I signed an agreement before marriage, and after 5 years, I left the house and divorced, but I would like to call it lucky
Three years after marrying Wang Lijie, we ushered in the arrival of a baby. Due to my mother-in-law's poor health, my mother came from her hometown to take care of me during confinement.
Two months later, my mother returned to her hometown, and before the baby was born, I had already chosen to quit my job and agreed on a division of labor with Wang Lijie: I was responsible for taking care of the children at home, and he was responsible for raising the family. The assignment of work is clear and clear, and each performs its own duties. However, life is lived, why does it always make people feel like they have to be on fire all the time?
Go put a bath water on the baby, she pulled, I want to change the diaper. I shouted in the bathroom.
Wait a minute......His voice came, leisurely and unhurried.
Hurry up, I'll have to cook in a moment. "My voice became hoarse, and I didn't have enough time every day, especially since it was Sunday, and I thought that his life would be easier when he was at home, but it turned out to be busier.
Wait a minute, it'll be right away. He responded.
I feel a feeling that I am about to **, today the baby has diarrhea, I have fed her the medicine powder provided by the hospital, and I need to keep an eye on the situation at all times to prevent it from becoming serious. After changing his diaper, he was still brushing his phone with his hand.
In the past two days, the baby has diarrhea, and you can see that I am busy ......Can't you help?"I put my baby on the cot and looked at him with a wave of anger.
I've been quite busy this week, and I want to take a good break on the weekends. He stood up and walked into the bedroom.
I was left alone to take the child to take a bath, put the baby back in the cot after the bath, and pushed the cot to the study, where he had already turned on the computer.
I didn't want to say more, I just said coldly, "Look at it, I'll go cook." ”
During the meal, I didn't say a word, and he broke the silence halfway through eating: "I said to ask an aunt to help, but you don't agree." ”
I put down my chopsticks and looked at him: "You figure out the situation, even if there is an aunt here, you should be involved in these things." ”
He was silent, and when he finished eating, he said, "What are you busy with at home all day, I am also very tired, and I want to rest well on the weekend." ”
I stared at him and felt that his question was really incredible: "365 days a year, when have I ever rested?".I'm busy taking care of the baby all day long, buying groceries, laundry, cooking, and cleaning”
He put down his job, walked into the bedroom, looked back and said, "It's unreasonable. ”
I was so angry that I felt confused there alone.
In the evening, after coaxing the baby to sleep, I chatted with my best friend Qiqi on WeChat for a while. At this time, Wang Lijie was happily playing games on the computer in the study.
Me: "Looking at his lazy appearance today, I really don't have the courage to live like this anymore." ”
Kiki: "Don't have the courage?".The path you choose is to climb and you have to climb down. "She's always been outspoken.
Me: "What do you mean by that?"”
Kiki: "Friendly reminder: you signed a prenuptial agreement for love, if you don't have a relationship with him, you may be swept away, and you won't even be able to fight for the custody of your daughter." ”
Me: "....Kiki: "Don't have anything to say, huh?"”
Kiki's words were like locks, instantly locking my mood. She was right.
Before I got the certificate, Wang Lijie came to me and said, "Our family has some property, five suites, two cars, and my father has a small factory. My mom was more worried, and she suggested that we sign a prenuptial agreement, so that if there is a conflict in the future, it will be clear. I know you're not here with me for the money, but my mom ......She's a little worried, what do you think?”
At that time, I didn't even think about it, and directly agreed: "I don't care about these things, since your mother has concerns, just do what she asks." I didn't earn it myself, and I don't want it. ”
At that time, Wang Lijie looked at me gratefully and said, "You are so good." ”
Yes, I didn't think too much about it at that time, I was very satisfied with Wang Lijie, he was good-looking, he was the leader of the development team in a large Internet factory, and his family conditions were not bad.
