In recent years, China's economy has ushered in a leap and development, not only the cities have become more and more prosperous, but the lives of rural residents have also become better and better. However, even so, in today's society, the gap between rural and urban areas is still obvious, which has also led to the emergence of some strange phenomena in rural and urban areas.Among them, the most obvious one is that at present, older single men in rural areas have reached the level of "walking everywhere", which makes the old parents in rural areas feel white-headed;On the other hand, in domestic cities, especially in economically developed cities, older single women are "flooded", and it seems that they have become two completely different worlds.
It stands to reason that an unmarried older leftover girl in the city can be paired with an older bachelor in the countryside, and then start a family and have children. But the problem is precisely that single men and women, because of their different economic conditions, have created an insurmountable gap between them, and they cannot be united with each other.
At present, older leftover men and women living in different environments are facing different life pressures and emotional challenges.
In rural areas, the reason why many men are single and delay getting married is mainly because the cost of marriage in today's society is too high, and women often require the man to prepare a house in the city, a car, a bride price, etc.
Men from rural families, on the other hand, are unable to afford the high bride price due to limited economic conditions, or are unable to reach more of the opposite sex due to work, making it difficult to find a suitable partner. At the same time, there are also some rural men who miss the best age for marriage because of the fact that they go out to work all year round, resulting in an increasing number of single people.
Just like the rural hometown of Guangxi, a village with a total population of more than 1,000 people, there are more than 100 elderly singles aged 30-45, and this proportion is very scary. As time passed, these singles faced tremendous pressure from their families and society, and their lives became extremely difficult.
In urban areas, with the improvement of women's education level and the change of ideology, more and more women have begun to pay attention to personal career development and independent life. Compared with the traditional lifestyle of "husband and child", they prefer to choose to be single rather than marry in order to complete the task of passing on the family lineage.
Unlike older men in rural areas, these leftover women, despite having stable jobs and an economic foundation, are unable to find a satisfactory partner for them, and are unable to start a family.
Faced with these two very different living conditions, how should society solve it?We believe that this is not a black and white issue, because different people have different pursuits and values, whether rural or urban, we should respect the lifestyles and decisions of others.
Of course, for those who are currently between the "two worlds", they can also try to transcend the limitations of geography and find their own happiness. For example, through the Internet and other channels, meet more people of the opposite sex, and broaden their social circle;Or make more friends by attending various events and parties.
In addition, society should give more attention and support to rural singles and urban leftover women, so as to solve the big problem of China's population birth rate continuing to decline.
For example, infrastructure construction can be strengthened in rural areas, industrial economy can be developed, and rural residents' incomes and living standards can be improvedIn urban areas, it is targeted to provide more dating platforms and marriage opportunities for women, and encourage women to return from work to family life.
In closing, I would like to say that each of us has the right to choose our own way of life. Whether you choose to live a single life or a married life, you should be respected and understood, but some of the consequences that come with it (such as living alone, being old and having no one to take care of you, etc.) need to be bravely faced and borne by individuals.