My name is Liu Xiaomei, I am 35 years old and I am a stay-at-home mother. I have a 9-year-old daughter named Xiaoya. My husband Zhang Qiang and I are ordinary office workers, and our family of three lives happily.
One day, Xiaoya suddenly said to me, "Mom, when I slept until midnight, someone kissed my face. When I heard this, I felt a little wrong.
That night, my husband and I talked about it in bed. After hearing this, her husband frowned and said, "Is Xiaoya having a nightmare?"”
The next night, I decided to observe. I lay on the bed and pretended to sleep, waiting for Xiaoya to fall into a deep sleep. After about an hour, I heard a slight movement coming from Xiaoya's room.
I immediately got out of bed, opened the door and quietly followed. Through the window, I saw Zhang Qiang quietly entering Xiaoya's room. He walked to the side of the bed, bowed his head and kissed Xiaoya's cheek, and then quickly left the room.
I was stunned, why did my husband do this?I was very angry and disappointed. I immediately rushed into my husband's room and asked him, "Why do you want to kiss Xiaoya?"Do you know how much psychological stress this will put on her?”
My husband looked at me with a look of surprise and said, "I just want her to feel my love and care." ”
But you know what?Your actions will make her feel frightened and upset. I said angrily.
After a lot of heated arguments, we finally came to a consensus. The husband admitted his mistake and promised not to do such a thing again. At the same time, I also decided to work with my husband to find suitable ways to show our love and care for our children.
That night, my husband and I went to Xiaoya and explained everything to her.
Xiaoya, it's Dad who comes to kiss you every night, he just wants you to feel safe and loved. But we now know that it was not right. I said softly.
Really?Will I still be scared in the future?Xiaoya asked.
No, baby, we'll protect you and make you feel safe. The husband said gently.
This experience gave our family of three new perspectives. As parents, we should pay more attention to our children's feelings and needs, and express our love and care in the right way. At the same time, we must also learn to respect children's independence and growth process, so that they can grow up in a healthy and happy environment.