In traditional Chinese festivals,In addition to the Qingming Festival, you can worship your loved ones, there are also the well-known Zhongyuan Festival, Chongyang Festival and Winter Clothes Festival.
People will pass on these festivalsSome special ways to honor the memory of a deceased loved one。And there are some exquisiteness and precautions for sacrificesIt would be embarrassing to get it wrong.
There's an old saying"On the first day of October, five people can't go to the grave."。So who are these five people?Why can't you go?
of our countryThe "Three Ghost Festivals" include the Winter Clothes Festival, the Qingming Festival and the Midyear FestivalThe purpose of the festival is to commemorate our deceased loved onesEach festival is different in its way.
Today, let's talk about this Winter Clothes Festival.
As the name suggests,It's time to warm up in the cold winter, not only of us who are alive, but alsoWe must not forget our loved ones who are far away from us.
The beginning of winter is coming, and people eat dumplings on this day to prepare for the cold winter. Five days after the beginning of winter, it is the first day of the tenth lunar month.
The first day of winterOn this day, the women would take out their winter clothes and prepare them for the winterOrganize and pack the clothes for autumn and summer, wash and dry the thick clothes for winter, and then arrange them in the closet.
In addition to adding clothes, it will also do heating facilitiesThis Xi is called opening the furnace. Men will take out the stove that burns in winter, tidy it up and install the chimney, and will also burn matches to try it out to ensure that the chimney does not run smoke, which also means that there is a warm home in winter.
Another important theme of this festival is to pay tribute to the deceased and visit the graves. In ancient times, men were fighting in distant places, or children were studying Xi abroadThe women would wrap some thick cotton clothes and give them to their relatives in distant places.
Such Xi habits Xi customs have been handed downSlowly, they will also "send" cotton clothes that can survive the winter to the deceased and ancestors.
In the second half of September, it sells clothes, boots, shoes, hats, and clothes, and burns them on the first day of October. ”People pay attention to these traditional festivals, and they do not forget their deceased loved ones. Small shops will prepare paper cotton clothes and cotton shoes, and people will buy theseGo to the grave and burn it to the deceased relatives by the way, so that they can also keep warm for the winter.
Follow the festival Xi and fulfill filial piety at the same timeThere are also some particularities and matters that we need to pay attention to, and these still need to be understoodSo as not to get an embarrassing scene when you don't know.
Especially as the old saying goes, five people can't go to the grave. What do you say?
When the elderly are unwell at a certain age, the soil of the cemetery is soft, and the road may not be uneven, and they will have to rest after walking a little distanceIf the old man with bad legs and feet is not careful, even if he falls slightly, he will be uncomfortable.
The age is old, the elderly just can't stand the toss, the cold food festival is in winter, the temperature is low and the wind is strong, if the warmth is not in place,If you are blown by the wind again, you will have a headache and brain fever when you go back. If you are dizzy, you will have to be taken care of by others, which must not be worth it.
The deceased are all relatives, they may be their brothers and sisters, or they may be their own children, and there may be some time on weekdaysImmerse yourself in the time of losing a loved one
When that day comes, they will definitely be eager to come to the graveyard of their relatives to catch up, if the emotions are overThe mood may not be relieved for a while, and the body and mind are exhausted.
Therefore, it is not recommended that the elderly at home go in person, the old people should learn to "let go", and the children can help the elderly to do more filial pietyThe old people are also a little more relaxed.
It's not that all the elderly can't go, if your elderly are strong and in good health, you can also lead the elderly to have a lookReassuring him himself.
People who are sick can't goSick people need to be well cultivated, and it is not advisable to go to the grave to go to the grave.
Going to the grave to worship requires cleaning the grave, kneeling and prostrating to show sacrifice and remembranceIt will also burn paper clothes and paper money, which is not suitable for people who are sick and unwell.
The temperature dropped sharply in the cold weather, and the body was already uncomfortableThe environment of the cemetery is not very suitable for a long stayIf only I went on this trip,It's not worth adding a new disease.
The illness here refers to those who are weak and sick, have weak immunity, cannot catch the wind, and cannot be emotionally excessiveTake good care of your body, and rest in peace for those who have died.
It is better not to go during pregnancyThe fetus in the body is not stable in the first trimester, pay more attention to the impact of the environmentYou have to protect yourself
The road is long and bumpy, and you can't adjust yourself too muchIt wouldn't be good if something happened.
Sweeping the grave may involve burning incense and paper, and ordinary people will wave their hands to drive away these cigarettes, if the pregnant mother smells too much, it will definitely beMore uncomfortableIt may even affect the child in the womb。Originally, it was sad when a loved one died, and if the mood of nostalgia fluctuated greatly, my body would not be able to stand it.
So it's not that there is anything unlucky about pregnant women going to the grave, butBecause pregnant women are not suitable for this environmental conditionIt is not recommended to go in person.
Some people will say, I want to take my children to meet their ancestorsBy the way, let them know about holiday XiIsn't it okay?Your original intention is good, but it depends on your age.
Psychologists have studied the relationship between death and young children, and the research has shown that children of different ages have different levels of awareness of deathIn other words, not children of all ages can accept death as naturally as adultsThey also have a process, and we have to go with the flow.
Children under the age of age are still relatively ignorant, the fact that he is going to die will not really let him understand the meaning, and it is possible that he willIt's counterproductive
If a child of this age is taken to the grave, they may be frightenedMake a bad childhood memory.
When the children grow up, they can slowly understand the meaning of death, and parents can do popular science, but don't deliberately scare the childrenLet your child understand that death is a natural law.
You can take them with you, tell them the process in advance, and let the children follow the adults shallowlyTry to get your child to do something.
The son-in-law should not go to the grave, and go to the grave to insult the ancestors". It isThe older generation's statementPreviously, men had a higher status than womenMen are seen as the continuators of the family bloodline, going to the grave to sweep the grave naturally also allows qualified men to do it.
And if the daughter marries out, it belongs to the husband's family, if the daughter takes her husband to the grave, so that outsiders can see the existence of the son-in-lawwill think that there is no male in the deceased's familyThat's why I let my son-in-law go on my behalf.
This view is a bit feudal and old-fashionedNot so many people pay attention to these now. Now it's all about the concept of equality between men and women, and the son-in-law is also half a son on the woman's mother's sideYou can also do your filial piety for it.
You must know that not going to the grave is not unfilial pietyPaying tribute to the deceased is the meaning of this festival。All five of them are some special circumstances, and it is not recommended to go in person.
The Winter Food Festival is coming up in a few days, are the families ready to take the time to go to the grave?Be sure to pay attention to safety on the road and be sure to use the correct way to go to the grave.