Life is stressful and it is difficult to raise a baby, which is a real problem faced by many young people. To solve this problem, some experts have come up with a surprising suggestion: turn to relatives for the time being. This suggestion sparked heated discussions among netizens, some supported, some opposed, some ridiculed, and some helpless. So, does this suggestion make sense?Let's take a look.
Recently, Zheng Bingwen, former director of the Institute of American Studies of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences and director of the World Social Security Research Center of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, made shocking remarks. He pointed out that at present, some young people are much less willing to have children than in the past because of the huge pressure on their lives. This includes the pressure of education, pension, medical care, childbirth, childcare and other aspects, which makes young couples feel overwhelmed. Zheng Bingwen said that he understands this situation very much, but also regrets it.
However, the expert made a surprising suggestion. He believes that despite the difficulties, young people, especially young couples, should still look forward, "difficulties are temporary after all, people's life is still long, seize the effective childbearing period, the temporary difficulties, borrow the strength of relatives and friends, otherwise after this age, I am afraid it will be a little too late to regret." ”
The core idea of this advice is that childbearing is an important part of life and should not be given up because of temporary difficulties. Moreover, childbearing is not a matter of one person or a couple, but a social affair that requires the support and help of society. Therefore, experts suggest that young people can seek the help of relatives during the process of childbearing, such as asking relatives to help take care of the child, or provide some financial support.
Regarding Zheng Bingwen's remarks, netizens expressed doubts and ridicule. Someone asked, "Can I ask an expert for help?"Someone else commented: "Are you drunk for making such remarks?"Some netizens even joked: "You don't have to go to your relatives in the future, you have to run when you see it from afar!."”
From these comments, we can see that netizens do not buy the advice of experts. They felt that the proposal was too idealistic and did not take into account the difficulties and problems of real life. For example, whether relatives are willing to help, whether they have the ability to help, whether they have the time to help, whether they have the conditions to help, and so on. Moreover, asking for help from relatives may also bring some other troubles, such as conflicts between relatives, the influence of relatives on children, relatives interfering with couples, and so on. None of these problems can be solved in a single sentence.
At the same time, netizens also questioned the expert's professionalism and judgment, believing that his remarks lacked practical significance and feasibility. They believe that the expert is just giving an unrealistic advice from his own point of view and experience, without really understanding the living conditions and psychological needs of young people. They believe that the advice of experts is not only not helpful, but may increase the stress and confusion of young people.
Regarding the suggestions of experts and the reactions of netizens, I think there is a certain amount of truth, but there is also a certain bias. In my opinion, we should maintain a rational and objective attitude, and conduct a comprehensive analysis and evaluation of any expert's advice, rather than blindly following or blindly rejecting it.
First of all, I think that the advice of experts is not completely unreasonable. Childbirth is indeed an important part of life, and it does need the support and help of society. If you can get the understanding and support of your relatives, then it is a lucky thing for young people. Moreover, there should also be a certain spirit of mutual assistance and mutual love between relatives, rather than an attitude of indifference and distantness. If relatives can get along with each other and help each other, then it is also a beneficial thing for the whole family and society.
However, I also think that there are some aspects of the experts' advice that are not realistic and thoughtful. First of all, the advice of experts ignores the subjectivity and autonomy of young people. Whether young people want to have children, when they want to have children, and how they want to have children should be their own choice, not someone else's decision.
Advice from experts can create a sense of pressure on young people to feel that childbearing is an obligation rather than a right. Secondly, the advice of experts also ignores the complexity and diversity among relatives. Not all relatives are able to help effectively, and not all relatives are able to get along well with young people. Some relatives may have their own ideas and requirements, some relatives may have their own interests and goals, and some relatives may have their own problems and difficulties. If you don't take these factors into account, blindly asking for help from relatives can lead to more trouble and risk.
Therefore, I believe that the advice of experts needs to be applied flexibly according to specific circumstances and conditions, rather than generalizing and one-size-fits-all. Young people should make reasonable decisions based on their own wishes and abilities when it comes to childbearing, rather than being swayed by the advice of others. At the same time, young people should also actively seek support and help from society, including relatives, but also pay attention to protecting their rights and dignity and avoid falling into unnecessary disputes and difficulties.