Reason 1: Insecurity
Take myself as an example. The most important reason why my boyfriend has never been married is insecurity, which comes from my own sense of security, a sense of security that I recognize myself and my surroundings. I don't feel secure about myself, and I've been desperately looking for security, so I'm not married.
Although he already has a boyfriend and a partner to marry, the other party is often like a little boy, ignorant and immature. In addition, the work of both parties is average, the family environment is average, and the matter of the house has not been resolved, and the matter of marriage has been delayed. At about the same time, it is time to get married or to get married.
Unmarried reason 2: There is no partner, how to get married
Take my post-80s friends as an example. Graduated and got married early (one or two years), probably because the environment was relatively stable or accidentally had a BB; The normal one is about four years, the age is about the same, and the time is about the same; The late ones have been dragging out and not getting married, mainly due to the lack of a suitable marriage partner.
Reason 3: Geography and working environment
Most of those who drift in first-tier cities (70%) get married and have children late, while those who stay in third- and fourth-tier cities, state-owned enterprises and institutions (80%) mostly get married and have children early.
The first to get married was the class flower, and the boyfriend in college stayed in a small city, the family environment of both parties is better, and the problem of the house and car was solved in more than a year after graduation, and the class flower also entered the public institution, and the situation was stable, so the marriage was early.
The second is a pair of high school classmates with a deep emotional foundation, plus the boy is an overseas employee of HW and has a good income, so in the second year of graduation, he solved the house (second-tier city) and got married, and did not let the family pay half a dime. At present, the boys are responsible for making money to support their families, and the girls are responsible for being beautiful like flowers.
If you don't have time or experience, you will really think that marriage is a matter of two people, just get a certificate, and you can do it.
In fact, in the real world, marriage is a matter for two families. When you're ready to tell your friends and family that you're getting married, you also need to answer the next question they ask, "Congratulations, congratulations?" Bought in**? ”。
After a long time, you will find that it is not them who are worldly and they are material; Rather, the world is like this, and the watches, bicycles, and radios in the past have now been replaced by houses and cars. In short, marriage is conditional and costly.
How to Resist Stress?
Fortunately, the family did not put too much pressure on them, explaining that the reason why they don't want to get married at present is that they want to stabilize their careers first and wait until both parties are mature before getting married.
Therefore, for boyfriends and girlfriends who are emotionally stable, if they don't want to get married early, they can directly confess the reason to their families, and there is no need to hide it. Clear communication and a stable relationship between the two will make the family feel at ease.
The classmates who have objects around them, similar to us, are not married, and they also want to exchange time for space and time for a sense of security. Not to say escape, I just don't want to suffer too soon.
And those who are still single, so far they have generously accepted all forms of blind dates, after all, the age is there, and even if the blind date is suitable, it will have to be done for about a year, and there will be a period of time when they are going to get married.