Zheng Banqiao, who is famous, had a difficult life at the age of 30 and suffered a lot of pain. 40 years old, Nanjing Township Examination lifted people. At the age of 44, he was a tribute in the Ministry of Rites, and participated in the palace examination in May.
In 1744, Zheng Banqiao was 52 years old, then the magistrate of Fan County, and his concubine Rao gave birth to a son. Over fifty years old, he is really old and has a son, and his joy is beyond words. Zheng Banqiao is usually busy with official affairs, so he decided to write a letter to tell the Rao family how to educate this second generation of officials!
Original text] Yu had a son at the age of fifty-two, how can there be no reason not to love!However, love must be in its way, although it is playful, it must be loyal, and there is no urgency. I don't like to raise birds in a cage in my life, I want to be entertained, he is in prison, what is the reason, and must bend the nature of things to suit my nature!As for the dragonfly with hair, the crab is tied to the thread, and it is a children's toy, but it will be broken and killed in a moment. God also loves with his heart, but we can't think of the heart of heaven as my heart, and what will all things do?
Zheng Banqiao said that he has no reason not to love children when he is old!But love is not indulgence, love is the way!Indulge in frolic and play to nurture children's loyalty, and don't let children be mean and impatient. Don't raise birds, don't mutilate dragonflies and crabs, grieve the nature of living beings to be entertained, raise children when they are young, and be merciful to the virtue of heaven and earth!
I am not at home, and my son is under your control. It is necessary to grow his loyalty, drive his cruelty, and not indulge in it for the sake of the Son. His family and children are always ordinary people in heaven and earth, and they should be cherished in general, and they should not be allowed to abuse him. All fish and fruit cakes should be scattered, and everyone will frolic and jump. If my son sits and eats good food, so that the family members stand and look at it from afar, they must not touch their lips and teeth;His parents saw that they took pity on him, and there was nothing they could do, so they called him away, wouldn't it be like cutting off his heart and flesh!
Throughout the ages, mothers have been more worried about their children's education. Zheng Banqiao once again instructed the loyalty of the long-term child. Don't be cruel, never condone. Zheng Banqiao, as the magistrate of the county, has a lot of family members, servants, and children of servants, Zheng Banqiao said that he should treat everyone equally, and he can't let his children be domineering and abuse them. All the fruits of the snack must be distributed equally, if my son sits and eats good things, so that other people's children can only watch from afar, and they will not get a bite. Their parents had no choice but to call their children away, which was not cutting their hearts and ripping their flesh.
It is rare that Zheng Banqiao, who is confused, educates his children only blindly!It is to be loyal, not mean and cruel. How deep the heart can be. A person's mind is like a person's operating system, if the operating system is broken, can the software you carefully selected and installed still work?
Ladies and gentlemen, do we pay attention to the cultivation of children's minds in educating children today?What are the requirements for its character?