I yearn for the life of a husband and children after marriage, dress up beautifully every day, go shopping in my spare time, drink afternoon tea, and enjoy the life of lying flat, which is the life I have been looking forward to for a long time.
However, why did I live my life like a chicken feather after marriage?Moreover, even if I quarrel and get angry, I don't even dare to mention divorce.
I sent a WeChat message to Qiqi: "These days are getting more and more heartwarming, you say, why is this happening?."”
Kiki: "The reason is very simple, because you don't have the capital to divorce. ”
Me: "Why?".”
Kiki: "An unemployed married woman is divorced, where does she live?"What do you live on?To put it mildly, you may not even be able to pay for a hotel, let alone have the courage to file for divorce. ”
WeChat fell silent again, Qiqi's words made me feel helpless in reality, and indeed as she said, if I really divorced, I wouldn't even have a place to live.
This thought made my back feel a chill, and I have been quarreling with Wang Lijie more and more frequently recently, and some of the words he said echoed in my mind: "I don't know what to be busy with all day long, I am tired all day long, I have to support you, am I not tired?".You only know that you want money, you have to plan to spend money, that's RMB, not orange peel, it's something I earned with hard work. ”
I finally understood why I didn't dare to make the fight bigger, even if he said, "You can bring about divorce if you don't want to", I didn't dare to talk back.
As Kiki said, I didn't have the capital to file for divorce, and we signed an agreement before the marriage to clarify the boundaries of our respective property.
Thinking about all this, I felt a deep sense of helplessness, I had to go to work, or I might really be homeless one day.
In the evening, when he came home from work, and we were sitting at the dinner table for dinner, I suddenly said, "In another month, Duoduo will be weaned, and I want to go to work." ”
He asked curiously, "Who will bring Duoduo?"”
I replied, "My mom will come over and take care of her for a while." ”
He said as he picked up the food on his plate, "It's okay if someone brings it." ”
When I was cleaning up the dishes and chopsticks, I said, "You have to help take care of the baby after work, and I will inevitably have something to take care of after work." ”
He sat lazily on the couch and began to play the game: "Let's wait until then." ”
Kiki helped me find a new job as a site supervisor for a beauty chain. The company has just opened and needs some grassroots managers.
After a week of training, I realized that my previous management experience was almost useless here, and the other three supervisors were all young in their 20s, energetic and clear-minded.
On my first day on the job, I felt a sense of crisis, but at the thought that if I failed, I might have to go back to that life, and I was determined to succeed. After all, as someone who has become a mother, I have an advantage that young people don't have.
After I started work, I first familiarized myself with the situation of the store, and then consulted with my former colleagues, who suggested that I first find out the reason for the worst performing store, formulate a feasible rectification plan, and report it to the headquarters.
I asked my colleague, "Is such a plan feasible?"What if the performance declines after rectification?”
My colleague encouraged me: "How do you know if you don't try, you have to try." ”
So, I reaffirmed my resolve and stepped out of my comfort zone. Every day, I went to the pilot store to see which item was not displayed as required, and where there was a deviation in the beauty of the display, I would point out on the spot, and only after seeing that they were in place did I leave. Because I know that for me, I can only go forward, not backward. When I receive my salary every month and see the stacks of RMB, I feel a sense of security.
During this time, Wang Lijie's laziness at home became more and more obvious, I went out early and returned late every day, becoming busier and busier, and my mother was working harder while taking care of the baby.
We often quarrel over the issue of taking care of our baby.
Working overtime today, you go back and give the baby a bath. ”
There was a simple "um" on the other end,* and it was hung up. 
Entering the door with a tired body, I saw that my mother was bathing the baby, she had a cold for the past two days, and I knew that she was struggling to persevere.
couldn't help but rush to the study and witnessed him concentrating on playing games: "Today I said about bathing the baby, didn't you hear?."”
He heard my loud voice, and only then did he lazily raise his head: "Oh, I forgot, isn't it quite busy?".”
