In "The Siege", Fang Hong gradually relied on his father-in-law to study abroad, but did not achieve much results. So, when he was about to return home, he bought a forged academic certificate to deal with his father and father-in-law.
After returning to China, he not only found a job at the Dian Jin Bank, which was run by his father-in-law, but was also forced to live in the home of his father-in-law. In fact, the so-called father-in-law was only nominal, because his fiancée died before he could even meet.
Subsequently, with the support and help of Zhao Xinlin, he took up the position of associate professor at Sanlu University, but his performance was not satisfactory, and he eventually chose to return to Shanghai, but never made significant progress in his career.
Even Zhao Xinlin's evaluation of him is like this: You are indeed a good person, but in fact it has no practical effect.
However, when it comes to love, he has a deep relationship with the opposite sex. On the way back to China, he was loved by the charming Miss Bao and the dignified and generous Su Wenjun at the same time.
Su Wenjun was born in a famous family, both a doctor and a talented woman, but Fang Honggradually chose to reject her. He is more inclined to play a game with Miss Bao, who already has a fiancé, rather than accepting Su Wenjun's request for reconciliation.
After that, she fell deeply in love with Su's cousin Tang Xiaofu, but was unfortunately betrayed by Su Wen's son. In the end, Fang Hongjian chose Sun Roujia, who was inferior to Su Wenjun in many aspects, as his wife.
Initially, I was very confused about this. If Fang Hong can gradually marry the highly skilled Su Wenjun, he will definitely achieve great success in his career, instead of being incompetent as described in **, and will eventually be despised by the Sun He family.
Now, when I read the book again, I finally understood the deeper meaning of the book, that life is not exactly like this, that there is not so much perfection and perfection.
01, Fang Hongji's heart was deeply affected by machismo.
Fang Hongjian was born into a squire-like family, his father was a respected scholar in the area, and he himself read a lot of books at a young age. He has loved reading and writing since he was a child, and often participates in various social activities, so he has a certain understanding of society. He was not only influenced by traditional Chinese culture, but also by Western culture, so he has both the pride of a literati and the romantic side in his heart.
Whenever Su Wenjun is mentioned, his mother is always the first to express her inner dissatisfaction:
I don't agree with that!Miss Guan can't marry you, and if you want her to serve her, she can't. Moreover, it is good to marry a daughter-in-law from the same township, and the temper of people from other counties is usually a little uncoordinated, and you will not be satisfied if you marry. This Miss Su is an international student, and she is probably not young.
His father, as a senior scholar, was naturally not bound by trivial family matters. He has a forward-looking view of the matter, arguing that "she is not only a study abroad scholar, but also has a Ph.D." Therefore, I am worried that Hongjian may not be able to digest her. ”
The reason is quite straightforward:
Your mother may not understand this truth - for women, reading a few sentences is the most challenging. Only a man who is one level above her can match her on an equal footing. That's why college graduates choose high school girls, while international students choose college girls. Only a woman who studied abroad and obtained a doctorate would dare to marry him, otherwise a man would be at least a double doctorate. Hongchuan, my point of view is correct, this is the same as 'marrying a woman must be better than my family, and marrying a woman must be inferior to my family'. ”
In fact, Fang Hong has been deeply influenced by his parents' thoughts since he was a child, and these two views are also his deep feelings, although he did not express them explicitly, his heart is actually the same.
Although Su Wenjun has deep feelings for him, her actions and words reveal an attitude of superiority. She often showed a natural sense of superiority, which made Fang Hong gradually feel a little unhappy, so there was an indescribable sense of distance between the two.
When he first met Su Wenjun, his innermost monologue was:
She felt that Fang Hongji's status was not high, his life was not bad, and he was definitely a good companion on the journey. Miss Su's dream self-image is: "Beautiful as a peach and plum, cold as frost." "She has her husband and her children in her life. Fang Hong's admiration for him gradually decreased, but in the end he submissively expressed his love.
Therefore, the special favor she showed, just like the goddess Pudu sentient beings, sweet with astringency, gentle with alienation, like Fang Hongjian such a clear and free and easy willful spleen and stomach is naturally unbearable.
There is a view that Fang Hongji, a disguised doctor, looks a little ashamed in front of the real celebrity Su Wenjun, so he does not dare to accept her affection easily. But I have reservations about this, in fact, Fang Hongjian is not optimistic about the pretentious pseudo-talented woman Su Wenjun.
After returning to China, Su Wenjun showed off the work she was proud of, with a poem written on the fan: "Will I imprison you?".Fang thought it was a little incredible. I wanted Fang Hongjian to appreciate this poem (but Fang didn't know it was Su's work at the time), and the original intention was to show it, but I didn't expect Fang Hongjian to shout when he saw it: Too bad, this poem was stolen.
