You can't even imagine a dog biting a man, the world of a man biting a dog is not for you, find a man to marry. (Queen of the News).
He pursued me with a manuscript. "Normal, you're good-looking and attractive. (Camp with Love).
Recently, two TV series set in the news industry have been broadcast at the same time, and the different hostesses have made netizens quarrel.
In "The Queen of News" filmed by Hong Kong TVB, female reporters are professional, capable, and shrewd, competing on the same stage with male reporters, and their words and demeanors are full of "career-oriented heroines" style;The hostess of "Love as the Camp" produced by the mainland is set as a well-known ace reporter, but the plot rarely shows her workplace edge, and she is laughed at by netizens as a "little wife" who "only talks about love".
TV dramas inevitably have fiction and exaggeration, and in real life, what are the real views of female journalists on career and love?
We interviewed eight female journalists. Among them, there are post-00s, post-90s, and post-80s, with deep and shallow industry qualifications, and the short time in the industry is less than 1 year, and the long is more than 10 years. As for marriage and love, they also have their own different choices: single, in love, married without children, married with children, divorced with children.
On the road of life, do they "win with their careers" or "win with love"?
Work is to live. We don't have much to pursue, and we don't have many noble ideals. - Reporter A Yu
A Yu's interview and shooting event site name: A Yu Age: 35 years old Place of work: ChengduWork experience: 12 years in the industryMarriage and childbirth status: married, with a daughter.
has been in the industry for 12 years, and Ah Yu is already a veteran in the news circle. During this time, she experienced marriage, pregnancy, miscarriage, and ...... getting pregnant again and having childrenHer perception of how women balance career and family is changing all the time.
After graduating from university, Ah Yu worked at a local TV station. At that time, there was a saying circulating in the station, "I did bad things in my last life, but I will do TV in this life". The shooting machine is huge, and the first-class picture and detail requirements are high, which is a lot of work pressure for newcomer Ah Yu. But she has a strong personality, wants to make some achievements, and is extra dedicated to her work.
But an accidental miscarriage changed her attitude towards work. One Saturday, she and her husband happily went to the hospital to set up a card for their child, but they received the news like a bolt from the blue: the child had been out of birth for a week. During that time, Ah Yu's work intensity and many research projects were high, but she still insisted on working. The accident had been a few days earlier - a leader colleague was in a meeting, she suddenly felt a foreign object under her body, and when she entered the bathroom, she found reddish-brown blood.
Ah Yu failed to save the child. The TV station became sad, and she didn't want to work at the TV station again, so she went to another ** as a reporter. She is no longer as "desperate" as before.
Soon after, she became pregnant again, and there was bleeding during this time. Knowing that she often travels for business, the doctor told her to work less and take more leave. Since the 7th month of pregnancy, Ah Yu has basically entered a state of recuperation, took two months of leave in a row, and successfully gave birth to her daughter.
Now, her daughter is in kindergarten, and picking her up from school after work is one of the happiest things for Ah Yu.
There is no optimal solution in life, each stage has a different experience, just follow your heart and make choices. - Text reporter He Min
News Queen" screenshot Name: He Min Age: 29 years old Place: BeijingWork Experience: Entered the industry 45 years of marriage: in love.
Time flies. In the blink of an eye, He Min has been a reporter for four years, covering major cities and towns in China, and she is almost 30 years old.
In traditional Chinese beliefs, "30 years old" is an important dividing line for women's age. If you are in your early thirties and have not yet married and had children, there is a high probability that you will be called a "leftover woman". As early as three years ago, He Min began to feel the pressure of marriage and love, and her parents kept saying "You are almost thirty", and frequently asked her to go on a blind date.
It's not that He Min doesn't fall in love, it's just that the relationship is not very stable. After graduating, He Min worked in an in-depth reporting company. This job was a frequent business trip, and the longest time was that she spent a whole month in the province.
In the two years she has been working, she has been in two relationships, both of which have lasted less than a year. For a while, she and her boyfriend were in the same city, but the two traveled too often and could only see each other twice a month.
