I have been in class for 6 years in my life and get a pension of 8200 per month, but my mother is the pain of my life!
I was born in Xi'an, Shaanxi Province, and I already have four older sisters in my family. At that time, my parents expected me to be a boy, but I was a girl, which disappointed the elders. 
Especially my mother, she has always been sad. Once my aunt came to see her little son who had just been born for half a year, and when she saw her mother's depressed expression, her aunt smiled and said, "What's upset, why don't we two change it?""My aunt is my mother's sister, and she gave birth to three boys and a girl, but I didn't expect their jokes to come true.
So, the two of us really swapped us. My mother carried my brother to the city, and I was carried home by my aunt.
Maybe it's because my aunt and mother have a deep sisterhood, or maybe it's because our family has a city hukou. It was the 70s, and the urban hukou seemed to be in high demand, and many rural people were eager to go to the city. (Friends, what do you think your aunt had in mind at that time?)Let me know in the comments!）
When I was about six years old, it was probably because my mother's neighbors told her that she must have felt bad about putting her own daughter in the countryside. When my own mother heard this, she also became uneasy, so she asked me back from my aunt's house and gave me a city hukou.
However, since I didn't grow up with my own mother, she always didn't like me. She always scolded me loudly, saying that I couldn't do this or that, and that she loved my brother and the youngest fourth sister the most.
Over time, we grew up. Because the university was very difficult to get into at that time, several older sisters and brothers went to unofficial junior colleges, and the tuition fees also cost a lot. Our family's financial situation was very tight for a while.
Maybe it's because I've been blamed by my mother a lot more, and the worse the conditions, the more I can hone people. I became the most savvy kid in my family. After graduating from junior high school, I voluntarily chose to enter a technical school, not wanting my family to pay too much for me.
By the year I graduated from technical school, my brother had already joined the army, and the fourth sister of the family had also left with the class to complete their undergraduate studies (my dad worked at a university, and at that time, many children of faculty and staff could not get into college, and the school allowed them the opportunity to pay to study with regular college students, although they could not get a diploma).
In fact, two years ago she had already obtained a correspondence diploma. At that time, many children of faculty and staff in our college chose this way to go straight into the workforce, because it was very easy to find a job a year in advance. Completing a university shadowing course without awarding a diploma is a waste of money and time.
However, she has a very stubborn personality and insists on completing four years of undergraduate studies even without a diploma. As an older sister who was pampered by her mother, she never took money seriously and always regarded it as insignificant.
It happened that we both graduated at the same time that year, and it happened that in order to take care of the old revolutionaries who participated in the work before the liberation, a batch of employment indicators were approved, and my father's conditions were met, so our family obtained an index to enter my father's school. However, the premise of entry is that you can only be a worker, and even if someone has a cadre quota, it will be abolished and can only hold a worker's position.
At that time, my parents hoped that the fourth sister could use this indicator to stay in college, but she was arrogant and thought that she was a cadre, but she could only use the worker index, and felt unwilling. She resolutely refused to work as a worker at my father's university, which made my parents helpless and unable to force her.
In fact, the children of several leaders also chose to abandon this worker index and go to work as cadres in large state-owned factories outside, and universities were not considered ideal work units at that time. 
Later, an acquaintance whom my father had helped and had some connections helped to arrange for my sister to become a teacher in a school for the children of a large state-owned factory, and my sister was very satisfied.
Therefore, the university worker index was left to me, but when I arrived at the unit, I found that the employment index of my all-staff workers was assigned to the school-run factory of the school, and it was assigned to the assembly line as soon as I went. Sitting for 8 hours a day, soldering boring circuit boards under the lights all the time, causing a lot of damage to the eyes, and the work is not a little technical, anyone can do it.
On my first day on the job, I cried sadly and went back to tell my parents that I didn't want to work in the school-run factory and wanted to go back to the technical school to reassign jobs (the employment index of the technical school at that time was also quite good). My mother scolded me: "How can you waste the employment indicators that you have finally gotten in?""In desperation, I had to persevere.