This incident made Su Wenjun feel very embarrassed, and he immediately denied it, but Fang Hongjian didn't know that this was Miss Su's masterpiece, so he seized the opportunity of victory to continue the pursuit
Maybe you didn't notice it in class, and you didn't do it like I did. It's not your fault, because you're taking your own homework, and not taking notes just shows that you're very knowledgeable;You all know what the gentleman said. We are an auditor in the Department of Chinese Literature, and if you don't use your pen in class, you will laugh badly, you won't understand, and you won't be able to take notes. ”
This auditor surpasses her talented woman in the literature department in terms of knowledge and insight. Although this sentence is ostensibly a compliment to Su Wenjun, in fact it is more of a kind of irony and boasting of Su Wenjun, and it also shows Fang Hongji's unique sense of humor and humor.
At first, Fang Honggradually unceremoniously called Su Wenjun a "crooked poem". As a doctor of literature, Su Wenjun obviously lacks basic aesthetic concepts and connoisseurship skills. As a result, Fang Hong's evaluation of her is relatively low, which also shows that her real doctorate is not as high as her fake academic qualifications.
Later, when Tang Xiaofu revealed the truth of the facts, Fang Honggradually had to excuse himself on the grounds of jealousy and said that the poem was stolen. She said she just wanted him to know what she was thinking, and she didn't want him to see what she was thinking. However, deep down, she is not optimistic about this person who is known as a talented woman.
Therefore, it is gradually difficult for the noble Fang Hong to have feelings for such a person who is called a talented woman.
02, Su Wenjun's lifestyle is too sophisticated and worldly, and he has lost the innocence and loveliness that women should have.
In fact, Fang Hong gradually knew that Miss Su was the most perfect girlfriend in his heart. She is not only smart and has status, but also can be called a lady in appearance and attitude. With such a girlfriend, he has both dignity and intrinsic worth. With the support of the Su family, Fang Hongji's career will be smoother.
For most people, this is undoubtedly a blessing, but Fang Hongjian is a very emotional person, and he is more inclined to appreciate the inner qualities of girls. Therefore, he believes that his relationship with Su Wenjun is like two parallel straight lines, no matter how close they are or how long they stretch, they cannot fully merge into a whole in the end. This is because:
It was only when Kowloon stood on the shore and saw her shy cheeks flush that his heart suddenly became so soft that he lost the power to beat, and there was no such emotion again. In this world, every woman has to face her own fate. In front of the man she loves, every woman has a unique technique that can restore her youthful state. I've had it too, but that's not her patent. More precisely, it's just an inappropriateness in terms of character;Or it's an emotional incongruity. For example, when a kitten plays around its tail, we find it funny, but when the puppy follows past and turns back to follow that short tail, its sense of humor decreases.
On the cruise ship in France, Miss Bao wore a scarlet bandeau dress and navy blue underwear, while Miss Su's costume looked very elegant and sophisticated." Miss Bao was dressed in such explicit clothes that the passengers on the ship jokingly called her partial truth, because all the truth was naked.
Miss Bao said, "You remind me of my fance, and you look very similar to him. Fang Hongjian felt both shy and proud, although Miss Bao was regarded as the best behavior in the eyes of everyone, Fang Hongchuan, who had never experienced love, thought she was a very lovely woman.
Fang Hongji, a person who has never experienced sex, can't control himself from being attracted to Miss Bao, but he doesn't have deep feelings for Miss Bao. Even though Miss Bao looks cute, she is not that innocent. So when he saw Miss Bao rushing towards her old and unsightly fiancé, his heart was filled with the anger of being deceived, but he did not feel bitter about being betrayed.
Su Wenjun's pretentiousness and pretentiousness that did not match his age and appearance forced him to keep his distance.
Therefore, when Fang Hongjian met Tang Xiaofu in the Su family, he quickly developed a deep affection for this innocent girl, and her every expression and smile revealed innocence and cuteness, which may be the ideal partner image that Fang Hongjian has been pursuing.
In fact, Fang Hongjian was briefly attracted by Su Wenxi's innocence, such as the moonlit night, but that moment of goodwill quickly disappeared.
In the depths of Fang Hongji's heart, this monologue is particularly fascinating:
Why do all those lovely girls have their own fathers?I think this may be because girls are born with a "strong man and weak woman" character. When she is alone, her heart is full of tenderness, and she has established a deep bond with her relatives, uncles, brothers, etc., which makes the girl seem not smart and comfortable enough, and her cuteness is also mixed with some impurities. When many people talk about marriage, their tone is more like talking about homosexuality than really liking the girl or envying her father or brother.
From this point, it can be seen that Hongjian still retains a kind of innocence and frankness in his heart, and he believes that truly loving someone is the essence of loving the person, not her subordinate, such as family background, social status, etc.
Su Wenjun is a down-and-out secular woman, she is very sophisticated and likes to behave elegantly, which is very similar to Cao Yuenlong, so the two eventually came together and can be said to be like-minded.
