Two to three-year-old babies will have a particularly rebellious stage, that is, when they go out and press the elevator, they must press it themselves, if the mother presses it first, either you cancel it and start over, or I have to wait until the next shift to sleep. Turn off the lights, I have to turn them off, otherwise, I have to turn all the lights on and start again.
Many parents feel that this child has begun to become unreasonable, and always likes to do all kinds of things with parents, I believe that every parent will feel collapsed and helpless when they go through such a process. First of all, I want to tell you, rebellious against what, this is two to three years old at this stage of the child's growth must go through a part of the road, the child has such a performance, not that he deliberately to mess around, but our child has grown up, his brain is developing at a high speed, his action, his logical thinking has gradually become stronger, he began to feel his own power, thinking that he is the center of the universe, so he will begin to confront some of his own disapproval or do not meet his own needs, that simply means that the child will have his own opinions and preferences, rather than simply listening to his mother's words, Let the mother command, then for children at this stage, if parents can do these five points well, they can not only easily deal with the child's rebellion, but also help the child to establish rules, so that the child understands that everything can be done and not done.
The first point is that what must be done is non-negotiable. Rebellious children, will always seize every opportunity to resist, such as not washing hands, not brushing teeth, not bathing, etc., then at this time the attitude of parents, must be gentle and firm, the so-called gentle, that is, we have to calmly deal with the baby's small emotions, small rebellion, but also, but also to firm their own attitude, so that children understand what must be done every day, this is not any room for negotiation.
The second point is not mandatory, no order, eh, everything is easy to discuss, when we want the child to cooperate with one thing, change the tone of the mandatory order to the tone of discussion or asking for the child's opinion, the child will be more willing to cooperate with you.
The third point is to encourage your child to try more. Parents, do a good job of behind-the-scenes protection, this stage of the child, his curiosity is particularly heavy, and with his own action, muscle strength continues to grow, the child will challenge a lot of things he has not done before, such as like to play with knives, on the sofa or bed to jump around, and then take a pen to scribble everywhere at home, etc., then at this time parents should not forcibly stop, because the more you stop, the more curious the child, the more he wants to try, so the best way is to allow the child to explore, at the same time, pay attention to the child to provide protection, the child wants to play with the knifeThen we can take out a piece of paper with the child and let the child scratch on the paper, so that he can feel the power of this knife. If you accidentally cut the child's hand with a knife, don't blame and scold, but ask the child how he feels, and let the child summarize what to pay attention to when using the knife.
The fourth is to respect the child's opinion, and then let the child have a choice. For example, if your child is brushing his teeth, then we can ask him, do you want your mother to brush it for you, or do you brush it yourself?If we want our children to drink water, then we can ask, do you want to drink it with Ultraman's water cup or do you want to drink it with this PAW team's water cup?In this way, the child's attention is shifted from whether to brush his teeth to whether he brushes himself or his mother helps to brush, and whether to drink water to choose a water cup, so that the child can enjoy the sense of control and autonomy brought by independent choice, and can also resolve the problem of children's non-cooperation.
Fifth, we should resolutely and severely stop some inappropriate behaviors of children. For example, children love to use their hands, love to hit people, and like to throw things and drop things when they are in a bad mood, and parents must stop these behaviors in time. We can squat down and look into the child's eyes, and then tell him, baby, when you are in a bad mood, hit someone and throw things, this behavior is not right, you can try to say your feelings, so that the mother can better help you tell the child the correct way to express their emotions and dissatisfaction and then guide the child to vent his emotions reasonably, the terrible two-year-old rebellious period, in fact, is not terrible, and it will pass one day, the key is that parents give their children understanding and encouragement in this process, this kind of care from the closest and most familiar people, will inject sufficient psychological nutrition into the child's heartto lay a solid foundation for your child's future path.
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