Text: Zi Aizi
The more I grew up, the more I realized that true beauty is not just about a person's appearance.
For example, in life, we will always meet such girls:
They are not outstanding, but in their speech and demeanor, they will always make people feel that this person is very knowledgeable and educated.
They may be past the "best age of a woman", but they will always give people a warm and easy-going feeling, which makes people feel comfortable getting along.
The beauty of this kind of girl is different from the beauty of an empty face, and they are more often through temperament to add points to their image.
We often say that "there is poetry and books in the belly", in other words:
A girl's external performance is often transformed from internal knowledge.
The more girls who read, the better they can be in temperament.
This is not to say how high a degree of education must be or how high an academic attainment must be achieved, but to say that in daily life, more time is spent on reading, and the wisdom in the book will slowly infiltrate a person's spirit and thinking.
After years of accumulation, you will find that reading books has brought more than a little change to your life.
"Think".
Living in today's developed Internet, a lot of time is occupied by short**, games, and **.
And these things that entertain the public, it often brings instant happiness, but it is difficult to guide the human brain to think.
When a girl has more time for pastime and less time for thinking, then many times, she will be emotionally controlled, and she is easy to be impulsive when she speaks and acts.
Speaking of which, it reminds me of Liuzhu in "The Legend of Zhen Huan".
She is Zhen Huan's personal maid, even if she has been told by her master that once she enters the palace gate, she must be cautious in what she says and does. But Liuzhu is still difficult to change the problem of fast mouth in many cases.
Concubine Hua's personal palace maid was named a promise because she served the emperor, originally she couldn't compete with Zhen Huan in such a position, but such a little palace maid, thinking that she had hugged Concubine Hua's thigh, dared to openly provoke when she met Zhen Huan in the imperial garden.
Liuzhu is angry, but he has to reason with her when he comes forward, and he can't see that his master is angry with this kind of person.
But he was stopped by Zhen Huan in time, and after he went back, he felt that the master was too easy to talk, how could such a person be arrogant.
Zhen Huan just asked her lightly, what did Du Fu say in the first six songs.
When Liu Zhu said, "Shoot the man first and shoot the horse first, and capture the thief and capture the king first", the expression on his face instantly turned to surprise.
The English philosopher Francis Bacon once said:
"Reading is not for eloquence and refutation, nor for credulity and blind obedience, but for thinking and weighing. ”
Because the wisdom in the book will make people wise and clear, and it will guide people's behavior in many cases.
Maybe a momentary pleasure of words can relieve the stuffiness in your heart and vent your dissatisfaction, but if it doesn't help the result you are pursuing, then don't let your emotions control you.
When a girl has read enough books to understand the truth. So when she speaks and does things, she generally thinks first, and uses logic to guide how to do things that are good for the outcome of things.
Reading makes people good at thinking, and behind thinking, it often reflects the wisdom and pattern of a girl.
Instead of being overwhelmed by things or acting on your will, read more books and think more about how to better solve problems.
In the final analysis, a girl's real temperament does not lie in how much she has, but how much she can control.
"Power".
I have always admired the writer Sanmao.
It's not that this strange woman is alone and brave and goes into the Sahara Desert alone.
It's not that she is a "backbone", she has a comfortable and stable life, but she takes the pursuit of drifting as fun.
But when she was young, after being tired of school, early love, and all kinds of rebellion and bigotry, it seemed that her life path had been distorted, but with reading and writing, she not only dragged her life path back on track, but also lived arbitrarily and spontaneously.
When Sanmao was 5 years old, the happiest thing for a child of her age was not to play happily, but to move a small chair and be under the big tree in the yard with books.
When she grew up, she didn't like schooling, but she was happy that she could read unscrupulously in school.
Even though she later apprenticed to learn painting, she was not interested in paintings, but in the magazines at her teacher's home.
It was this love of reading that made her a "freak" by those around her, who found refuge and entered the world of literature.
Many times, the phrase "readers can empower" seems to be just an emotion.
But in fact, the more girls who read more, the more sober they are, the more they know what they are doing, not only with firmness of will, but also persistence in action.
The so-called Xiuwai Huizhong is exactly like this.
Just like the girls in Yunnan Huaping Girls' Middle School, they are all from the bottom and have rarely seen the outside world.
However, they read the book and realized the importance of learning Xi, even if each of them is just a "small-town problem-solver", but the knowledge in the book brings them hope, no matter how difficult it is to Xi learn, as long as they do it, there will be infinite possibilities.
Reading gives these girls the power to change their fate, they are no longer miserable girls in the depths of the mountains, but teachers, doctors, lawyers, people who can realize their value in many positions.
It's like there's a saying on the internet:
"The purpose of reading is not to achieve much, but to give you an inner strength when you are beaten back into the quagmire by life.
Reading doesn't make you successful right away, it gives you the strength to rise when you hit a low point. ”
Reading may not be immediate, unlike money and resources, which can quickly solve needs, but it often supports a person's spirit, and this upward force is undoubtedly the biggest plus in a girl's temperament.
Bai Yansong said:
"Reading doesn't guarantee that fate can treat you well, but reading more books can ensure that you can treat fate better. ”
In fact, it is not only fate that changes, but also a person's understanding and interpretation of things that are different from ordinary people.
A girl's temperament may not come from her appearance, or even from her living environment, but it must come from her attitude and ability to treat life.
Many people may understand this truth and the importance of reading, but their energy is still occupied by entertainment information intentionally or unintentionally.
And a girl who is addicted to pastime and garbage happiness naturally can't have more control over life, let alone have enough sober thinking and understanding when she encounters problems.
If a girl doesn't want to be slapped and coerced in the torrent of life, then what she needs may not be much external help to get herself out of trouble, but the inner strength to let her learn to fight and learn to rise against the wind.
Fate is as unpredictable as the wind, but you must always have the ability to grasp some of what you want, and this ability comes more often from reading and from the power of knowledge.
In other words:Girls who like to read will really have more temperament.