Before the age of 27, He Min did not think too seriously about getting married. In her eyes, marriage is optional, not mandatory. But when she crossed the threshold of 27 years old, the "** environment" around her about marriage and love suddenly changed. The young and classmates in her hometown have started a family one after another, and her parents are urging her to ask about the progress of her marriage and love every day. After several fierce quarrels, He Min and his parents once entered a state of "semi-severed relationship", and the two sides did not have much contact.
During this period, He Min jumped to another ** and met her current boyfriend. Infected with the new crown, the nucleic acid turned negative, and the body has not fully recovered, they went out to drink coffee together, and they were out of breath in less than an hour. On the way home, the two helped each other up the stairs, and at that moment, she felt the meaning of each other's company.
This stable, comfortable intimate relationship changed He Min's attitude towards marriage. She no longer thinks too much about the "negative effects" of marriage, such as the impact on personal freedom and independence. She felt more about the "positive effect" of marriage - companionship.
In the future, she may enter into marriage with her boyfriend. But she hasn't thought too much about having children.
The perfect life should be a win-win situation for family and career. But now I may not have done it yet. - Reporter Xiaowei
Xiaowei shoots outside late at nightName: XiaoweiAge: 27 years oldCity: ShanghaiWork experience: 5 years in the industryMarriage and childbearing status: married without children.
If the work is not going well, then going to have a baby is a good option. ”
After 5 years in the industry and 4 years of marriage, Xiaowei didn't think too seriously about having children before. Although she is a journalist, businessman, and director, Xiaowei has always felt that her work is too leisurely. At the beginning of this year, the idea of having a baby first crossed her mind.
But before she could get pregnant, a new job opportunity arose in front of her — an investigative journalist. This is not a small ** for Xiaowei, she hopes to experience, grow and precipitate in this difficult job. So, despite the dissuasion of her husband and parents, Xiaowei "rolled" into the tide of the workplace.
24-hour standby, and the best peers are all difficulties that can be overcome, but for Xiaowei, the greater pressure actually comes from the "young people" in the company.
Xiaowei is only 27 years old, but she is Xi referring to new colleagues as "young people" - most of them are post-00s and have overseas study backgrounds. Xiaowei longs to conceive a new life, but has to worry about being replaced by those young people with excellent resumes.
It takes a moment to have a baby, and it takes some luck. With a short length of service and high work intensity, it is obviously not a "good time" in Xiaowei's mouth, so she chooses to continue to be involved in the workplace and redouble her efforts to improve her irreplaceability.
Thankfully, her husband is very supportive of Xiaowei's work and basically takes on all the housework to help Xiaowei reduce stress and better devote herself to work.
Xiaowei sometimes can't help but reflect, thinking that she has not balanced work and family. For her, the perfect life should be a win-win situation for her family and career, accumulation of work, timely birth of children, and preferably equal sharing of family responsibilities. Judging from the current situation, she is still some distance from the "perfect life".
I don't really like the institution of marriage, which is a way to force two people together. - Xi journalist Xiao Na
News Queen" screenshot name: Xiaona Age: 24 years oldLocation: BeijingWork experience: Xi marriage status: single.
With a staffed position and a 9-to-5 job, from an outsider's point of view, Xiao Na, who has a stable and decent job, may be the preferred marriage partner in the blind date market. But when it came to getting married, Xiao Na vetoed it.
Xiao Na, 24, joined a newspaper in Beijing after graduating from university. The intensity of her work can be called "a clear stream" in the journalism industry - she does not need to catch up with social news hotspots, her work and rest time is normal, and the lives of her colleagues are mostly "quiet". In between work, we often talk about family and children, and we also talk about benefits such as marriage leave and maternity leave.
When Xiaona was skeptical about her comfortable work, she didn't expect to usher in the urging of her family to get married. In the last second, the conversation was in full swing, and in the next second, there was a sudden sentence "It's time to find a partner". Faced with this situation, Xiao Na chose to remain silent, and then hung up**.
With the belief of "shouldering morality with an iron shoulder", Xiaona plunged into the journalism industry without looking back. On the eve of graduation, she delivered a number of **, and finally successfully "landed" her current work unit. But Xiaona's current job makes it difficult for her to achieve the fulfillment of being a journalist, and she doesn't even feel like she does journalism.
