Some people's personality traits are simple and direct, what they like and what they don't like, accept or reject it simply and say it, rather than being tactful or embarrassed. However, some people think that people are twisting and want to refuse and welcome, so they have been desperately demanding. Some people are more tactful, they obviously want it, but they say don't want it, but their bodies betray their hearts, because they are doing a feint to leave, but in fact they don't take a single step.
So, in such a situation, sometimes it is really troublesome to communicate. Some say no, no, and explicitly refuse, it is really a refusal, don't force or force it anymore. However, some people just don't care about other people's words, when other people's rejection is the wind in their ears, and they stubbornly think that maybe people are just shy and embarrassed, so they will refuse like this. Perhaps, most of the people they usually meet are like this, they obviously want to get something, but they just don't dare to say it directly, they always have to be polite, but they just wait for others to send them before they leave satisfied.
However, if you want something, why do you have to behave so politely?said no, no, no, no, no,
Since you want to like it, why don't you respond directly and say okay, I want it. Isn't it okay to be bold and direct?However, they like to retreat there, and they don't want others to see that they really want it.
The consequence of this is that when those people with direct personalities deal with such people, they will really be inexplicably difficult and painful. Obviously, he has refused, and he patiently said the reason for his refusal, but others just don't listen, continue to urge, force, and even want to use moral kidnapping to force people to comply, for example, if you don't drink this glass of wine, you don't give face to me, if you don't come to this dinner, you look down on me, and so on.
However, direct people tend to explicitly reject what they don't like or can't do, don't play those vanity, and it's not a euphemism that wants to refuse and welcome. However, for what they like or can do, they will take the initiative and do not need the politeness of others at all, and they will also get their hands on it and eat it with relish. However, the problem is that the things they like are ignored in the eyes of others, as if they can't see them.
So, on the surface, they seem to care about you very much, and they will give you something, but in fact, the things you give you are things that you don't like and don't want, and you refuse hundreds of times, and they still choose to ignore them, and they won't take your words to heart, and continue to repeat the same trick next time.
However, if they really care about you or are good to you, your likes or dislikes, or even scruples, why don't they take it to heart?They just want to impose what they think is good on you, and you have to accept it, if you refuse, you are not sensible, you don't give face, and you will even hold a grudge against you.
And some people obviously want it very much, but they are reluctant to give it, but they have a very hard mouth, they dare not admit it, and they make all kinds of reasons for themselves, they don't like it, they never eat these, they don't need it. However, they were unwilling to leave, and when others had finished everything and delivered it to them, they left willingly, and before leaving, they said angrily that they didn't want to give these back.
However, anyone with a discerning eye can see that they obviously want it in their hearts, so why should they be so different?Say generously, okay, I want this, wouldn't it be better not to make such a twist and turn?They speak as if they were guessing riddles. It's clear that it's not on the lips, but what I'm thinking in my heart is yes. And then there's a tug-of-war there, but there's no intention of stopping. Perhaps, they think this kind of game is fun. My careful thinking was not exposed, and then I got what I wanted, which was given voluntarily, and I didn't say I wanted it, okay, I like it.
In some scenes, if you want to refuse and welcome, it is too tactful, and not everyone can do it. Some people just like to be simple and direct, like if they like, if they don't like or can't do it, they refuse, without thinking too much about what they really think, what they want, they will just say they like, okay, or nod their heads.