The actual meaning of true love is undoubtedly worthy of everyone in this world to make it a goal.
Nietzsche once said, "There is always some madness in love, but there is also rationality in madness, and we must build the concept of true love around our own lives, rather than living our lives according to the concept of true love." ”
Love is the fall of self-consciousness, but at the same time, it also shows that love is not a fragile crystal, let alone completely abandon the self-heat, it also exists in the "deep water area".
Many partners spend their entire lives stuck in shallow water, questioning each other "do you love me" and "do you love me today and will you still love me tomorrow".
But in fact, love is invisible, sweet words, vows are just a matter of mouth, when a person really loves you, you will know that love is nowhere to be seen, but everywhere.
01: Share his past
What is more intimate between lovers than holding hands and hugging is revealing the joys or pains of the past in front of each other.
Love is actually putting the cart before the horseThe first level of intimacy between people is physical contact, the second layer is to jointly construct memories that belong to each other, and the third layer is to reveal the past to each other.
On the contrary, when a man is eager to share his past with you at the beginning of a relationship, then you need to be vigilant, because most of the time, their purpose is not to increase their understanding of each other, but to stabilize their affectionate personality.
The more people grow up, the more they are stingy to share, share the past, share the present, and prefer to bury it in the bottom of their hearts rather than re-establish it, and then trace its disappearance alone when they can't sleep in the middle of the night.
This is true for women, and even more so for men, because "past" is an extremely heavy topic, and if they are willing to open up to you, it means that they have a deep affection for you.
02: Share his worries
It is difficult to talk about your troubles, and many times, what you think, what you can say, and what others think are actually three things.
The man who can ask "Can you tell me about the recent troubles" may not really love you, because he is likely to be ** air conditioner,But a man who can share your daily troubles with you must love you miserably.
For many men, it is extremely rare to confess their hurt and troubles to others, because the education they received from childhood is similar to "men don't flick when they have tears".
Talk to your parents, worried that they won't be able to help, so you can only do it in a hurry;Talking to friends and worrying about disturbing other people's livesA man's true words are even more difficult than love itself.
When you talk about your emotions, you need to vent your emotions, you need to be heard, you need to be understoodWhen a man is willing to confide in you, it means that he not only loves you, but also sees you as an indispensable ally in life.
03: Share his future
Probably the most difficult task in this life is to figure out what kind of life you want.
How difficult it is to plan your own life, not to mention that along the way, you have to consider not only yourself, but also take care of the ideals and future life of your loved ones, so,If a man can take the initiative to share his future with you, it shows that he really loves you.
When a person desires a more positive and healthy relationship, not just a playmate, he will definitely add some "weight" to the relationship, such as planning for the future with his partner.
Planning for the future is a serious topic, and people who don't love you are not only reluctant to share, they won't even open their mouths, because they know that everyone is just having fun and don't have to take the rest of their lives.
So when girls bring up the topic, they always have an excuse to excuse themselves, and while they are ashamed to say that they are only living in the moment, they blame you for adding pressure to him.
On the contrary,When a man truly loves you, he will seem more anxious than you when it comes to the future.
Unhealthy intimacy is difficult to detect, everyone will think that dullness is what love itself looks like, three days of two-end disputes are the daily life of lovers, and extremely unstable emotions are the appendages of love.
Just like Tang Seng learned scriptures from the West, people who don't love you will only find this process troublesome and painful, while those who love you will think that this process is full of thrills, growth and happiness.
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