Betrayal in love is a terrible injury, and in the face of such injury, many people are often helpless and fall into pain. However, when we are stuck in this situation for a long time, we need to reflect on whether we have problems, including unclear direction or insufficient problem-solving skills. There are a few things we must learn after experiencing emotional betrayal, and only by learning Xi and putting them into practice can we slowly get out of the haze.
We need to learn to bear the hurt of emotional betrayal. Betrayal is arguably one of the deepest hurts in the world of feelings, and it pierces the softest places in our hearts like a sword. However, many people mistakenly expect outside forces to help them heal. The common mistaken mindset is to expect the betrayer to take responsibility for himself, which is really not wrong in principle, but from another point of view, will the person who hurt us really be responsible for us sincerely?We need to realize that a person who can deliberately hurt us does not hurt us.
Another common situation is to pass on anxiety and stress to others and seek to confide in. While confiding in the short term can provide temporary relief from anxiety, it's not a long-term solution. If we don't have the means to take the initiative to emit positive energy and nag and complain all day long, then even our closest relatives and friends will become bored with us. Therefore, instead of relying on others, we must learn to bear everything on our own until we can face these things calmly and silently, and resolve not to mention it to others again, which will be the first step out of the pain.
In fact, learning to heal oneself is a long and difficult process that requires no less effort than the effort to restore the relationship. We need to learn to seal away our hurt and anger and try to find our self-worth in it. Whether it's the ups and downs of mood swings or doubts about others, all of these require patience and perseverance to overcome. Gradually, we will find that we no longer need the company of others to soothe our hearts, we will be able to face our pain alone and eventually come out of the gloom.
Learning to endure everything on our own doesn't mean we have to go it alone. Moderate confiding is an effective way to relieve stress, but it is only a temporary way to deal with pain and does not solve the problem in the long term. Ultimately, we must cultivate our ability to generate positive energy, face adversity positively, and look for opportunities for self-growth. Only through such efforts can we gradually come out of the shadow of betrayal and regain our self-confidence and happiness.
In the face of betrayal, many people often find themselves in the predicament of not being able to make a decision. It seems to be a decision, but in fact it deviates from the true thoughts of the heart. We need to be clear about what a decision really means, and a real decision is a firm and decisive determination that will not waver. If we "decide" to remain in a relationship of betrayal, but we are constantly entangled in contradictions and distraught, it is not a real decision;If we decide to break up, but we are reluctant to face the problems caused by divorce, it cannot be called a real decision, because the decision is not only psychological, but also needs to be put into action.
In the general direction, after the betrayalMarriageThere are usually three options: forgive and continue;End bravelyMarriage；Don't get divorced, but live on your own. All three are positive choices, while negative choices are those that choose to stay and not live welllife。So the point isn'tMarriageThe result is whether we can live well or not. We must understand that whether we leave or not depends on whether we live well or not. Therefore, it is very important to allow yourself to try to act, and only through experience can you have better discovery and growth. Decisions need to be made on our own, and don't rely on others. It is a mistake for many people to hand over the power of decision to the other person and make the choice of others their own precondition.
Yes, everyone has their own values and unique experiences, so the answer will vary from person to person. While the advice of others may be well-intentioned, the final decision must be made by yourself. When we rely on the opinions of others, we are equivalent to letting others lead us by the nose. Therefore, when dealing with betrayal, it is especially important to think clearly that if we always precondition the attitudes, reactions, and decisions of the other person as a precondition for our own decisions, we will always be swayed by the influence of others.
Experiencing emotional betrayal is a great hurt, but in the face of it, we have the ability to bear it all on our own. Learning to heal ourselves and not rely on others for help is the first step in getting rid of our hurts. At the same time, we need to learn to make decisions on our own and not rely on the opinions of others. Everyone has their own values and unique experiences, and we must trust our instincts and choose the path that suits us. When we learn to take the pain and make real decisions, we can gradually move out of the shadow of betrayal and rebuild our own happiness and joy.