— Preface —
Providence is the normal law of this world, and once we violate the law, we have to suffer the consequences, especially these three things, which have a bad impact on us.
Why isn't it advisable to touch these three things?These three things can also be worth a long life
— Don't complain
Two men abroad were traveling in the desert, they drank all the water they were carrying, and finally found a small house, they pushed the door inI accidentally found half a glass of water on the table.
The pessimistic man became more and more angry the more he looked at it, thinking that this half glass of water was simply not enough for the two of them to drink.
The optimistic man, on the other hand, believes that half a glass of water provides some water to their body better than no water at all, and while his companion is still complaining, he has already begun to think about distributing this glass of water.
There is a similar situation in "Dream of Red Mansions", Aunt Zhao's background did not occupy any advantage in that era, but she was lucky to have the identity of the master and gave birth to a son, Jia Huan.
As long as Aunt Zhao and Jia Huan don't make big mistakes, Jia Huan can inherit the Jia family's propertyBut Aunt Zhao always complained, causing herself and her son to live very unhappy.
We must have encountered unhappy things related to work and family in our lives.
It's like we usually teach our children well, let them listen carefully in class, and listen to the teacher in school.
But children are individuals with free will, and whether they will fulfill their promise with us is another matter, causing us to be surrounded by a strong sense of powerlessness.
In order to get rid of the bad emotions in our hearts, we simply look at the people around us, and we can really feel better after complaining to themBut these complaints do not solve the problem at the root cause.
If we want our children to study well Xi listen carefully, we still have to communicate with our children on an equal footing and tell them why they should study hard and Xi and respect the teacher.
We can complain about unhappy things, but we are all adults, and everyone has their own difficultiesWe always vent our negative emotions on others, and we are not very friendly to others.
Before we have unpleasant emotions and need to complain, we have a discernment in our hearts about the good and bad of something.
When we complain about the lack of work and the distance from home, we may be over-exaggerating the shortcomings of the job, but ignoring the joy that the job has brought us and the help that the job has helped us to support our families.
Every day we live is a new day, and it's not a wise choice to punish ourselves by dwelling on the past that brings us bad feelings.
There is a person named Xianglin's sister-in-law in Lu Xun's **, who lost everything when she was young and strong and her life was full of hope.
Xianglin's sister-in-law couldn't accept this reality for a long time, and she couldn't help but tell her tragic experience when she met people, and she was never able to let herself bravely face her new life.
Each of us has a limited ability, and it is also a wise choice not to push yourself when you encounter uncontrollable things, and to let yourself go.
— Don't force or indulge —
Many of us had ideals when we were young, thinking that we could be teachers, policemen, etc., in short, to be shining people.
There are very few people who may be able to fulfill these wishes, and we, as ordinary people, are inevitably entangled in trivial things.
In the TV series "Women's Village", it is said that the two little white pigs of the Xifeng family ran to the Erbai family, and the Xifeng family hurriedly looked for the lost pigs of their own family.
At this time, the Erbai family was reluctant to send the pig back, so they bought ink to dye the pig black, so that they could lie that they had just bought two little black pigs to dispel the concerns of the Xifeng family.
But the color dyed on the pigs will always fall, and the Erbai family has to continue to buy ink to dye the two pigs in order to fulfill the lie.
The two pigs grew very quickly under the careful care of the Erbai family, and the Erbai family spent more and more money on buying ink.
The Erbai family muttered in their heartsOn the one hand, I feel that the cost of buying ink words is too high, and on the other hand, I am reluctant to send back the pigs that I have fed for a long time.
The children of the Bai family did not know all this, and the children only knew that their pigs were sometimes white and sometimes black.
The child thought it was very interesting, so he shared it with his classmates, and later it reached the ears of the Xifeng family, making it difficult for the Erbai family to keep the two pigs.
Unless the Erbai family sells two pigs, the cost they spend on the pigs will not be recoveredThis is a problem they have to face after they become obsessed with pigs, and the ancients have also encountered such problems.
Liu Bowen's book introduces the person who is very envious of others riding horses, and his friend finds a horse for him to ride out of kindness.
He was very happy when he got the horse, but it didn't take long for him to fall off the horse, and after reflection he came to the conclusion that nothing should be forced, and many people understood this truth.
Confucius, a person as transparent, naturally understands the truth that cannot be forcedHe is optimistic, talented, ambitious, and wants to contribute to the country.
However, since the monarch of Lu Guo had beautiful women and other wealth, he was slack off on the political affairs of the country, and Confucius soon changed his thinking about politics and focused his main time and energy on the academic field.
We can't be as open-minded as Confucius, who always compares our own children with other people's children, thinking that they are not as good as other children's Xi.
But this is just what we want our children to be, without considering whether they have worked hard to Xi and only reach the middle level of the class.
When we usually argue and even get annoyed with our family members, we are more angry at ourselves because of our limited ability to handle a matter easily.
But our bad emotions hurt the people around usIt is better to hurt yourself and others in this way than to let yourself go at the beginning and enjoy life while you are young.
Everything we have now can buy us some freedom, but there is a difference between freedom and self-indulgence.
Emperor Cheng of Han was the quintessential hedonist, and after he had the supreme power,Spending so much time enjoying life makes it impossible for him to take on the responsibilities of a country.
Later, Emperor Han Ai indulged**, and spent most of his time with his male pet Dong Xian, and even wanted to pass on his emperor position to Dong Xian, but fortunately, the minister Wang Hong persuaded him in time, so he did not lose his country.
Wang Hong told Emperor Han Ai the story of Bao Xi on the spot, and directly compared Dong Xian to Bao Xi, so that Emperor Han Ai could hear what he meant, but Wang Hong almost died afterwards, but fortunately, the Empress Dowager saved him.
— Epilogue —
We live in any environment to obey the law, just as we have to obey the law, not touch the bottom line of the law, only under this premise, can we truly enjoy life freely.
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