When Fang Hongjian returned to China, he learned that his father-in-law had published his academic certificate in the newspaper, which made him very angry. At this critical moment, he revealed to Su Wenjun that he had falsified his academic qualifications, and said self-deprecatingly: "Buying a fake diploma is simply my joke." ”
Su Wenjun's persuasion method is very appropriate:
Finally, Mr. Zhou has become your esteemed elder, and he treats you quite well, so he is fully qualified to publish that news in the newspaper. After all, no one pays special attention to that news, and those who see it may forget. You have become frivolous in the eyes of the public, but you are very serious about the details, and this contradiction is just too funny. ”
At that time, Fang Hong was gradually deeply moved and sincerely admired the beauty of Miss Su's words.
Su Wenjun made her very happy to publish her academic certificate in the newspaper, while Fang Hongjian was very angry about it. Su Wenjun's words are also impeccable, fully demonstrating her social savvy and sophistication.
Fang Hong gradually felt entangled in these trivial things, but this showed his innocence and loveliness.
From a deeper level, these two people are not fellow travelers, and there is a huge gulf between them that cannot be bridged.
03, Fang Hong is gradually immersed in the sweetness of love, and Su Wenjun's wish is just to find a perfect match.
Obviously, Su Wenjun is not the kind of frivolous woman, she always gives love to others easily, Zhao Xinlin's pursuit of her has lasted for many years, but she has never received a response.
Obviously, deep down in Miss Su's heart, especially as a socialite, she has higher expectations and requirements for her other half, but unfortunately time is not tolerant of her.
At that time, Miss Su cherished her love too much and was unwilling to give it easily. She has an attachment to love and a passion for life, so she is the same for men. Now, she feels like she's made a beautiful dress, but she's reluctant to wear it and locked in a box. A year or two later, she suddenly discovered that the look and color of the dress were no longer fashionable. She knows a little about Fang Hongji's family background, she doesn't hate people, and she seems to have enough money. He is a very talented young writer, quite famous in literature, but he seems a little mediocre in terms of life, and his attitude towards her is relatively cold, even a little indifferent. Therefore, I hope that this time will provide him with a time to get close.
Obviously, Su Wenjun's treatment of love and marriage is a decision made after careful consideration and weighing various factors. The love she pursues is to go directly to the palace of marriage, just to find a truly suitable marriage partner.
Fang Hongji's emotions are deep, and he believes that marriage is a natural product of love.
Fang Hong gradually felt that the situation was not good, and began to panic. Her husband was a very powerful man, he was the director of the factory, and he was a very rich man. Washing towels, mending socks, sewing buttons, these are the small responsibilities that the wife has for her husband. Her husband is a man of power, he is her son. How do we enjoy these rights?Influenced by her husband's interests, she should naturally be treated as her husband, otherwise why would she be willing to fulfill these duties?
Therefore, when he noticed the complex emotions in Su Wenjun's heart, any good feelings he had for her disappeared without a trace.
Of course, this does not mean that Fang Hongjian just wants to fall in love and not get married. Fang Hongjian had experienced an unreal marriage, and he and his first wife had never met. Under the arrangement of both parents, the two made a marriage contract in chaos. To others, this seems a bit ridiculous, but for Fang Hongji, it is even more absurd. He has never been in a relationship, but he became a married man overnight.
It is for this reason that, deep down in his heart, love is seen as a precious emotion. After experiencing his first marriage without love experience, he is even more eager to experience a warm and passionate love.
Therefore, although he later learned that Sun Roujia used some strategies and means to control him, he did not have a grudge against her in his heart, because Sun Roujia provided him with an unforgettable love experience.
Su Wenjun's too clear way of showing love made Fang Hong gradually feel awe of her.
Summary part: In fact, in **, Fang Hongjian and Su Wenjun are regarded as a precious emotion in their concepts because of their different psychology and goals.
However, Su Wenjun finally chose Cao Yuenlong, who is plump, shallow and likes to pretend, to pursue this precious love, while Fang Hongjian chose to dedicate his first love to Miss Bao, who is known as "local truth".
In fact, it is full of irony, and its unique charm is really worth savoring.
Indeed, Fang Hong gradually showed his true and frank side. Therefore, although he missed Tang Xiaofu and married Sun Roujia, Sun Roujia was not his ideal partner, and she was still a very suitable choice.
Su Wenjun, a person who always likes to pretend, did not get Fang Hongji's initial admiration and later courtship, but married Cao Yuanlong, the son of Sixi Tuanzi. This is undoubtedly the biggest irony of Fang Hongji, and it can also be said to be a counterattack of life against her.
It is undeniable that "The Siege" is a work that uses a style full of irony and irony, describing ordinary people who are trapped in love and marriage, and of course, our emotions are also incorporated into it.