, you can be very assertive and generous to break up with each other, and it will not hurt the face of your parents, if you don't have your own opinions, listen to your parents and marry, if it's not good, you still complain that your parents didn't choose a good person, so you give the complaints to your parents, hurt the relationship with your parents。

You must know that the so-called assertiveness is to know how to measure, to do things, to have your own ideas, to do what you want, not to marry to have your own attitude instead of complaining about your parents, if you marry, you must have self-confidence and attitude, so that the spouse does not dare to snub himself, and the marriage will be happy.

2. Choose people who have the same views or can tolerate themselves

The most commendable thing between people is to be able to tolerate the person who can run in with themselves, and the three views are also the same, wouldn't it be happier and more satisfied, if you don't meet someone who is consistent with your three views in this life, then find a person who can tolerate yourself and understand your three views. For example, you say I want to travel, and your husband says that traveling is too tiring and boring, so let's not go!At this time, you will feel that your three views are inconsistent, and you will be awkward, and then if you don't handle it well, the marriage will be over, but if your husband's three views are inconsistent with you, but he said okay, I'll buy a ticket and we'll go, although he is very tired and hates a place with a lot of people, but for you to be happy, he is willing to accompany him, then such a person is willing to run in with you, and with such a person will also have a happy marriage.

The world is very big, there are really few people with the same three views, if you meet a good cherish, you can't meet someone who tolerates you is also a happy thing in life.

3. Look at each other's original family

There is also an important point, the choice of spouse must look at the original family, because the original family has a fatal impact on the child's behavior Xi, his parents have the idea of preference for sons, he must also have, and if their family is always his mother has the final say, then he probably has a higher probability of mother-in-law boy, choose such a spouse, if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have serious contradictions, there is a high probability that he will abandon you, such a marriage is not happy. On the contrary, if the original family relationship is harmonious, the father is assertive, and the mother is knowledgeable, then their children are not bad, which is a good choice.

Wrapping up

Why the divorce rate is very high now, in fact, it is related to the person we chose at the beginning, if we were very rational at the time, there would not be an unhappy marriage, so the happiness of marriage must be the choice of the spouse, and we should be cautious.