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Bai Yaping is the only daughter of the Bai family, she was born with a golden key, and when she became an adult, she married Guan Shaoyi of a cultural family.
Whether it is her background or marital status, Bai Yaping believes that she is a winner in life.
Bai Yaping got such a perfect script, which can make her life colorful even if she closes her eyes.
It's a pity that she became the most bumpy member of the Bai family.
Bai Yaping accidentally fell to the death of her own son while playing with her nephew, which caused her to have a nervous breakdown for several years in a row. Her father was a military man. Bai Yaping finally made a lot of efforts, but she was bullied by several foreign soldiers again, which made her fall into a few years of stupidity again.
In the end, on the day of the death of the second grandmother, Bai Yaping also died on the way to the funeral, marking the end of her tragic life.
When I first ** the work "Mansion Gate", I always felt that Bai Yaping's fate was too unfortunate.
However, when we re-examine it many years later, we realize that the tragic fate of Bai Yaping's life was largely triggered by herself.
He is enthusiastic about his mother's family, but he is cold to his in-laws.
As the saying goes: "A daughter who marries out, spills water." ”
What this sentence wants to express is that as a daughter, once she enters the palace of marriage, she is like water being spilled, and she should not be too involved in the affairs of her mother's family.
Even though our mothers are our loved ones, we also need to have clear boundaries like our guests and be able to offer advice when we have a problem, rather than meddling in it.
However, Bai Yaping was unable to achieve this goal.
Although Bai Yaping has become the eldest and youngest grandmother of the Guan family, even though she has two children, she still lives in her maiden home for a long time.
Guan Shaoyi has a lot of dissatisfaction with her, and he also tried to go to Bai's house to pick her and her children back, but Bai Yaping never responded.
Bai Yaping's dissatisfaction with her in-laws has two main factors:
First of all, Guan Shaoyi's cold attitude made her unable to appreciate the warmth brought by marriage.
Second: The father-in-law's attitude is too serious, and his face is expressionless as soon as he steps into the house, and the environment of her mother-in-law's house makes her unable to feel the fireworks in life.
Bai Yaping has an optimistic personality, and as a generation of doctors of the Bai family, in order to strengthen the connection with important people from all walks of life, Bai Mengtang often holds church meetings and performs large-scale plays at home.
Bai Yaping spent her childhood in this environment and has long adapted to the prosperous life of her mother's family.
As the saying goes: when a woman chooses to marry, she is not only to marry a certain man, but also to marry a complete family.
Bai Yaping has a strong interest in the lively atmosphere of her mother's house, and she can bring her in-laws and husband to participate with her. If the Guan family can also affect the atmosphere of the Bai family, they will naturally change and gradually release their own fireworks.
However, Bai Yaping didn't want to do this, she preferred to live in her maiden house rather than have too much interaction with her in-laws.
For her, marriage is as simple as completing a task.
This way of thinking does make Bai Yaping quite comfortable, however, such behavior may lead to a series of adverse consequences.
First of all, she will never be able to be part of her in-laws' family. If a woman can't live in harmony with her in-laws, then it's like she's performing alone, with neither appreciation nor respect.
Secondly, if her husband thinks differently, she can't have any objection because she is the one who pushes him out of the door.
Guan Shaoyi observed that Bai Yaping lived in the Bai family for a long time, and he gradually stopped seeing her as his wife. When he saw his son die in the Bai family, he not only developed a strong hatred for the Bai family, but also married him.
Guan Shaoyi's hatred for Bai Yaping is mainly attributed to the people of the Bai family, and when Uncle Bai suffered misfortune, the Guan family not only did not lend a hand, but exaggerated, causing Uncle Bai to fall into a predicament.
Later, when everyone was planning to leave Beijing, Guan Shaoyi was only responsible for taking his daughter Xiangling away, and he never thought about taking Bai Yaping as well. When he saw Bai Yaping abandoned, the people of her in-laws treated her as air, and no one was willing to lend a helping hand.
Although Bai Yaping was cold to her in-laws, she showed great enthusiasm in her mother's house.
When the second grandmother was about to give birth, the two sisters-in-law were waiting for news outdoors, while Bai Yaping was busy in the company of the midwife.
Bai Yaping saw that her second sister-in-law had successfully given birth to a child, so she hurriedly ran to the flower room to inform her father and asked him to choose a name for her nephew.
No matter what good or bad things happen to her mother's family, Bai Yaping will always intervene.
When the third brother went to Anguo to purchase medicinal materials, he took away 20,000 taels of silver from the family privately, which made the eldest brother and the second brother feel very troubled.
In order to avoid family changes and keep his father from being angry, the eldest brother decided to use his private money to help the third brother repair the financial gap.
After Bai Yaping learned of this situation, she quickly went to inform the second grandmother.
