Have you ever had an experience?I always feel that ** is not right, as if it has been calculated.
But the other party smiled again, as if he had no intention at allI think I'm cautious, but I feel weird if I don't care.
If you feel this way, it's mostly the other personReally deliberately taking advantage of you, how to judge and respond more accurately?is the focus of this article.
The premise of this article is that you are already very uncomfortable and want to know if the other party did it on purpose, and if you don't feel it at all and don't care, you naturally don't need to judge.
Most of the people who care about it don't usually like to take advantage of others, but they don't want to be taken advantage of either.
Because he is honest with people, he doesn't want the other party to calculate himself, and he wants to believe that he didn't mean it, but he has been born many times.
For example, if you are driving, give money to the other party and ask him to go to the supermarket to help you buy things, but he always refuses to pay you back the money he finds.
At this time, you are embarrassed to ask him, because the money is small, and you have been driving him to work, but he has never mentioned that he wants to share the gas money.
In the past, a classmate in high school always offered to help me buy things, and because he often went to buy them, I asked him to buy them, and he would come to me every now and then.
Later, when I compared it with the classmate who bought the same thing, I learned that the ** he reported was more expensive, and if there was a gift, he would take it himself.
In fact, he asked for a service fee, and we wouldn't give it back, but he shouldn't add it himself.
After many times, I figured out how he could be so enthusiastic when he was stingy on weekdays, it turned out that he didn't care about itMake a small profit every time.
There are also couples who say that you pay for the meal, and he pays for other expenses, and when he arrives at the restaurant where he should have paid for the meal in advance, he arrives first, and when you want to leave at the end, the boss asks you to pay.
It turned out that he deliberately told the boss that he had no money and paid after the mealFind a way to be afraid of overpaying.
There are also many small situations, such as you help him buy online, and when he comes to pick up the goods and pay, he erases the fraction himself.
He helps everyone order food, and you need to find money for the money you give, but he doesn't find it for you.
I ordered something to eat together, and he said that he had no change and asked you to pay him first, but in the end he didn't give it to you.
In short, in any case, the other party isThere won't be a complete give-all for youtimes, but alwaysVaguely taking advantage of you.
OrHe pays far less than he takes advantage of you, he knows that he clearly wants you to pay, and you don't want to pay so much, so justForcing you to pay in a way that is designed.
If it's just an occasional thing, it may be unintentional, but it's like this every time, plus his usual personality is very petty and calculating, that's mostly right.
It's not that you're too careful, it's that there's something wrong with him.
When you obviously feel that the other party is taking advantage of you, and in a roundabout way, you still want to maintain a good image, so that you can't guess.
Then you have to pay attention, this person may be extremely scheming, and it is likely that he will harm you when he has the opportunity in the future.
The person who clearly wants to take advantage is quite calm, and you at least have the opportunity to choose, but the one who hides and takes advantage of it in this way is calculating.
A lot of times it's a small amount of money, but a frank person isNot even a small amount of money will be taken up.
If he really forgot to give it because he was big, then there will always be times when he forgot to ask you for money.
If you always forget to give money, and never forget to ask you for money, it is by no means a big deal.
When you have this uncomfortable feeling, it's time to stay away from the other party, which depends on the ** rate, and can't be decided at one time.
BecauseIf you go back and forth, you will definitely be more uncomfortableI don't know when he will calculate you again.
At first it was small money, then it was big money. What should you do when you encounter such a person?
For example, when you go to a high-end restaurant to eat and say that you want to be invited, but when you want to check out, he says that he didn't bring any money, can you not pay?
Don't be afraid of losing face at this time, just pay your own share, and he will ask him to collect the money.
If it's the money he should pay, such as the gas money for a trip together, you want him to pay it clearly, and you don't have to wait for him to take the initiative.
After a few times, you may find that he is alienated from you, because there is nothing to take advantage of you.
This is to protect yourself from big losses in the future.
If you are not sure how the other party is, you can pay each of them first, then it will be no problem, don't help him advance money, don't lend him money, and then observe.
Deniedis the best way to protect yourself.
If you don't feel like it's okay and don't feel like you're at a loss, it's okay to keep coming and going.
I've seen people who take advantage of others for a long time, because they are very good at giving emotional value, and they still have a lot of friends.
We are often afraid of misunderstanding each other and losing a good friend, but we forget that sincere people will not give you so many opportunities for "misunderstanding".
He wouldn't let it happen at all, and I'm sure some people are confused, but they don't always get confused when they take advantage of it, and they are shrewd when they suffer.
With calm people, you won't have so many uncomfortable opportunities at all, let alone keep wondering if you're too careful.
They are also deeply afraid of taking advantage of you, like every time they borrow something from someone, they will definitely return it quickly, just for fear that the other party will be uncomfortable.
It is even more impossible to deliberately borrow and not pay it back, or design someone else to pay for me, pretend to forget to bring money, etc.
People don't like the feeling of being calculated, and if he calculates you, it means that he is not afraid of losing you.
If it was someone who had a big influence on him, he wouldn't dare to do it, for fear of breaking off the relationship.
He's not afraid of losing you, and you're afraid of misunderstanding himWhen it feels weird, it's time to stop the loss.
This is not to teach you to ask someone for something you borrow immediately, or that the other party must pay you back the money quickly so that they don't take advantage of you, butRemind you to be observant.
Seeing what the other person really thinks is the only way to create a truly interactive and good relationship, rather than living in a fantasy and ending up disappointed.
The best state is of course youI don't care at all, and don't think about it, your mindfulness will protect you, and in the laws of the universe, he deliberately took advantage of it, and someone will pay you back.
But if you can't help it, you don't have to push yourself, just learn to observe the other person deliberately, and he is the person you need to pay special attention to.
Finally, I would like to remind everyoneDon't have the idea of taking advantage of others, because in terms of cause and effect and the law of attraction, you can't take advantage of anyone.
It's all about repaying, for example, the other party is far away from you because of this, but he would have given you a chance to make money, and you lost it because you wanted to take advantage of him in the first place.