I felt angry: "Are you busy?".What are you doing now?Believe it or not, I unplugged it?”
Mom heard me arguing loudly, and walked to the door of the study with Duoduo in her arms: "Okay, okay, don't say any more, let's come out to eat." ”
He muttered, "Make a big fuss." ”
I wasn't in the mood to say anything more, just stared at him.
I'll forget about these things, I'm so busy spinning like a spinning top every day that I don't have time to worry about him.
One day, I was busy in the company, and I received a **, the other party claimed to be Wang Lijie's friend, saying that he borrowed 60,000 yuan a few years ago, and he had not repaid it, and he had to find me for an excuse to be in arrears.
After hanging up, I immediately called ** and asked him what was going on, but he flashed and said that he would go home and talk about it.
When I got home, I asked him, and he said that the two of them borrowed this money together a few years ago, thinking that they could share the gains and losses, but then they both lost, and he himself lost tens of thousands.
I said, "If you borrow money, you have to pay it back, that's how it should be, and your family can afford to pay it back, right?"Why not pay it back?”
He lazily swiped his mobile phone and didn't look at me: "My mother's character, she ** takes out the money to pay it back, unless the sky falls." ”
You have to pay it back. I urged him.
I don't have any money. He said nonchalantly as he swiped through his mobile game.
What about your money?Well, I don't care, what do you like. "I've lost the desire to speak to him.
That night, I sorted out the accounts, only to find out that since I went to work, he hadn't gotten a penny back for a long time, and his money had gone to **?
In the past, he would give me food money every month, but since I went to work, he hasn't taken a penny, and he always says with a hippie smile: "Wife, it's your turn to support me." ”
I was busy, thinking that I would do this first, and then I would ask him to take it together.
However, his friend actually found my company in person, I had no choice but to talk to him privately, he said: "You have to pay back this money, I urgently need money, otherwise I will find your company leaders, Wang Lijie has been unemployed, it is useless to find their company, I can only look for you." ”
He is unemployed?He didn't tell me?When I heard this, I was immediately shocked, obviously I looked leisurely commuting to work every day, why didn't I realize that he was unemployed?
When I got home, I asked him, "You were optimized last month, why didn't you tell me?".”
His expression looked calm, and the hand holding the chopsticks did not stop: "Tell you what to do?."That's not a good thing. ”
Me: "So where have you been during this time, you can help your mother at home." ”
You've got to give me time to adjust, I've got to have a thought process. He said casually as he ate.
Tell me, where have you been this month?I asked.
Just adjust yourself, where can I go, I'll squat at home from tomorrow, okay?He looked at me and looked indifferent.
I was outraged, but I couldn't get angry at someone who had just lost his job.
My work was quickly on the right track, and through my efforts, the performance of both stores improved, and the leaders said that I had a good insight in sales and had a chance to be promoted.
But I urgently need to pay off my debts, I need money urgently, and even if I get promoted, the extra salary will not be able to meet my current needs. I couldn't do anything, he was unemployed now, and the money was urgent.
The baby's milk powder, the family's food expenses, water, electricity, gas, etc., the expenses of a city family, after a month, really made me breathless.
On this day, when I went to inspect the store, a store manager told me that she was going back to the north to get married and wanted to transfer the store. 
I immediately conducted a thorough evaluation of her store and decided that if I could take over the store and run it with care, it should have the potential to be profitable. With this in mind, I consulted with a few friends in the same industry, and they all agreed that I could try it, so I decided to do it without hesitation.
Now, however, the crux of the matter is funding. My deposit is limited and most of the transfer fees are unresolved. I found Wang Lijie to discuss, but he said: "I don't have a job anymore, ** the money I came." ”
During this time, his life consisted of waking up every day, eating, and indulging in mobile games. Whenever I asked my mother if he had helped take care of Duoduo, she always advised me in return: "You have to be more considerate of him, people who are unemployed at home are more tired than people who are busy outside." ”
After listening to my mother's words, I understood that he would not really help her mother take care of her daughter at home. Forget it, this is all self-inflicted, as Kiki said, the path I chose, no matter how difficult it is, I have to stick to it.
