I have encountered a very common problem, that is, many people say: my ex broke up with me, I tried my best to make amends, and my ex promised to give me a chance, but his attitude towards me changed completely, like a stranger.
Usually at this time I would say:This of yours is a fake reunion, not a real reunion.
Except for the one I just said in the example that gives you another chanceThere are also things like giving you another month, or soft-hearted reunion, or threatening reunion, in fact, all of them are in this category, and they all belong to fake reunions.
Fake reunion is more similar to that you still belong to the stage of retaining the other person, and you can't talk about getting back together with the other person. This compound of yours belongs to the other party's reward for you, and you have never gained the other person's heart.
Let me make a detailed distinction for you:
True recombination is based on your attraction to the other person, the other person needs you, and the status of the two of you should be at least equal, or you are slightly higher, so that you can maintain the relationship well.
However, the false compound is based on the fact that you use various means, you curry, humble peace, threat of compromise and other ways, and the other party temporarily agrees to make do with you, you can look at your own means of redemption, which is doomed to you to be humble and low-value in this relationship.
So what are the results of pseudo-compounding?
First of all, because your way of reuniting is too humble, the other party is like looking at you like a poor worm, and has no pity for you, only thinking of being farther away from you and rejecting you;
The second situation is that if your object is really soft-hearted, and you really feel that it is better to get along with you when you come back, then there will be a very troublesome problem hereIt's that there's no feeling of love between you.
Someone will say at this time, then if you don't have feelings, you should cultivate feelings, then you will feel in love.
I'm sorry, but feelings are never cultivated, and I've talked about this topic before, so I won't go into detail here.
The more probable situation that happens here is that because your ex is back, you are afraid that the other party will leave you again, and then you try your best to be good to the other party and please the other party, but the other party does not eat this set, because your mistakes have not been changed, and seeing that you are still the same as the original, there is really no way to fall in love with you again.
The end is separation.
Here I really give some adviceIf you want to get back together, you shouldn't be obsessed with that verbal promise, you also said so many verbal promises when you fell in love, how many of them have been fulfilled now?
But if you really love each other and don't have a verbal promise, many people flirt and scold each other every day, saying that they don't like each other, don't want each other, and it's not you and me together.
So since it's in love,Then the emotional foundation should come firstWithout an emotional foundation, if you forcibly stay with the other person, it is equivalent to kidnapping a person and making this person have to like you, what a ridiculous idea.
So to redeem this situation, I will also briefly talk about it:
Many things, depending on what your final appeal is, if you just want to look at each other every day, regardless of whether the other person is reluctant or not, then you can, you can pretend that you don't need love to get along. Although you know in your heart that the final outcome of such a false reunion is also separation, you don't have to wake up with the idea of living a happy day by day.
But if you really want your relationship to be reconciled, you need to find your problems and correct them steadily. Moreover, sometimes, when it is time to take the initiative to let go, be brave, maybe the moment when the person is farther away from you is the time when the heart is closer to you.
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