After my sister got married, she didn't have anything to do with her family for 20 years, and she didn't come forward on the day of her mother's death
It was another year of early winter, and after several bus trips, I finally returned to my familiar hometown. In this village, most of the residents are elderly, while young people have moved to the city to make a living, and the old people who remain have begun to fight against time.
The old house sits at the end of the village, and the old house that holds countless memories of my childhood is now empty. Cobwebs were everywhere, the weeds in the yard grew higher than my waist, the newspapers on the windows were torn, and the roof tiles were crumbling, announcing the passage of time.
I parked my luggage in the yard of the old house, picked up a dusty broom from the corner, and began to clean the inside and outside of the old house. Then, I dragged my luggage to a grave in the backyard of the old house and knelt down.
Today is the death day of my mother, I am 56 years old this year, and my mother has been dead for 20 years. My father left home when we were very young, and it is said that he was out of town, but he did not return home for so many years.
The mother was an ordinary rural woman with little education and no means to make money. She has been working in the fields all her life, and with her hard hands, she raised me and my sister in that one-third of an acre.
My mother was kind all her life, and when she was young, she was not favored by fate, but when she was old, she suffered from illness. Even though 20 years have passed, I still can't forget my poor mother at that time.
The torture of illness made her a haggard old lady. Holding my mother's shriveled hands, I had in my mind the scene of my mother using her broad arms to create a childhood for me and my sister.
Tears gradually filled my eyes, looking at the grassy grave in front of the grave and the dead leaves on the ground, but I didn't see another sister who was also raised by my mother.
I took out my phone and called my sister's **, she seemed to be waiting for my ** for a long time, and it was quickly connected.
Before she could speak, I hurriedly said, "Sister, today is Mom's death day, and we have agreed that when we are 20 years old, we will come back to see Mom together, clean up the house together, and get together in the old house." Aren't you coming back this year?”
* The sister on the other end was silent for a moment, and I vaguely heard her sobbing, but after a while, her voice became firm: "Xiuhong, your brother-in-law and I are traveling abroad now, and I won't go back." If you have this heart, talk to your mother. ”
Hearing my sister's words, I trembled with anger, "Sister, it's been 20 years since my mother died, and you haven't come back to see your mother once?"When I was a child, my mother loved you the most, and the new clothes for the New Year were given to you first. When you were sick, it was your mother who carried you for more than 20 miles to the hospital in the town to snatch you back from the clutches of death.
Mom is so good to you, but you never came back. Yes, you are doing well now, but you were born and grew up in Si, how can you forget your roots?”
Okay, don't talk about it. I'm really abroad, and when I come back, I want to go. ”
* My sister's voice faded away, and I noticed that she seemed to be about to hang up**, and quickly said, "Sister, I know that you haven't gone abroad at all." It's been 20 years and you haven't been back once. If you don't come back this time, our sisterhood will be broken!”
After saying that, I resolutely hung up **, this time my sister's attitude made me really angry, and I also made up my mind to cut off the relationship with my sister.
I'm 56 years old this year, and my sister is two years older than me, 58 years old.
When my mother passed away 20 years ago, my sister was going through the pain of divorce. The mother, who was lying on the hospital bed, saw her sister gradually losing weight for a marriage, and the pain in her heart had surpassed the physical torture.
Although her mother was the most in need of care, she held her sister's hand tightly and said, "A woman has more than love in this life. I was also sad when your father left the house. But life goes on. If we keep grieving for that unworthy person, how will we live our lives in the future?
Kids, cheer up. Didn't you young people say?You can't hang yourself from a tree. There is not just one man in the world. Open your mind and relax. Mom believes that you will soon usher in the next fate. ”
However, despite her mother's persuasion, her sister did not listen. She washed her face with tears all day long, ignoring her mother's physical condition and only caring about her own pain.
Personally, I have to take care of my own small family, and I have to take time to take care of my mother, and I have a hard time every day.
Three days before she died, she put her thin hand on my arm and said word by word: "Xiuhong, although you are a younger sister, you two sisters are obedient to you." Sometimes you're like a sister. I've been lying in bed for more than half a year, and you've worked hard to take care of me. The pain in my body is bearable, but the pain in your sister's heart is hard to relieve. Don't stay in front of your bed these days, go and accompany your sister. ”
But Mom. Maybe it was because I wasn't happy to see me, and my mother's originally smiling face quickly collapsed. "You two are mother's babies, only if you two are good, I can rest assured. Besides, my mother's sick mother knows it herself. I'm afraid I won't be able to survive this winter. In the future, there will be only two of you sisters left in this family, and the two of you will need to take care of each other. ”
In desperation, I had to talk to my sister as my mother wished.
My sister's mood is getting worse day by day, and I can't understand why my sister, who was originally cheerful, became so depressed after experiencing a marriage change. And my sister's ex-husband is not an outstanding person, just an ordinary factory worker.
The two often quarrel after marriage, and I don't understand what to be nostalgic for such an ex-husband.
Faced with my sister's situation and my mother lying in the hospital bed, the pent-up emotions in my heart suddenly exploded, and I said, "Can you cheer up, what is there to be sad about divorce." Mother is so sick now that she needs someone to take care of her, but you are looking for trouble here, get up, get up quickly!”
I took my sister to my mother's bed, and my sister suddenly fell in front of my mother and cried loudly.
In desperation, I had no choice but to bring my sister home again.
I don't know why my sister became like this, and when I saw that the persuasion was fruitless, I stopped paying attention to it and took care of my mother wholeheartedly.
My mother's condition suddenly improved, and she regained some of her spirits, got up to cook for our sister, and hugged her sister and talked a lot.
