Rebellious, impulsive, repressive, indifferent......After the formerly well-behaved and sensible children enter puberty, it seems that they become unrecognizable overnight. On November 28, a co-construction activity with the theme of "paying attention to children's adolescent emotions" was carried out in Yongfeng Street Flower Public Welfare. Under the chairmanship of Zhao Jialin, the founder of Fanhua Public Welfare, more than 10 parents with adolescent children and urban management team members from various towns had a heated discussion. 
When my daughter entered junior high school, she became sensitive and had low self-esteem, and she lost her temper at every turn, and then she didn't go to school at all. My husband not only didn't understand, but always complained that I couldn't educate my children, which made me depressed. Ms. Zhang, a parent, said frankly, "During that time, I was extremely anxious, so I simply quit my job and watched her at home every day, for fear that she would not think of anything stupid." Later, I tried to use Teacher Jia Lin's 'empathy + pleasure' method to get along with the children, and I came out step by step. ”
Hu Xixi, deputy captain of the Yexie Chengguan Squadron, shared his experience in emotional management at work. "In our work, we have also encountered the situation of being besieged and abused by law enforcement targets, but in the face of this situation, we must not only fight back and scold, but also enforce the law softly and fairly. Hu Xixi said that although I often feel aggrieved in my heart, work and life should still be treated separately, "so when we go home, we will choose to play with our children, do crafts, pet cats and other things to divert our emotions."
As the name suggests, 'empathy + pleasure' is to divert one's emotional attention and use handicraft, ** painting and other ways to cultivate temperament. Zhao Jialin introduced, "Adolescent children are depressed, and many times they are influenced by their parents. Therefore, as a parent, you must first learn to love yourself, and you can only illuminate the way forward for your children if you live as a beam of light first. ”
Founded in December 2021, Fanhua Public Welfare is a public welfare organization that focuses on women and adolescents with depression, and has successfully helped more than 1,700 women and adolescents suffering from depression since its establishment.
*: Shanghai Songjiang.