In the world of relationships, the age difference has always been a topic that has been repeatedly mentioned by people. Some people think that it is best for couples to be the same age, because they have a common topic and can talk about it;Some people think that old husbands and young wives are happier because men mature late;Some people also say that the combination of sibling love is more stable.
There are also many people who feel that age is not a problem, as long as there is love, everything can be overcome. But marriage is different from love after all, when you are in love, you see that the other party is full of advantages, and there are not too many worries, in addition to love in life after marriage, there are many trivial daily life.
When choosing marriage, everyone wants to find a reliable partner, so many people will consider age when choosing a partner. How complicated married life was once a complicated issue.
But countless realities are in front of you, no matter how passionately you once loved each other, it wasn't when you broke up.
Holiday. So what is the optimal age difference between husband and wife?
According to relevant studies, the age difference between husband and wife is 5-8 years old, and men are older than women, so the marriage relationship is relatively happy and the most stable.
A lot of people are saying it now"3 years old is a generation gap"., I think that if there is a difference of 3 years old, the two of them will not be able to talk together, and the difference of 5-8 years old will be even more useless. This does happen, but in general, men are older than women and have a certain advantage in marriage.
First of all, it is more compatible in terms of mental age.
Generally speaking, the pace of maturation is not the same between men and women, and women mature earlier than men. Everyone should have a deep understanding in life, just give an example.
For example, when we earn our first salary, we women may prepare a gift for our parents, but what do men do about it?They think more about themselves, buy themselves a game console, buy something to eat, and few men will think about buying something for their parents.
This situation is the same even after marriage, many men are still very naïve when they have children, not only do they not realize that they have become a father, but they may not even be able to do a good job in the role of husbands. This is also one of the reasons why the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is prominent in many families.
If the man is 5-8 years older than the woman, the psychological age of the two will be more appropriate, and the tacit understanding between the two will be more suitable. Especially after getting married and having a baby, a man's sense of responsibility comes up, and he can quickly enter a new identity. I have several couples around me, the men are slightly older than their wives, and they are all doing well after marriage.
Second, older men are more tolerant.
Older men have more experience, so they will naturally be more mature and emotionally stable than people of the same age. That way, when you quarrel, he won't have to fight with you, and he won't have to fight you, and the problems between you won't escalate.
And men are naturally protective of weak people, isn't there a saying"Older men feel sorry for people".In the process of getting along, he will take responsibility for himself and take care of his partner.
Isn't it better for us women to fall in love and get married just to make our lives better, so wouldn't it be better to choose an older partner who will hurt people?Some people may say that "a woman has cat nature, and whoever is good to her, she will go with whomever she wants".
But to be honest, this is actually a kind of discrimination against women. From another point of view, who doesn't want to find someone who is good to them, does it have to be abused?
Also, the economic conditions will be more suitable.
Compared with men of the same age, slightly older men will have a certain economic foundation after a few more years in society.
I know that when it comes to this, some sororities may refute it"I love this person, not his money?”I know that sisters are after love, but it is not a conflict. What's more, we are"Social man"., always have to live, no matter what, the economy cannot be bypassed.
I have a friend who had a boyfriend of the same age in college. Campus love is always beautiful, the two of them are sweet at the beginning, usually in class at eight in the morning, boys will always buy breakfast and wait downstairs, and the two are indispensable for dating on weekends, which makes people around them envious. But in their senior year, when they were about to graduate, they broke up because of work and financial problems, which is very regrettable.
Later, when my friend was working, I met my current husband, who was five years older than her, and his relationship was very harmonious, and he didn't need to worry about the economy. Now a family of four, life is happy.
Although it is said that there is an optimal age difference, it is actually more important to manage the marriage. In real life, there are many couples who are not the best age difference, some are the same age, some are a few years apart, and some are even dozens of years apart, but they still live very happily.
So you can't kill a boatload of people with a shot, if you are already in a marriage, then manage your marriage well, don't always complain about your partner, regret your original choice,"Why did I fall blind to him in the first place?”Instead of complaining about marriage and finding problems from others, it is better to reflect on yourself, is it the wrong way to run your marriage?