In contrast, she prefers to be at the forefront of social news like other reporters, "tired or angry, this kind of work is more meaningful, and there is a sense of accomplishment exclusive to journalists."
If I had to choose again, I would still choose to pursue a career in journalism, but I would reconsider this unit. Xiao Na felt that she was "bound", and one of the *** brought about by the stable status quo was urging marriage. Thinking back to herself five months ago, she struggled to find a job, Xiao Na said: "I long for the sense of accomplishment of a journalist, and I have doubts about the comfortable status quo. If settling down means getting married, I might as well stay adrift. ”
Getting married won't affect work, but having children will. - Appearance of reporters, editors and directors Strawberry
**Name: StrawberryAge: 35 years oldLocation: BeijingWork experience: 13 years in the industryMarriage and childbearing status: Married and childbearing.
Getting married won't affect work, but having children will, that's the conclusion that Strawberry came to after hands-on practice.
Before giving birth, Strawberry was a "desperate Saburo" at work: he often stayed up all night, did not go home at night two or three days a week, and often ordered McDonald's in the corridor of his unit for supper. The more obvious sign is that the day before the wedding, the strawberries are still being cut**.
After giving birth, Strawberry's hard work disappeared. Every day at 3:30 p.m. is her busiest time, she will try her best to complete the day's work, and if it goes well, she can leave work at 4 o'clock to pick up the children from school.
The focus of strawberries has clearly shifted from work to life. In September this year, when the child entered elementary school, strawberry's anxiety ushered in a small peak. During the work shooting, Strawberry took out a small notebook and read words on the dense handwriting on it.
The camera reporter was quite puzzled, mistakenly thinking that it was so complicated that experienced strawberries had to make careful preparations. The camera reporter took a look at the notebook and saw that it was written "two painting books", "water cups", "two Tianzi grids", etc., these are all things that children need to prepare for school.
After having a baby, it is almost impossible to focus all of your energy on work anymore. "My child's school is 10 minutes away from home, and on the first day of school, Strawberry deliberately finished her work a day early and waited at home to pick up and drop off her children from school. This is how Strawberry is currently re-evaluating work and family.
But when asked what kind of female journalist can be considered successful, Strawberry forgot about the child for a while, and she remembered a quote from a TV show: "There is no small matter in the affairs of the people". Strawberry feels that in his position, as long as he can help the people do something, it will be successful.
The most important thing about a "winner in life" is not what to choose, but the choice itself. - Reporter Li Li
Li Li went out to interview Name: Li Li Age: 40 years oldPlace of work: HenanWork experience: 13 years in the industryMarriage and childbearing status: divorced, two children.
Mom, when are we going to be home?”
Wait a minute, wait a little and go back. ”
It's past early to get off work, but the lights in the office are still on. Li Li stared intently at the computer screen and edited the interview**. The daughter with a fever waited on the side for 3 hours and couldn't help but urge her over and over again.
After 13 years in the industry, Li Li has been a senior reporter of the TV station, and her works have also won provincial news awards. At the same time, she is also a divorced mother, alone with a son and a daughter.
It wasn't until about 9 o'clock in the evening that Li Li finished her work assignment and took her children home. This is the norm at work, and the children are Xi to a mother who travels a lot and comes home a little late. Sometimes, they hope that their mother can read more books and play games with them, and they will ask "Mom, when are you coming home?" from time to time”
Divorced and taking care of the baby alone, it seems to be a difficult situation, but it may be easier for Li Li than before. Li Li said that during the marriage, whether in terms of money or daily care and companionship, her ex-husband contributed too little to the family, "which can be understood as widowed parenting to a certain extent", which is also an important reason why she chose to divorce. She sighed, "Many seemingly happy marriages have a woman struggling to support them, I don't approve of this lifestyle, and I won't choose not to divorce for the sake of face." ”
Falling in love, getting married, having children, divorcing, and taking care of a baby alone, Li Li does not regret every choice she made in the past. Especially raising children, she feels that it is a process of allowing herself to grow again. "Nowadays, many young people are too reluctant to marry, in fact, there is no need to go to this extreme, everyone can experience and try. ”
I think the most important thing about a 'winner in life' is not what you choose, but the choice itself. Whether it's a female journalist or any other woman in the workplace, the greatest right thing is that she has the ability to make her own choices. Li Li said.
