A villain like a blank sheet of paper, suddenly one day, a mouth full of ", pee, fart", I believe many parents will be shocked!
I haven't taught my child to say these things, he learned it from **?”
Parents were puzzled and shocked.
When you hear your child swearing, what is your first reaction as a parent?
Is it a reprimand or a beating?
Or just ignore it?
In the face of this situation, many parents have taken strict measures, and even used fists and kicks to stop their children from swearing, but to no avail.
If the education method is not done properly, it will lead to more rebellious behavior in the child, and even more serious consequences.
In education, we must not only know what it is, but also know why it is true, so that we can have a definite goal and achieve good educational results.
Poor language environment factors can induce children to swear
Imitation is one of the ways a child grows.
Most children love to have fun by imitating what others say and do.
Professor Ep, a well-known psychologist, said
Like a school of fish in the water, children will always refer to the people around them, observe and imitate each other.
What kind of environment makes what kind of child, and bad environmental factors will greatly increase the likelihood of a child swearing.
In "Shining Dad", the "son" Dandan, who teamed up with "Dad" Wilber Pan, used to use foul language and swearing, and the program team had to do silence many times.
Wilber Pan was shocked to the point of disbelief at first, and later Wilber Pan also conducted several educations, but Dandan's swear continued.
Even when it is a good communication, Dandan always puts words such as "fault", "big-headed ghost" and "bad guy" on his lips all the time.
In the end, Dandan's impoliteness completely angered Wilber Pan, and he was determined to give strict education to change the child's impolite behavior.
Dandan became anxious when he found out that "Dad" Wilber Pan had moved his real character, kicked him out of the room, and threw his clothes and suitcases in the yard.
When Dandan's crying and begging for an apology, Wilber Pan finally knew the reason behind Dandan's always swearing, it turned out that Dandan's parents usually talk like this.
Their initial imitation was their family members.
As children grow up, they are exposed to a wider range of objects, and the objects of imitation are no longer limited to family members. They may imitate the dialogue of characters on TV, they may imitate the dialogue between classmates, and so on.
If you are in this environment for a long time, the child will also be "close to the ink and black".
You know, children's learning Xi is very strong, now many children in the small grade have been exposed to computers, tablets, an electronic product, the information on it is overwhelming, and children from what knowledge we do not know, so when children say a dirty word lightly, we are always shocked.
A child may be swearing in a desire to get attention
When a child swears for the first time, parents may be anxious, but they also choose to be gentle and reasonable. Some parents will also think that children are childish, saying that these are very cute, and they joke with their children.
This is just the right time for children to discover that as long as they swear words, their mother will pay attention to them. And such a conditioned reflex is established:
Talking dirty, my mother will come to pay attention to me and talk to me well.
In this way, the truth may have been said thousands of times, and the child will take the initiative to swear next time.
Therefore, children's Xi of swearing may be cultivated and reinforced by our parents unknowingly!
Dr. Sears said
Children who do not receive parental love are more likely to fall into an emotional storm.
When a child is unhappy and swears, we should also reflect on whether we have ignored the child's feelings.
Many times, the child's request is very simple, and a parent's expression of love and a warm hug are enough to satisfy the child's inner desire.
Therefore, family education, parent-child relationship, etc., all have a great impact on children.
Correct coping posture: Accept and understand the child's need for love, arouse empathy, and pay attention to the child's inner needs.
Some parents are very concerned about the impact of the child's swearing, and some parents think that it is not a big deal, and when the child grows up, it will be naturally corrected. But what we can be sure of is that the child swears on his own image, on the child's growth, and on the people around him are very great, to let the child be a polite, civilized person, then we must find the source of the child's swearing, stop it from the source, so as to change the child!