The second grandmother holds the values of integrity, and she understands that the uncle's behavior not only does not solve the problem, but may also exacerbate the third uncle's greedy mentality.
Therefore, the second grandmother decided to reveal this matter to Master Bai.
Bai Yaping never expected that due to her "nosy", the second grandmother and Bai Laosan would have a conflict again, and Uncle Bai would almost do something to his wife.
For the affairs of the mother's family, once you get involved as a daughter, you usually pay a lot but gain little.
Bai Yaping originally just wanted to stand up for her eldest brother, but she didn't expect to be complained by Uncle Bai, and Uncle Bai said:
If you want to meddle, then take care of your family affairs, and a married daughter stays at her maiden home every day, what is that?”
From what Bai Yaping said, we can clearly feel that her life in her mother's family has not only caused dissatisfaction among members of her mother-in-law's family, but even her brother is dissatisfied with it.
Since you are not loved by everyone in your mother's house, you should look at the current situation wisely and leave as soon as possible.
However, in the face of the eldest brother's severe reprimand, Bai Yaping expressed her opinion with tears in her eyes:
Brother, even you are dissatisfied with me. ”
Bai Yaping is not only unclear, but also has poor eyesight.
In Bai Yaping's opinion, this place has always been her warm home, and no one else can expel her except her parents.
Therefore, the Bai family's parents became the main reason for Bai Yaping's wayward behavior.
If parents genuinely care about their daughter, when they see her staying at her parents' home every day, they will definitely understand the reasons behind it and give advice accordingly.
The real way to do that is to at least get her to return less often and devote all her time and effort to her home.
However, the old lady of the Bai family seems to be indifferent to anything, and the work of Master Bai managing the White Grass Hall has kept him busy, not to mention caring about the private affairs of his children.
It is in this way that Bai Yaping can live in her maiden home with more peace of mind and peace of mind.
After getting married, they often don't know how to plan for themselves.
After Uncle Bai suffered misfortune, ** milk had suicidal thoughts.
Bai Yaping should wake herself up through the unfortunate ending of her sister-in-law, because she has lost support and support in the Bai family.
The Bai family was in danger at that time, and Bai Mengtang's health was deteriorating, so Bai Yaping saw that her in-laws couldn't go home, and she should find a way to find a new way out for herself.
The relationship between Bai Yaping and the second grandmother is the closest, and she is fully capable of relying on the second grandmother to improve her status.
For women, progress in married life is often more critical than before marriage.
Before getting married, many times it is to avoid an unworthy partner and then spend the rest of your life with a high-quality man.
The progress after marriage is more about empowering oneself to face various challenges in life.
Only by making sure that your position is solid, no matter how adversity life is, you will not collapse easily, and only when you become more independent can you truly protect your children and create a safe world for them.
As the second grandmother experienced, after Bai Mengtang's death, she single-handedly supported the Bai family, defeated the competitors with her ingenuity and recaptured the Baicao Hall.
Thanks to the strong strength and ability of the second grandmother, Bai Yuting was able to show herself as she wanted, even if she finally married **, Bai Jingqi still praised her for her loyalty to her heart.
Bai Yaping has served in the Bai family for so many years, and what she does most often is to play with her children, and her lifestyle is more like that of a nanny.
A person who cannot create value is destined to be ostracized by others.
When Bai Yaping stayed in the Bai family in the later period, she felt very sad in the face of the ridicule of the third brother, and she could hardly do anything else.
Due to his lack of ability, he can neither support his position nor ensure the safety of his daughter Xiangling.
When Xiangling was bullied and hit by her second mother at Guan's house, Bai Yaping had no choice but to run to her mother's side and cry bitterly.
In the end, Bai Jingqi, who was only eleven years old, quietly brought Xiangling to the Bai family.
Bai Yaping didn't dare to take Xiangling away from her mother-in-law's house, because the Bai family already had her idle, and she didn't dare to cause trouble to her mother's family anymore.
However, Bai Yaping's social status in the Bai family was not prominent, and even though Xiangling lived in the Bai family, she was often bullied by her cousin because he thought she was an outsider.
Even though Xiangling is twenty-three years old, her father doesn't care about her, and her mother can't protect her, and she is still unsure of her future direction.
Guan Shaoyi had no choice but to let Xiangling marry the troubled Zhan family, although Bai Yaping was extremely reluctant in her heart, she was never able to stand up bravely to stop it.
Since she can't even interfere with herself, how can she do justice for her daughter.
Bai Yaping's life is full of regrets, she originally held a good card, but in the end she was defeated by herself.
However, the misfortunes she experienced could also be avoided.
As a woman, you should have a clear understanding of yourself and your current situation in any situation.
Once you are in the middle of marriage, you should avoid stretching your hands too far and always be vigilant, because excessive involvement in the affairs of the family is the most strenuous and undesirable behavior.
For married people, the management of their own affairs is more important than anything else.