"I don't have time to brush Douyin every day, how can I take care of men. —Xi student Xiao An
Xiao Anshi Xi Interview Name: Xiao AnAge: 21 years oldPlace: BeijingWork Experience: Successively worked in 3 ** real Xi, 1 year Marriage: Single.
As soon as he stepped into journalism, Xiao An already clearly felt the professional impact of gender.
Your conditions are a good match for our job needs. But this position only recruits boys, and you can't carry the equipment alone. In an interview session, Xiao An, who was full of expectations, was doused with enthusiasm by HR's words. Once Xi was hired, three girls entered in the same batch, "how are they all girls", and the casual emotion of the Xi teacher who just entered the door made her remember it vividly. And during another ** Xi, which coincided with the heavy rain in Beijing, this job opportunity on the front line also gave priority to male journalists.
Gender seems to have become a lingering shadow over the heads of female journalists and women in the workplace. As a journalism student, Xiao An adheres to the professionalism that he can only write good work if he is actually on the spot, but in practice, he faces a realistic environment where front-line work prioritizes male students.
She is about to graduate from college, and she is facing the pressure of graduation while being busy with the practical Xi of the industry. She yearns for love in her heart, but she is overwhelmed by her studies and practical Xi, she said in a self-deprecating tone: "There is no time to brush Douyin every day, how can there be time to care about men." ”
Xiao An knows that busyness is the norm in the news industry. Although she longs for marriage, she clearly refuses to have children. "In the current environment, the cost of raising a child is too high, neither materially nor spiritually. Xiao An is only 21 years old, but he already has a clear expectation of future pressures. "If you become a mother, part of the focus will definitely shift to the child. After maternity leave, there may also be some marginalization. ”
Xiao An is still constantly looking for real Xi opportunities and insisting on finding a way out in the news industry. As for marriage, it was just a thought that occasionally flashed through her mind when she was busy.
Not only are women in journalism hard, but other industries are not so easy. - Reporter Ning Ning
Ning Ning in the interview name: Ning Ning Age: 28 years old Work place: BeijingWork experience: two years in the industry Marriage and love: plan to get married in 2 years.
After 2 years in the industry, 24-hour standby is the basic quality of Ning Ning as a leading reporter. During the war in Ukraine, Ning Ning was in Beijing, with a 6-hour time difference between her and the local area, and it was normal to contact international students for interviews in the early morningSun Haiyang was looking for a son, originally made an appointment for an afternoon interview, but the protagonist was anxious to find his son, and drove thousands of kilometers from Guangzhou to Shandong, Ning Ning could only change his plan and immediately book a ticket to the scene.
These surprises are just the tip of the iceberg in journalism. For now, Ning Ning is still able to cope with it, but how to balance career and family in the future is a problem.
There are only two unmarried friends and female colleagues in the same department. Ning Ning is 28 years old this year, and she has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for 4 years and has a stable relationship. Seeing that her friends and colleagues in the department have entered marriage in recent years, and she has reached the age when she should get married, she wants to give an explanation of this relationship and plans to get married in two years.
When imagining her married life, Ning Ning was a little troubled. If you insist on being on call 24 hours a day at work, how can you take care of your family well?On the other hand, in the third trimester of pregnancy and when the child is just born, considering the physical reasons and the needs of the child, it seems difficult to cope with the daily work of reporters such as moving shelves and running the scene.
Ning Ning considered switching from the ** department to a writing position before having a child, and continued to shine in the news industry. "I will still work with curiosity, curiosity, and a spirit of exploration, and I will do good journalism and speak well. (The names of the interviewees have been changed).
Written by |Beijing Youth Daily reporter Chen Jing, practical Xi students, Xu Hanjian, Song Chengjing.
Co-ordination |Lin Yan, Zhang Bin.
* |Photo provided by the interviewee, screenshot of the network (the header picture is a screenshot of "News Queen").