Over time, I worked hard and eventually won the approval of the workshop director and was placed as a warehouse keeper.
Young people are always full of dreams, and I feel like I can't go on like this for the rest of my life. So, I whimsically used the balcony of my home to open a five-stroke font class and a small bookstore, which became the first of me to use the balcony to start a business in our compound. Later, small shops like this in our yard sprung up like mushrooms after a rain. 
At that time, the five-and-a-half-day work week had already begun to be implemented nationwide, but the factory still followed the six-day work system without authorization, and often notified the indiscriminate overtime on Sundays or evenings. It happened that one night I was notified to work overtime, so more than a dozen young people in our factory did not go.
The next day, the director angrily called us over. He sat on the boss's chair and shouted at us for why we didn't work overtime!I was too young to say anything. I plucked up the courage to say earnestly to the factory manager: "Labor law regulations.
As a result, the director of the plant was very angry. After that, he kept putting small shoes on me at work, setting up all kinds of difficulties, and finally announced that I was not doing well and fired me. He said that he sent me back to school, because I was a national labor index, and the factory director could not fire me directly, so he could only say that he would return me to school.
Afterwards, I found an acquaintance to give me a gift and asked the school leaders to help me apply to return to school. However, no leader wants to take care of this. If I can't go back to school, and the factory doesn't want me, I'm unemployed.
What pains me the most is that my dad is an overly honest man. After learning that I had a treat and gifts, he scolded me for losing the face of his old party member and old revolutionary, and almost beat me to the point of bleeding!
What's even more surprising is that the fourth sister may be too introverted because of her personality, and she became mentally ill after just a year as a teacher and couldn't go to work. She imagined me to be her enemy, sent undercover agents from her family, and even sabotaged my Wubi font class and bookstore, making it impossible to continue.
At that time, I really encountered too many difficulties, and the people around me sneered at me, ridiculed and ridiculed me constantly. The fourth sister always looked at me with suspicion, and my parents mistakenly thought that the fourth sister's illness was because I robbed her of her job, which led to all this, and my family was disdainful of me.
I couldn't stand it, and in order to escape from that sad place, I met a boyfriend who was working in a foreign country by chance, so I decided to get married and live in a foreign country.
However, at that time, a letter of introduction was required from the employer to apply for a marriage certificate. I approached the factory manager several times, but he always refused to give me a letter of introduction. Eventually, he told me, "I can't give you a letter of introduction, because doing it is tantamount to 'slapping yourself in the face!'"’”
However, I eventually got a letter of introduction.
After the report was handed over to the leaders at all levels, a leader of the Enterprise Management Office expressed deep sympathy for me. He told me he would talk to the factory manager. However, when I approached the leader again a few days later, he told me that he had communicated with the factory manager, but the factory director still refused to give me a letter of introduction.
Although the leader of the enterprise management office could not change the situation, because at that time, as long as the factory director paid enough management fees, the leaders at all levels of the school were unwilling to hold me accountable for the sake of a small person. However, the leader expressed sympathy and told me that the enterprise management office could help me issue a letter of introduction. (I was full of gratitude to this leader in my heart, and I sincerely gave a gift afterwards to show my gratitude).
However, just after passing the letter of introduction, there was another problem with the Family Planning Office. They said that I had not applied for a birth quota in the factory before, and now I have no work unit, and the Family Planning Office will not be able to manage me in the future, so they refused to give me a letter of introduction and stamp it. (I was really angry, I was a young girl at the time, and I had never even talked about love, who would take the initiative to apply for fertility indicators?)）
In desperation, due to the independent status of the Family Planning Office, I had to privately give a gift to the director of the Family Planning Office again, and later she asked me to pay the family planning deposit publicly before she was willing to give me a letter of introduction and seal it.
