In families, we often inadvertently favor one child over another, and this favoritism can have far-reaching psychological consequences for children. Today, I would like to share a story from my personal experience, hoping to give you some inspiration. I am Li Fengzhi, a 68-year-old man with two grandchildren, the eldest is named Li Tianyu and the younger is named Li Tianze. They are incomparably precious to me, and I always do my best to care for them, but I am confused and cause a family tragedy. 15 years ago, my grandson Li Tianyu was born, and I was full of love for him.
Two years later, Tianze also came to this world, he and his brother Tianyu have completely different personalities, lively and mischievous, often making people laugh. I doted on him even more, and I thought it might be because I was getting older and more attached to this energetic child. Once, when our family was eating in the yard, I made meat-filled dumplings and light radish soup. At that time, I sandwiched a few rice balls into Tianze's bowl, and only scooped radish soup for Tianyu. Tianyu said aggrievedly that he wanted to eat rice balls, but I comforted him that the soup was just as delicious. Tianze happily sucked the rice balls, and deliberately said to Tianyu: "Brother, the rice balls are delicious!."Tianyu's eyes were red, and he left the table.
At that moment, I sighed in my heart, thinking that Tianyu shouldn't be like this, but Tianze's smile was so cute, it made me difficult to control myself. Gradually, I found that the distance between Tianyu and me was getting farther and farther away. He stopped talking to me and was always alone in his room. And every time I see Tianze's sweet smiling face, I can't help but soften my heart, which makes me more inclined to Tianze. I wanted to buy the same toys for them, but Tianyu said, "Grandma, we're all too old to play with these anymore." And Tianze often comes to talk to me, which makes me feel that I shouldn't be partial, but every time I see Tianze's sweet smiling face, I can't help but soften my heart.
Time flies, the children are growing up, but I realize that my favoritism has caused irreversible damage to the family. I am deeply aware that as elders, we need to treat every child equally, and should not favor them because of personality differences, otherwise, such favoritism may bring long-term harm to children. I am deeply saddened by my confusion, and I hope that more parents can take this as a warning. Because every child is unique, we should nurture them with the same love and give them the same care and attention. In this way, they can thrive and move towards the future healthily and happily.
Yes, every child deserves to be treated equally, and they all need our understanding and love. From now on, let's treat every child with an equal heart and give them endless love, so that they can thrive in a warm family. This may be our responsibility and mission as parents. So, don't repeat my mistakes, let's start now and give every child the same love and care, so that they can thrive in a warm family atmosphere. May every family be a warm harbor for children to grow up, so that they can harvest joy, growth and happiness here. After doing something wrong, we always try to make amends, but many times, others are not willing to accept our apologies and compensation.
This situation makes us feel guilty and sad because we see our own mistakes, but we cannot be forgiven and recognized by others. Just like this grandmother, her partiality towards her grandson made Tianyu disheartened and finally chose to run away from home. Grandma blames her for her partiality, but her self-blame does not bring Tianyu back, but instead breaks down the family relationship even more. This makes us reflect on what we should do to get forgiveness and recognition from others after doing something wrongFirst of all, we need to seriously reflect on our mistakes, understand what we have done wrong, and then take positive actions to make amends. However, we want to note that making amends is not the same as forgiving.
We can't control what others think and do, and we can't force them to accept our apologies and compensation. Therefore, we need to be patient enough to wait for the time to come, and respect the feelings and decisions of the other person. Second, we need to prove our change with actions. If we keep saying apologies but don't actually act, then others will not believe in our sincerity and determination. We need to be concrete about our changes and let others see the results of our efforts. In this way, they will trust us more and be more likely to accept our apologies and compensation. Finally, we need to be brave enough to face our mistakes and consequences.
We can't run away from it, we can't blame it on others or circumstances. Only by bravely admitting our mistakes and facing the consequences bravely can we gain the respect and recognition of others. Returning to the story of this grandmother, her partiality caused her grandson to run away from home, and her self-blame did not let her grandson come back. However, if she can truly reflect on her mistakes and take positive actions to make amends, so that Tianyu can see her changes and efforts, maybe Tianyu will return to the family. More importantly, she needs the courage to face her own mistakes and consequences, and she can't blindly evade or shirk responsibility. Only in this way can she truly be forgiven and recognized by others, and make the family harmonious and happy again.
As time goes on, people tend to have more opportunities to reflect on their lives, the decisions they have made and the costs they have paid in the past. This grandmother is a good example. She has always felt guilty and remorseful because of her young mistakes and loss of her grandson's trust and respect. For 15 years, she has been worried about the safety of her grandchildren, hoping that one day they will be back to her. But it all seems to be getting more and more distant. But the wonderful thing about life is that often when you let go of your obsession and go with the flow, there will be a wonderful turn.
