The middle age of life is like a colorful picture, and many social etiquette are intertwined in it. At this time, the etiquette on the stage of life is more complex and subtle than in the past. At this stage, there are many roles on the stage of life, and various social activities emerge one after another. Underneath the many glamorous appearances, some rituals have dissipated like a passing cloud. Perhaps in the past years, these etiquettes have been eye-catching, but in middle age, they can feel red tape and even become a mental burden. 
In this special period of middle age, we should learn to separate the false from the true, and extract the essence from the rough. With a humble and sensitive heart, let us discover the beauty and truth in life.
Relationship with the general courtesy
Entering middle age, the complexity of interpersonal relationships is like intertwined silk threads, weaving a colorful picture. Old friends and new confidants intertwine in a complex and subtle web. However, not all relationships are worthy of our full dedication. For those interactions that are only superficial, overly cumbersome etiquette often seems to be inadequate. 
Instead of spending a lot of energy on the surface, keep your distance and treat others as your authentic self. In this way, it may be better to maintain a fresh and uncumbersome relationship, so that people can find a unique tranquility and freedom in the complicated interpersonal communication.
A gift with no intentions
In the sea of socializing, there are people with some purpose, and their politeness is like the waves of the sea, obscuring their true intentions. Their outward enthusiasm, like a dolphin jumping out of water, is to attract attention, to acquire some kind of resource or for personal gain. However, such politeness has become as meaningless as a dead leaf in middle age, because people value sincerity more than superficial enthusiasm. Middle-aged people should be as frank as sunshine and as sincere as a mountain spring in social interactions. They should abandon politeness with a hidden purpose, as it can only feel alienating and unnatural. Only an authentic way of treating people can warm people's hearts like the sunshine in spring and build deep and lasting relationships. Just as the roots of a tree need real soil rather than artificial nutrients, human relationships need real emotions rather than superficial politeness. 
The etiquette of the three views is incompatible
When people reach middle age, many people have established a relatively complete set of world views, values and outlook on life. However, some people still maintain the ideas of their youth in social situations, which often leads to the embarrassment of having a misalignment with others. In this case, overly deliberate social etiquette will only make people feel uncomfortable. Therefore, middle-aged people should choose those who have the same ideas for in-depth communication. For people who don't agree with each other, too much social etiquette will only make both parties embarrassed, so it's better to be honest with each other and find a more suitable partner. It's like looking for fellow travelers in the vast sea of people and moving forward together. 
There is a gift of going and no return
Entering middle age, time seems to be fleeting, and every minute and second is extraordinarily precious. In social situations, some people tend to be overly reward-oriented, looking at gifts or favors that would otherwise be well-intentioned as bargaining chips, eager for more in return. However, this utilitarian etiquette is particularly glaring in middle age, as it loses the sincerity and selflessness that people should have. 
At this stage of life, we should be more open-minded about socializing. Perhaps, we don't need to expect much in return, because true friendship and gratitude cannot be measured in material terms. Let's examine social etiquette together, abandon those meaningless false etiquette, and pursue a real, honest and in-depth way of socializing, which is more in line with the expectations of middle-aged people for interpersonal relationships. 
Let's live a more relaxed, comfortable and meaningful life in middle age.