The neighbor's child is in the first grade this year, and since he was in kindergarten, he has often been bullied by his classmates, and when he comes home, he cries with his parents. It turned out that his parents taught him to be friendly and not to quarrel with his classmates, which developed his timid and cowardly character. But not long ago, when a child bullied him, he finally broke out and yelled at his classmates, and no one bullied him after that. It can be seen that you should still have backbone as a person, so that you can protect yourself. And whether a child has backbone or not, in addition to the natural character, is also inseparable from the education of parents. If parents do this in their lives, children are prone to losing their backbone.
The danger of spinelessness in children
There is no self-confidence and I dare not express my thoughts.
Self-confidence is very important for both adults and children, and children with self-confidence dare to express themselves and express themselves. Many children, because of lack of self-confidence, are very lazy in all aspects and do not want to do it, and in the long run, the child will lack willpower, lack backbone, and show a timid look, so they will be labeled"Spineless"tags.
We will not reject others and be obedient and compromise in everything.
A child with backbone, who dares to reject others, will speak out about the unequal treatment that happens to him"Nope", and when facing oppression from the outside world, they will take the initiative to seek help from others and seek justice. So"Spineless"What about children?They don't say no, they don't dare to ask for help, let alone resist. They are Xi to being obedient in everything, and they exchange their own compromises for forgiveness.
How can children guide education correctly if they are spineless?
Parents should have a correct attitude and encourage their children more and scold them less
All in all, most of the reasons why children do all kinds of spineless things are because they lack self-confidence in their hearts, and most of the source of this self-confidence is because parents do not give their children enough respect. Therefore, parents should have a correct attitude, encourage their children more and scold them less, even if the child just does one thing right, parents should also look at him with a friendly eye. Over time, when a child receives a little love from his parents, he will be able to have the courage and confidence to face others, and he will also gain a point of understanding and respect for himself in his interactions with others.
Parents should explain to their children the importance of backbone
How can I make my child understand this?Parents don't have to talk about it, but they can also explain the importance of backbone to their children through practical actions. In life or in the process of learning and Xi, parents should actively participate in overcoming all kinds of setbacks with their children. Of course, in the process of interpersonal communication, parents should also gradually let their children understand how to win understanding and respect for themselves, not by apologies, but by sincerely being kind to others.
Parents can take their children to participate in more social practice activities
Generally speaking, children are always spineless, most of them are cowardly and inferior, parents can take their children to participate in some social practice activities, which can be rock climbing or mountain climbing. In the course of these activities, the child will gradually try to exercise his little heart and make it stronger and stronger. Then, by participating in this activity, parents can also get closer to their children's hearts, and of course, the parent-child relationship will be stronger.
Therefore, when parents find that their children are spineless, they must pay more attention, do not think that it is good for the child to grow up, so as to let it go, and must be corrected in time and guided correctly, so as not to affect the healthy growth of the child.
It is important to develop a good character in children, and parents should spend more time with their children or give them some educational books.
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About author:Hu Yuanyuan (editor-in-chief), a senior expert in child education and early childhood psychology research, graduated from Central China Normal University with a major in preschool education, published more than 20 early childhood newsletters and articles during his work, and has written many books with unique views on preschool education and early childhood psychology.