Just like this time the grandmother met her long-lost grandson, he has become a mature and stable man, and he already has his own career and family. He did not resent his grandmother's youthful mistakes, but was tolerant and understanding, which made his grandmother feel relieved, and finally released the remorse and self-blame in his heart. This story tells us that on the road of life, we often encounter all kinds of difficulties and challenges, but we must learn to face our mistakes calmly, give ourselves and others a chance to make up for our mistakes, and let life move forward with fewer regrets and regrets. Love and tolerance are the medicine to resolve all grievances, as long as we manage with our hearts, we will eventually reap the rewards.
At the same time, we also need to understand that there are some things in life that we cannot fully control, and we need to accept changes and uncertainties, and go with the flow in order to find our own destiny and future. It is worth mentioning that although this story tells the story of an old man and his grandson, the truth and meaning contained in it are very profound. Whether it is a family relationship, a friendship relationship or a love relationship, we need to manage it with our hearts, especially in the face of setbacks and difficulties, we need to use tolerance and understanding to resolve contradictions and conflicts, so that the relationship between each other is stronger and more stable.
All in all, this story gives us a lot of inspiration and food for thought, and makes us understand the complexity and diversity of life. Only when we sincerely face our own mistakes and mistakes can we find the direction and path to move forward and make our lives more perfect and fulfilling. "Grandma, stop crying. Actually, I forgave you a long time ago. Tian Ze said and hugged me. Hearing Tianze's words, I felt extremely relieved, but at the same time I felt guilty. I deeply understand how terrible partiality can be, breaking families and making family relationships strange. From then on, I was determined to change and fundamentally repair my family's relationship. In order to change Tianze's mind, I began to take the initiative to communicate with him.
I know his work and life, and I care about his difficulties and troubles. I also helped him plan for the future and made him clear about his goals. Slowly, our relationship became more and more intimate. Tianyu was also very supportive of my communication with Tianze, and he helped us resolve many conflicts. Once, he took Tianze on a trip to let him relax and experience the beauty of life. During the journey, Tianze became cheerful and began to gradually accept me and Tianyu. Gradually, our family became harmonious. Tianyu and I became closer and closer, and we began to talk about family and life. I felt younger and regained my enthusiasm and hope for life.
Looking back, I deeply realized how important family is. It is a haven for us to grow up and a haven for our souls. In the family, we can support and care for each other and create wonderful memories. Now, I'm proud to be able to rebuild old good. I learned a lot and gained a lot in the process. I learned to be open, communicative, and understanding of each other, all qualities that are integral to our family. I firmly believe that as long as we maintain spiritual communication and exchanges, and maintain the harmony and warmth of the family, we will be able to create a better tomorrow.
I have lost the trust of my grandson Tianze after the mistakes I made in the past, which makes me deeply painful. However, I firmly believe that life can be started again. After 15 years, I finally won Tianze's forgiveness and our relationship was repaired. This process has taught me that although we cannot fully control the direction of our lives, we can guide the people we care about through love and tolerance, and give them support and help when they need us. In this way, we can help them find their way in life and set them on the path to success and happiness. My grandsons Tianyu and Tianze are the pride of my life.
I watched them grow and develop with joy. Tianyu has achieved great success in his own company, and his family is very happy. I often visit their homes and help with the grandchildren. And Tianze has gradually awakened and no longer lives a wasteful life. He found a stable job and started dating a gentle and virtuous girl. Watching them together, I couldn't help but encourage him to boldly pursue love. Every Spring Festival, three generations of us will go back to our hometown for reunion. Our family was busy making dumplings and playing mahjong, and we laughed constantly. Looking at their happy smiling faces, I couldn't help but be moved to tears. I sincerely thank God for once again giving us a complete family.
Life is as unpredictable as the seasons, but it is warmer and better with love and care. Repairing a family relationship requires more than just time and understanding. What is more needed is the dedication and efforts of both sides. An old man once said, sow melons and get melons, and plant beans and get beans. Although this sentence is a cliché, it speaks to the essence of family relationships. Family is one of the most important relationships in life, but it is also one of the most easily broken. Misunderstandings and estrangements often become the initiators of family breakdown. However, the family affection that blood is thicker than water can overcome everything after all. When we understand each other with our hearts and listen to each other with our hearts, we can repair broken relationships in the precipitation of time.
I remember one summer, there were a lot of conflicts and misunderstandings between me and my family. Our relationship broke down, even to the point of no return. However, the precipitation of time has allowed us to gradually let go of quarrels and misunderstandings. We begin to understand each other, care for each other, and help each other with our hearts. Every step was taken with care, but these small steps allowed us to re-establish ourselves. Now that the grandchildren have grown up, they are beginning to understand the painstaking work of us old people. We often tell them that if you sow melons, you will get melons, and if you sow beans, you will get beans. Although this sentence is simple, it speaks to the essence of family relationships.
We must manage the family relationship with our hearts, so that the family can always exist warmly and safely. I am grateful that God has given us this opportunity to rebuild our relationship. From now on, we will always love each other and have no regrets. We will always be together and accompany each other through every autumn and winter of life. Although the road of life is getting farther and farther, home will always be our warmest and safest harbor.