Maybe it was because she saw that her sister's condition had improved, and her mother also had a long-lost smile on her face.
I thought my mother's condition would improve, but I didn't expect it to be a short-term improvement.
The next night, my mother's condition took a turn for the worse, and she lay on the bed like a leaky ball, never to get up. Until the moment she closed her eyes, her mother was still talking about her sister.
And the sister who was most concerned about her mother left with a man the day after her mother's death, and she didn't even help deal with her mother's funeral, so she left her hometown.
I heard that my sister has found new happiness again, this man is the ** of an institution in the city, and he takes special care of his sister, and the two even entered the palace of marriage within two days of acquaintance.
While I was happy for my sister's second happiness, I was also chilled by my sister's attitude towards my mother.
In my opinion, my sister seems to be extremely selfish and only cares about herself, and she doesn't care about her mother's illness, and she doesn't even bother to worry about what is going on after her death.
So, I took care of my mother's funeral by myself. For the next 20 years, I took the initiative to visit my mother every year.
As for her sister, she didn't show up once. 20 years ago, after she remarried that **, she almost cut off contact with me, and there was no other communication except for holiday greetings.
The relationship between us seems to stay between the circle of friends, I watch her bask about her life every few days, she lives in a luxurious big house, she doesn't have to go out to work, she can live a privileged life every day, and even go out to travel every three months.
My sister, who is now about to turn 60, looks like a woman in her early 40s under the nourishment of this life, and I myself already look old. The two of us are standing together now, and I'm afraid that there is a generation apart.
It's true that she's living a good life, but it's wrong that she forgets her and no longer cares about her mother, who is still thinking about her on her deathbed.
It was drizzling in the sky, and the overcast weather cast a shadow over my mood. I cleaned my mother's grave, then knelt down in front of the grave and kept telling her what was in my heart.
Suddenly, the clouds were thick, and I reluctantly stood up, took an umbrella in front of the grave, and walked in the direction of the old house.
As soon as I arrived at the door of the old house, a white private car drove this way. When the car stopped, a gray-haired but still radiant man got out of the car, and a woman got out of the passenger seat.
I watched in amazement at the scene in front of me, the woman looked familiar, a bit like my sister, but in my impression of her for 20 years, my sister should be a well-groomed and elegantly dressed woman.
However, the woman in front of her was skinny, pale, and her eyes looked hollow, which was completely different from her sister in **.
She was supported by the man next to her and walked slowly towards me.
It wasn't until I got closer that I exclaimed softly, "Sister!".”
The elder sister nodded faintly, and then looked up at the old house, her body began to tremble, and soon she couldn't help crying.
Not long after, my sister fell to the ground, crying and convulsing.
I was shocked to see my sister's condition, even though I hadn't seen her for 20 years, I quickly squatted down to ask my sister about her condition.
The man next to my sister took something out of his pocket and stuffed it into her mouth, and it took a while for my sister to slowly return to normal.
I turned my inquiring gaze to the man, and he muttered for a long time before he spoke: "I didn't want to bring your sister back, but after you called the **, she insisted on coming, and she couldn't stop it." She shouldn't have come. ”
In the man's narration, I finally learned the truth 20 years ago.
It turned out that before and after my mother's death, my sister had been diagnosed with depression, and she had already been admitted to the hospital at that time, explaining that her marriage to ** was just her way to appease me and cover up her true condition. Although she can't control her emotions, in order not to worry me, she turned herself into another image, and the life photos posted in it are all fictional.
For many years, I always thought that my sister was living a privileged life because she was married to **, and disdained to associate with me, an ordinary person, or that she had long forgotten the family affection in her hometown. However, I didn't know that she had been deeply struggling with her trauma.
The man sighed and said, "Your sister's illness is capricious and has never been cured. At first she was caught in the horns of a bull because of the pain of her last marriage, but she barely got out of her emotional distress after my appearance. However, after her mother's death, she fell into a cycle of death again. ”
For so many years, your sister has been blaming herself, she thinks she is at fault, if she wasn't too fragile back then, she wouldn't have only cared about her own pain and not been by her mother's side in time. She didn't even have time to deal with her biological mother's funeral before she went to the hospital. You said that she hasn't been back for 20 years, that's because you don't know, except for today every year, she hasn't come back, and she has secretly come back many times at other times......This is a sad place for her, and her mother is both warm and the most fragile knot for her. ”
With that, I turned my eyes to my sister, who had calmed down, but still remembered her mother.
Looking at my sister's appearance, it's hard for me to imagine how she has spent all these years. Now, 20 years later, I finally understand the reason for my sister's mood change.
My sister's state made me afraid to stay in the old house anymore, so I sent my sister to the car with the man.
As I was leaving, I subconsciously glanced back at the old house.
Although the sky was overcast, the old house turned out to be the brightest star.
The farther I went, and when I looked back, I seemed to see my gray-haired mother, standing at the door of the old house, looking at us, waving at us, and saying with a smile: "As long as you two sisters are good, everything is fine ...... Mom."”
After leaving the old house that day, I accompanied my sister to the ward where she lived, hugged my sister and said a lot of thoughtful words.
I always thought that my sister didn't care about us, but now I realize that it has always been me who uses my own subjective concepts to judge everything, but I don't know the sourness that my sister has silently endured behind her back.
Since then, I have visited my sister from time to time, maybe my companionship has played a role, or maybe my sister really figured it out, and then my sister was discharged from the hospital and lived happily ever after with that man.
As a result, I understand that everyone loves people differently, and I shouldn't ask others in my own way.