In the end, because it was an inter-provincial marriage, it was necessary to stamp a special seal with the civil affairs department, but when I went to get the seal, I was told that I had never had this seal, and the whole process of obtaining a marriage certificate was extremely tortuous.
Therefore, I cherish my relationship with my husband very much.
During this period, I went back to my hometown to visit my parents during the summer holidays and Chinese New Year.
About 6 years later, one day my mother suddenly called me and asked me to go back to my hometown to work. She told me that since I left my hometown, the efficiency of several school-run factories has become worse and worse, and eventually all the workers have been unable to pay their salaries. As a result, dozens of all-people workers banded together to find the principal and ask for a solution to the work problem. The principal could not cope with it, and after research, it was decided to ban the school-run factory and let all the workers return to the school headquarters.
My child was only five years old at the time, and I didn't want to be separated from my children or my husband because I had been separated from my parents as a child and knew the pain of being away from my parents and children. As a result, I was reluctant to go back to work, even to give up my job rather than go back.
My mom kept urging me to go back (the reason why she wanted me to go back will be explained later), and at first I thought she was trying to keep the single dormitory assigned to me by the school, because the school never took it back when I left. But I don't care about the dorms anymore.
However, my mother insisted that I go back to work. I told her that I couldn't live separately from my husband for a long time, and my mother told me that I only needed to go back to school for three months before I could leave my job without pay. If I don't go back, she will cut off the mother-daughter relationship with me. 
I learned about the school's policy, and I could indeed leave my job without pay, so I took my child back to school. During these three months, the school arranged some dirty and tiring work for us. In fact, some of the staff who went back to school with me had some access to their families. As soon as they saw that the assigned work was not good, they simply stopped going, but the formalities had already been completed.
However, after all the hardships, I didn't care about my job, and after three months, I was able to leave my job without pay. I have to pay a management fee of 200 yuan every month and some miscellaneous fees that I need to pay by myself, which is basically nearly 300 yuan per month. Who knows, on the eve of the suspension of salary, my brother came to talk to me at the request of my mother.
What he meant was that if I had been on leave without pay, I would have to sign an intra-family agreement promising to divide half of the money between the fourth sister (the fourth sister who lost her job due to illness) after I received my pension. When I listened, tears welled up in my nose. I didn't expect my mom to keep asking me to come back to work for this. I did have the ability to help the fourth sister, but she tricked me into coming back and getting me to sign the agreement, which made me feel very uncomfortable.
The next day, my husband and I returned home to another country, and in order to keep the job in my hometown, I was tormented by the policies of the Family Planning Office alone. No matter where I was, I had to send a pregnancy test back to my hometown every three months, which made me feel like a criminal.
During this period, I also encountered many twists and turns, including the examination of job titles and other matters, which I will talk about in detail when I have the opportunity.
Originally, I thought that I would reach retirement age all of a sudden, but four years before I retired, my employer suddenly notified me that I was no longer allowed to leave my job without pay, and that the policy had changed, and I had to go back to work.
Fortunately, the children are already old at this time, and there are only a few years left before they can retire. However, what makes me feel uncomfortable is that at this time, the child is just about to take the college entrance examination. But for this job, I persevered for so many years, and I couldn't fall short in the end, so I had to go back to work.
During this period of work, I experienced many unexpected difficulties, but I persevered. Eventually, I was able to retire. According to the length of service, it should have been about 6,000 yuan, but with the school's various subsidies and civilization awards, I got 8,200 yuan per month.
However, at the mention of my mother, I felt a wave of endless sadness.
Looking back on my life, is it good luck or bad luck?
Afterwards, I asked my aunt why she was willing to swap children. The aunt said that her thoughts at the time were just to make her sister happy. Perhaps she is also thinking about giving her children a better life in the city. Friends, is such an aunt a great mother?
Some people say that in this exchange of children, the aunt is the beneficiary. The child has found a good job in the city, does she really get benefits?