Right now, my mind is so full of money that I don't bother to discuss these things with him. With everyone's help, the problem of money was finally solved. Kiki borrowed some here, and my mother gave me all the pension money: "Mom knows that you will definitely do what you decide, I support you, and it is a good thing that you dare to fight." ”
In the midst of intensive preparations, it only took me two months from the transfer of the store to the reopening of the renovation. During this time, I was really busy every day like a spinning top, because I couldn't afford to wait and I couldn't afford to lose.
During this time, I didn't even have the strength to quarrel with him. I've put all my time and energy into the store. Every day when I go home and see that the light in the study is still on, I know that Wang Lijie is still immersed in his game.
Sometimes, before going to bed, I ask him, "Do you have any intention of finding a job?"”
He replied: "How can it be so easy, now the general environment is not good, and this industry is laying off people." ”
I said, "Why don't you come to the store and help first, I'm really too busy here." ”
He replied: "The profession is different, and it is boring to do it." With that, he turned sideways and fell asleep.
I didn't have anything to say, but I felt my chest clog up. How did this happen?
I lay in bed looking at the ceiling in a daze, what about the husband and children I want?What about the flat life I expect?
I looked at the sleeping man next to me, and suddenly felt that this dream was not his reality
It's so ironic.
Maybe God is helping me too, and business is getting better and better since the store was transferred. I put my heart and soul into my work, and I do everything myself.
During this period, two former colleagues joined my team, and they are both business backbones with strong execution ability. After they joined, I did my research and analysis, and I took over two more stores, and I worked harder. Although it is hard every day, the monthly income is unimaginable before.
I looked at the numbers on my bank card and felt a sense of stability. It turns out that money is what gives you a sense of security.
I decided to buy a house and now live in a house in my mother-in-law's name. A few days ago, she came here and told me that it would be demolished in half a year, and now she can see if there is a suitable house outside, and then she will have to move and rent again, otherwise she will not be able to find a good house. I promised her that I would do it as arranged.
Looking at my mother-in-law sitting on the sofa and drinking tea leisurely, looking back now, I was not as shrewd as she was. The house we live in now is in my mother-in-law's name.
The houses under Wang Lijie's name have all been rented out, and the rent is collected by his mother-in-law. Coupled with the prenuptial agreement signed, these properties are all considered prenuptial property, and to put it bluntly, have nothing to do with me.
But in the eyes of outsiders, I became the one who benefited. Seeing that Jiang Mingli married a husband from a wealthy family, Mingli, you are really lucky, at the class reunion, I, who was obviously raising Wang Lijie, became the beneficiary of the marriage. It bothers me, what exactly did I get for myself?
Looking at the mother-in-law and her son, these two people are living a leisurely life in this marriage. And I'm having a hard time in this marriage, what is this going wrong?Thinking of this, I suddenly felt a splitting pain in my head.
Soon, I bought a property, a 150-square-meter fully furnished house in the city center, and at the same time brought my father from my hometown to help take care of my daughter.
Mom said that Duoduo was learning to walk, and she was alone with the baby, and sometimes she was really worried that Duoduo would accidentally fall. Even though life is still hectic every day, I feel a little lighter with my dad's help.
Dad is a retired teacher, meticulous and polite, I bought him the most ** mobile phone as a birthday gift.
That night, my father came to me: "Mingli, next Monday is Lijie's birthday, don't forget to buy him a gift, the unemployed at home feel uncomfortable." ”
I said: "I have been unemployed at home for so long, I hope he can lower his stature a little, think more actively, and start with simple work first, after all, the employment situation is not good now." But he has to be treated the same and have the same position, and in this situation, isn't it quite difficult to find a job?”
