1. Never lose your "self". Some people are not confident, but it is actually a typical manifestation of losing their "self"!
You are always cautious, always asking for other people's opinions or getting permission from others, in fact, you will be more and more nervous about doing things. So be brave enough to express it!
2. When looking for a topic, try to choose what the other party is interested in and you have a certain understanding, so that you can quickly improve the other party's favorability.
3. "Read 10,000 books, travel 10,000 miles". If you look at those old people, they are not so nervous, because they have experienced more, have seen more, know more, and have a certain understanding and grasp of most things, so they are not very nervous.
4. Do repetitive and deliberate Xi for what you are afraid of. It's almost impossible for anyone to give a first-time speech on the podium without being nervous, but you rarely see a professional presenter speaker nervous on the podium because they have practiced enough Xi.
5. Raise your bottom line. People exist in this society, there will be people who will constantly test your bottom line, the purpose is to see clearly what kind of person you are, try to touch your bottom line, touch the nail, they will stop, so you should adjust your so-called bottom line up and again, anyone who touches this bottom line, must resolutely fight back.
6. Don't be afraid of conflict. In interpersonal interactions, conflict is normal, don't worry about your own opinions conflicting with others. Promises will only be manipulated.
7. Don't always think about making a good impression on the other party. Many times the reason why we are nervous is that we care too much about the other person's evaluation and want to make a good impression. So I always feel that something binds my words and deeds, and the whole person is very tense.
Try to lower your expectations, there's really no need to make everyone think you're good, we can get along with it, and we can't get along with it. When you let go of the obsession of making a good impression on the other party, you will really feel relaxed.
8. In the face of people who are better than you, you should also be calm. Don't overestimate others, especially those who are better than you in some way, remove the aura and filter you give them to imagine, they are ordinary people.
9. Prepare in advance. Tension is fear, and fear comes from the unknown. When we don't know what to say, we get nervous. Then you can think about the topic you want to communicate in advance, so that you will not have nothing to say, you will have enough confidence, and you will naturally be less nervous.
10. Feeling stressed?Change your position. When you're feeling stressed, remember to adjust your body posture and stretch yourself more – this is the most effective way to eliminate stress.
Why?Because physical form is important. When you re-pose, some of your mental stress is released and transferred as you stretch.
In fact, we all have to take it easy, the world is just a huge grass platform, and everyone is a player. Catering to others as little as possible and thinking more about your own thoughts and feelings.
People are equal to each other, it's just labels that make these unequal. Tear off the label and take the initiative to say hello.