For adults who have been single for a long time and can't find a partner, blind dates can be an effective way to get out of singles. If both parties like each other, they can start a relationship on the premise of marriage;If it doesn't fit, you can also end it without hesitation to avoid wasting time and feelings.
However, blind date is not an easy task, and some skills need to be careful to improve the success rate and quality of blind date. This article will take a man's experience of failing a blind date as an example, the difficulty and precautions of blind date, and put forward some constructive suggestions.
This single man is an ordinary office worker, with a stable job, a decent income, and an above-average appearance. Despite this, he has never been able to find the other half of his heart. His parents were anxious about this, and they introduced him to many blind dates, but none of them aroused his interest. Until one day, he happened to see a girl's ** and thought that the other party was very beautiful, so he agreed to the invitation of a blind date. He was full of anticipation and a little nervous at the same time, hoping to make a good impression on the woman. Little did he know, however, that all the preparations he had made would be in vain.
He and the girl agreed to meet at a snack bar in Shaxian because he felt that the food here was delicious and affordable, and it would neither seem luxurious nor frugal. He arrived at the store early, ordered two fried noodles, an egg fried rice, and two duck legs, ready to surprise the girl. He chose to sit by the window, glancing at his phone from time to time, waiting for the girl to arrive.
The girl arrived on time, wearing a white down jacket, with a neat hairstyle and a light powder on her face, which looked very fresh and lovely. The man fell in love at first sight and felt that he was really lucky. He greeted warmly, pulled out a chair for the girl, and invited her to sit down. The girl thanked politely, then lowered her head and concentrated on playing with her phone.
The man felt a little embarrassed and tried to talk to the girl, asking her about her work, hobbies and family. However, the girl only replied casually and did not show much interest. The man thought to himself, maybe the girl was shy and didn't like to talk much, but he didn't pay much attention to it, and continued to talk about his situation, hoping to open up the conversation.
The meal was quickly brought to the table, and the man picked up a duck leg and put it on the girl's plate, saying, "Eat it, this duck leg is really delicious, I often eat it in this restaurant." The girl looked up at him, didn't speak, didn't move her chopsticks, and continued to immerse herself in the mobile game. The man felt very strange and asked, "Aren't you hungry?"Don't you like this dish?The girl shook her head and replied, "No, I just had dinner, so I'm not very hungry." The man then said, "Then you can take a small bite, or it will be wasted." The girl replied, "No, eat it yourself." ”
The man felt a little discouraged and thought that the girl was not very interested in him, so he was a little depressed and put down the chopsticks in his hand to find other topics. He glanced at the girl's phone and saw that she was browsing Weibo, so he asked, "What kind of Weibo content do you usually like to follow?"The girl replied, "Just look at it, I don't have a particular preference." The man then asked, "Then have you followed a certain celebrity or current affairs hot topic?"The girl shook her head: "No, I don't care much about that. The man asked, "What do you like to do?"The girl replied, "It's just playing with the phone, watching TV, sleeping, and I don't have any special hobbies." ”
The man thought the girl was bored and didn't know what to say, so he was silent for a while. At this moment, the girl's mobile phone rang, she picked it up and looked at it, said "I'm sorry", and then answered the **, and walked out of the store while talking. The man thought she might be in a hurry, so he waited for a while, but the girl never returned. He tried to hit **, only to find that it had been turned off. Only then did he realize that the girl was deliberately making excuses to escape, and he suddenly felt a chill in his heart.
He didn't know that he had ** gone wrong, and he didn't understand why the girl was so cold to him and didn't even want to have a meal with him. He felt very aggrieved and angry, so he paid the bill and left.
His friends filmed his blind date experience and uploaded it to the Internet, which caused heated discussions among many netizens. Some netizens sympathized with him, thinking that the girl was too impolite and disrespectful;While other netizens criticized him for not knowing how to go on a blind date and not understanding girls. Some netizens even ridiculed him"Single by strength", suggesting that he change places and adopt a different approach next time.
So, why did his blind date end in failure?What the hell is he doing wrong?Let's break it down.
The blind date location he chose first was not quite suitable. Although Shaxian snacks are cheap and delicious, the environment is noisy and the atmosphere is low-grade, which is not an ideal place for two strangers to go on a blind date. The original intention of the blind date is to get to know each other better and promote the relationship, if you choose such a place, it will not only affect the communication, but also make the woman feel that the man is stingy and lacks sincerity and taste. He should choose a quiet, comfortable and atmospheric place, such as a café, restaurant or cinema, so as to make a good impression on the woman and also help improve his image.
Secondly, the blind date food he chose was not suitable. While fried noodles, egg fried rice, and duck legs are delicious, they are too oily and unhealthy to match a girl's diet. Girls are usually more focused on their body and are not interested in these foods;In addition, these foods are also not good for communication and can easily make people feel uncomfortable. He should choose light, healthy and delicious foods, such as salads, fruits, sushi and desserts, which will not only satisfy the girl's taste, but also show the man's thoughtfulness and create a relaxed and happy atmosphere.
The blind date he chose was once again pointed out as inappropriate. He kept presenting himself to the girl without giving her enough opportunity to speak and asking her about topics of interest. This makes the girl feel that he is selfish and boring, unattractive. He should pay more attention to the girl's feedback, listen to her ideas, and learn more about her preferences, such as work, dreams, hobbies, travel, movies, and **, etc. Only in this way can common topics be found, interaction and intimacy enhanced.
In the end, the blind date attitude he adopted was not appropriate. His indifference and complaints about the girl were not expressed or resolved in a timely manner, but he chose to blindly endure and compromise, making the girl feel that he lacked assertiveness, charm and self-confidence. When he finds that the girl is dissatisfied, he should take the initiative to ask the reason, apologize sincerely, or express his dissatisfaction frankly, or resolve the embarrassment with humor, or even end the blind date decisively, so as to show his personality and charm.
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Through this man's failed blind date experience, we can conclude that a blind date is not simply a dinner together, but requires some skill and psychological preparation to improve the success rate and quality. If you are also an older but unmarried single young person who wants to find your significant other through blind dates, then you must keep these tips in mind to avoid making similar mistakes, and may you solve the problem of singleness as soon as possible and find happiness.