Dad said, "Everyone has their own ideas, so don't push him too hard." ”
I said, "The problem is that it's been almost two years, so you can't go on like this, right?"It's not that he can't find a job, but his mind hasn't changed, and he only knows how to play games at home every day and doesn't do anything. ”
Dad watched my voice get higher and lowered: "Okay, don't talk about it, be patient and wait, you will always find a job." ”
I said the final word, his birthday is coming next week, and I still followed my father's reminder to buy the most ** limited edition mobile phone and gave it to him. He was very happy and said that it was more enjoyable to play the game this way. Looking at his smile, I suddenly felt a little sad.
I felt as if something had collapsed in my heart, and it turned out that my man was like this, carefree and living with a smile every day. But doesn't he know that it's all based on my hard work every day?
I gradually became more and more anxious, and although business seemed to be going well, the competition in the mall was fierce, and sometimes I encountered times when the performance was not ideal. Coupled with his recent form, I feel as if I'm about to collapse.
One night a few days ago, before going to bed, I asked him, "Is the company that went for an interview today interested in it?"”
He yawned and said, "The professional counterpart, but people say it's the deputy team leader, and I don't want to." ”
What's wrong with this, you go first to try, if you have the strength and show your achievements, you may not have a chance to be promoted to team leader in the future. "I tried to persuade.
That's not going to work, I'm not going to do this selective wrong thing. He lay down when he had finished speaking.
You've been at home for so long, don't you feel anxious?"I just can't take it anymore.
What's in a hurry, it's at home, and you're there, and you won't starve. He lay down on his own with an indifferent attitude, and soon fell asleep.
I was left alone staring at him, my heart filled with anger.
Do you think he's a bad guy?He has no hobbies, does not indulge in eating, drinking, prostituting and gambling, usually has a smiling face, and does not arouse the disgust of others. Say he doesn't care about his family?He was at home all day, and even accompanied him to the hospital for prenatal checkups, which made other women praise him for being a good man.
But every day when I work my best, I think of the two elderly people in my family waiting for a man with sound limbs, and then I think of him living in the house I bought as a matter of course, wearing the clothes I bought, using the limited edition mobile phone I paid for, living a leisurely life every day, and I still have a peaceful face.
I felt that this was not the life I wanted and that I had to make a decision.
That night, I went into my study and said to him, "Let's get a divorce." ”
This time, he finally pulled away from the game, and the calmness on his face disappeared: "You have a problem with your head, okay, why do you want to divorce?."”
I said, "I've figured it out, I want a divorce." ”
He frowned, his right hand still pressed the mouse button, and the sound of the game's characters fighting could be heard in the computer.
Think I've been at home for a long time?Have you ever considered that if you are unemployed, I will support you as well. He squinted his eyes and said that he would squint when he was nervous.
I said, "If I lose my job, I'll find a new job right away, and I won't let you raise it." ”
He was a little speechless: "Got it, I'll tell my mother." ”
I smiled inwardly, but on the surface I was calm: "Give me a letter tomorrow." ”
Well. He seemed to just say yes and lowered his head to play with the computer.
Back in the room, I had mixed feelings, I told my parents about this idea a few days ago, my mother was silent, and after a while she said to my father: "It seems that our current life has made Lili live too hard." ”
Dad was a traditional man, he thought about it all night, and the next day he said to me, "You can talk to him again, after all, it is a family, and you have to think carefully." ”
The next day, I was at work, and my mother-in-law asked me to eat out at noon, and I knew she must have something to say.
Sure enough, while eating, the old lady said: "You have worked hard during this time, the kid eats and drinks at home all day long, I have told him, ask him to help with housework, it is really not good, it is okay to go to your store to help you." ”
I listened to it and felt that my mother-in-law had a little truth this time, and nodded, and my mother-in-law said again: "Lili, that kid in my family wants to live with you forever, if he does something wrong, he will change it, you give him a little more time, I know you are a reasonable person." My mother-in-law smiled and said, in fact, she was persuading me.
