Venerable Hongyi said, "It is impossible for one to be right in every step, so you don't have to look back and don't criticize yourself at that time. We must always believe that the road we take, the people we meet, and the regrets we leave behind should all be experienced, and we can't help but be right or wrong, and we don't need to be sad. ”
Life is not perfect, it is always full of shortcomings and regrets, and it is precisely because of this that we can gradually improve ourselves and improve our ability to discover and solve problems.
Looking back, we often regret that the choices we made were not perfect, but in fact, each stage of the choice was based on the circumstances we were in at that time, and it was the best choice for us at that moment.
Time flies, things change, and everything is constantly changing. We don't need to dwell on the regrets of the past, let alone blame ourselves. Because every decision has its specific timing, it is better to learn to accept it and cherish the moment.
Mr. Yang Jiang once said: "You don't have to stand at the age of 50, regret the life of the 30-year-old, and don't have to stand at the age of 30, regret the love of the 17-year-old, we can't stand at the height of the future, to judge yourself back then, this is not fair, if you want to do it again, with the mind and experience at that time, you will still make the same choice." ”
We often feel dissatisfied with our past selves and regret our decisions and actions, and this entanglement makes it impossible for us to get rid of. However, this kind of regret is unwise, because criticism of oneself will only lead to greater suffering.
We should accept our past selves, even if the choices we made at the time may not have been perfect. After all, our minds are tempered and matured through constant experience. The past self represents our past, and it is normal for the past to be backward.
Only by examining ourselves from different stages and perspectives can we truly understand our own value and significance. Otherwise, judging one's past self only by the standards of the present is not in line with the laws of nature.
When we truly understand this, we will understand that each stage of life has its own unique mind and experience that leads us to make different choices.
In fact, even if there is a chance to go back to the past, most people will still make the same choice when faced with a choice. Therefore, for the past, there is no need to be too entangled, so that you can get out of the dilemma of internal friction, better live in the present, and move towards the future.
Don't let the past haunt you, because over time, you will doubt yourself, which in turn will lead to lack of confidence.
Instead of feeling guilty and remorseful about the past, it is better to hold on to those things that have passed.
When you calm down, you will understand that the past is a foregone conclusion, and what you do now will not help. To forgive one's past self is to achieve one's present self.
We all have our own growth paths, and we all correct ourselves in the process of making mistakes. Accepting one's imperfections and allowing one's shortcomings is also a necessary path to maturity.
We should see our past experiences as a foreshadowing for a better life in the future, rather than easily criticizing or denying our former selves.
The more you refuse to let go, the more you fall into the whirlpool of memories, the more difficult it is to extricate yourself, the more confused and helpless you will be, until you lose the direction to move forward.
So, accept your past self and cherish your present self at the same time. Give yourself a chance to start over and embrace reality.
We need to learn to reflect on our past words and actions, learn from them, and keep a sense of normalcy so that we can better face the future.
As Feng Zikai said: "If the heart is big, the matter will be small, and if the heart is small, the matter will be big." ”
From this moment on, not thinking about the past, not being afraid of the future, and letting go of the obsession with the past, this is the true maturity of life.
Life cannot be won every step of the way, but every step is a mark of our growth. Everything in the past is not entirely wrong, but it is just a choice we made in our minds and cognitions at the time.
Therefore, no matter what we have been through, we don't have to regret it, we don't have to demand perfection.
Reconcile with yourself, accept yourself in each period with a normal heart, and let the past become a beautiful prologue to the future.
Only by leaving everything in the past in the past, cherishing the present, and embracing the future can we have a better tomorrow.
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