The saddest thing about a woman is not that she is getting old, but that she has lost herself.
The most lamentable thing about women is not that they are no longer blush, but that they have no self-confidence.
A woman with a soul is a woman with charm.
If you are 30 years old and divorced with children, will you bounce back again?
One model I know, the mother of Elon Musk, the richest man in the world, Mayer Musk, she survived, she also raised three excellent children, and the richest man in the world is only one of her sons.
She is the oldest model in the world, and at 70+ years old, she still shines on the fashion stage.
So the question is, how did she succeed in the counterattack?
Found in her autobiography: no matter how bleak everything seems, there will always be light ahead. If it's too dark, turn yourself into a lamp.
This sentence is right, even if the road ahead is dark and bumpy, you must have the courage to light that lamp for yourself.
Replace fantasy with action.
I don't know if you've ever experienced this, but you've already planned it in your mind to do something, but when it comes to action, you retreat.
Explosive growth is to boldly admit one's desires and replace fantasy with action.
No matter how well you plan in your head, you can only know if it can be done if you take action.
I have a friend who said she wanted to try dancing but never took that step.
I had been dreaming about it in my heart, but one day she came to me and said, "Do you think I can really try dancing?"
I gave her an example:
I said, "You see a piece of clothing that you like in a clothing store and you want to buy it, what do you do first?"
First of all, you need to try, right, you're not sure if that size is what you need, so you need to try.
Then this dance is the same, you have to try it first to know if it is suitable for you.
In the end, she finally took the first step and bravely ran to the dance studio.
She told me that dancing was really not for her, and she wasted time thinking about it, not only wasting time, but also torturing herself.
Therefore, the clear answer is never a fantasy, only by taking action can we know which thing is the most suitable.
There is a saying: If you come out to mix, you have to come out first.
So don't plan so many routes before the action, which one is suitable and which is not, you will only know after trying.
When you take the first step, you're closer to success.
Rebuild your comfort zone.
If the above is the first step to break the status quo, now think:What kind of life do you want to live, what kind of life do you want?
In fact, many people will think about this problem when they just come out of society, but it is often after experiencing the sophistication of human feelings, and it is only when we are in our thirties and forties that we really understand what kind of life we want.
There are people. I came out of society in my twenties, changed many jobs, and finally found the most suitable for me.
There are people. It took more than 20 years to find the kind of minimalist lifestyle I wanted.
Aren't they rebuilding their comfort zone and giving themselves the life they want.
I'll give you an example I saw on the web:
A woman just ended a 7-year marriage, when she got married, she settled in her husband's hometown and gave up her job for seven years, but she didn't expect her husband to cheat, and she had to return to the place where she used to work in order to live and work again.
A woman who has given up her job for seven years or more than 30 years to compete for a position with young people in the workplace itself has to pay more time and energy than young people, and it is so hard to catch up that she finally gained a firm foothold in the workplace...
Just like Mayer Musk, she was also divorced at the beginning, but the difference is that she still has three children to raise.
But she knew what she wanted, she knew how to do it, so she grew herself and raised three children.
So no matter what the first half of your life is like, at least for this moment you are living for yourself.
Thirty, forty, fifty, after all, it's just a few twenty combined.
No matter when you started, you live for yourself, so it's never too late to rebuild your comfort zone.
Constantly updated and proactive.
TED Talk "Twenty Years Old Never Again" once said that 80% of the important moments in a person's life occur at the age of 35.
What you decide in the future depends on the knowledge you have learned.
Just like Mayer Musk, she will take the initiative to build her influence, grow herself first, and break the original boundaries to become the best version of herself.
As a woman, you should first strive for financial independence, and then you are qualified to talk about what you should strive for," said writer Yishu.
Reading really broadens people's horizons.
George Martin said, "You can experience 1,000 kinds of life by reading, and those who don't read can only live once."
It's like women in the mountains, what do they use to change their fate?In remote and impoverished mountainous areas, economic development is not good, and you can only rely on reading to find a way out.
Therefore, if you want to go out of your own way, harvest a richer spiritual world, and please your soul, you should take the initiative to update your knowledge reserves.
Finally, I wish all women to plant today's cause and achieve tomorrow's fruit, and they can grow into what they think they want to be and bloom with more brilliance.