Seeing the old lady lower her posture so much, it made me unable to open my mouth and say that I was determined to divorce or something like that, I am the most soft person who eats hard rather than hard.
So I didn't say anything, but a job ** came in, and a familiar big customer in the store wanted to look for me, so I ended the conversation on the grounds that I was busy with work.
Since this conversation, I can clearly feel that Wang Lijie has changed when I go home, and he has become diligent.
I don't play games anymore, and my parents said that he still went out to buy groceries, and when he came back, he also played with his daughter, and today he also helped sweep the floor.
When my parents told me this, they were very happy, but I had a strange feeling in my heart, wasn't this what he should have done a long time ago?Why do you start to change after saying such a thing as divorce?
Half a month later, my mother-in-law came to me again and said, "Lili, don't blame me, I didn't know you were a real person at the time, so I told Lijie that I had done this thing, and I would always be a little worried about being a mother. ”
As soon as I heard it, this agreement was notarized, how could I say that it would be signed and abolished, and since it was signed at the beginning, why bother to cancel it now.
I thought about it for a while, smiled and said, "Mom, I really don't have this idea, the premarital property should belong to you, you didn't do anything wrong." ”
Hearing what I said, her smile became a little unnatural, and I took advantage of the situation and said, "Mom, the matter between me and Lijie has been decided, and we still have to leave, but let me explain, the reason is not that I care about the prenuptial agreement." ”
Hearing this, the old lady immediately sank her face, stood up and picked up her bag and left, saying as she went, "You are all family members!".You decide for yourself, and I can't control it!”
I looked at her back as she left in a hurry, and it took me a while to recover and hurriedly send a WeChat message to Qiqi: "You poisonous tongue, you really said it, she wants to cancel the agreement." ”
Qiqi replied in seconds: "The old lady is still the same Han you were back then, she will calculate, you have more property now than their family, and this prenuptial agreement is the best gift God has given you." ”
Me: "Indeed, the old lady's eyes were slanted when she looked at me, and she held their money tightly. ”
In the end, Wang Lijie and I divorced, and the divorce procedures were completed quickly because there was no dispute.
I signed a prenuptial agreement when I got married, and after 5 years, I went out of the house and divorced, but I called it lucky.
The daughter belongs to me, and he did not fight with me for his daughter. The house he moved to was bought by me with all the money, and as for the distribution of other property, they all signed a prenuptial agreement, and the agreement on money was very clear, so there was no entanglement
After the divorce, I felt a lot more relaxed. I work during the day and spend more time with my daughter and parents at night, so the family is happy.
My daughter Duoduo has started kindergarten, and during the summer vacation, I decided to take my daughter and her parents to Hainan for a vacation. Standing on the beach, the sunset is shining, watching my parents and their daughter play hand in hand on the beach, listening to my daughter's giggles, I feel very peaceful and happy. It turns out that I can give this kind of life to my daughter myself.
Wang Lijie rarely takes the initiative to visit his daughter, and every time he needs me to contact him. For example, on my daughter's birthday, I will remind him to come over;Or my daughter's kindergarten parent-child activities, I also need to ask him to participate. Only in these cases will he come.
About half a year later, Wang Lijie entered into marriage again. However, he still did not return to work. It is said that this marriage was arranged by the ex-mother-in-law.
Less than half a year after the marriage, the new wife quit her job in the company, and the two began to live a life of playing games at her mother-in-law's house.
This made the old mother-in-law wait for the two of them over and over again, and I heard that the old mother-in-law was forced by them to suffer a cerebral hemorrhage and almost died.
After listening to Wang Lijie's story, my father said with emotion: "Now it seems that we respected your decision at the beginning and was correct. ”
I smiled and said, "Mistakes can be corrected." Choosing the wrong person can also be corrected. Who said that we women must bear the arrangement of fate?”