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Mondo Psychological Updated on 2024-01-29

In 1983, Lei Jiayin was born in an ordinary family in Anshan, Liaoning Province.

Lei Jiayin's parents are ordinary factory workers, and they don't have much hope for their child's future, they just hope that their son can study hard and Xi and find a good job in the future.

At that time, there were many children, especially boys, in the family home where Lei Jiayin lived.

Climbing trees, climbing rooftops, and playing marbles are commonplace.

Unlike his friends, Lei Jiayin is not willing to participate in those "naughty" behaviors to get his clothes dirty.

Sometimes you have to wipe it down with a small handkerchief before you even sit down.

Lei Jiayin is naturally not very popular among this group of boys because of his clean behavior, which also leads to his very introverted personality.

The hardships of life make introverts irresistible.

Lei Jiayin's mother was laid off and went home because the factory was not running well at that time, and Lei Jiayin went to elementary school.

In the early '90s, in stark contrast to today, the private sector was booming, employment opportunities were plentiful, and laid-off workers could easily find new jobs to make ends meet.

If you really can't find another way out, you can also go to a restaurant and do some dish washing to make ends meet.

At that time, most enterprises were run by the state, and even the employees in restaurants were employed by the establishment units.

Losing a job is largely equivalent to losing future earnings** for an employee.

At that time, Lei Jiayin had just entered primary school, and it was quite difficult for a family of three to make ends meet on a man's meager salary.

My mother decided to go to the night market to sell slippers.

At that time, after all, this is the fastest way to make money.

A woman can't take care of a stall on her own, and someone has to help.

Lei Jiayin's father often works overtime, so her mother can only take her son to the night market.

Xiao Lei, an introvert, had never seen such a scene before.

At the night market, the strangers who come and go make him so shy that he can't shout the advertising slogan "slippers for four yuan a pair".

The mother greeted the guests and sold them at the same time, which made people feel admired.

Lei Jiayin suddenly perked up, and resolutely and impulsively shouted: "Four yuan and a pair of slippers!."”

As soon as Xiao Lei spoke, the shyness and introversion he had been feeling over the years seemed to dissipate in an instant, making him feel a lot more relaxed.

Thanks to his help, many people found it very novel to sell their children's goods, so they bought his family's goods.

On that day, the Lei family's stall business was booming, and Lei Jiayin also completely changed his personality in this stall.

Although Lei Jiayin has a cheerful personality and feels comfortable, his daily loud shouting obviously makes his social skills too strong.

When Lei Jiayin was in junior high school, he had a crush on a female classmate in his class.

He was Xi to selling and haggling in the market, so he chose the most direct way - public confession.

He also warned the male classmates in the same class, saying that she is mine, and none of you should rob me.

The girl soon threw herself into the arms of such a majestic man.

The love of junior high school students is different from **, which is called "early love" and is strictly forbidden.

The girl's parents quickly found the school, and the teacher also severely criticized Lei Jiayin.

How can the flame of love that has just been ignited in the hearts of young people be easily extinguished.

The two still kept their relationship secret.

In the end, the girl's parents had no choice but to take strong measures and force their daughter to change schools.

Lei Jiayin, who was only 14 years old, also dropped out of school due to a moment of anger.

Although Lei Jiayin's behavior of "crazy for love" looks very manly.

What activities can a 14-year-old engage in after leaving school?

State factories in the 90s required workers to have at least a high school education, that's for sure.

Even for a 14-year-old child, even if the age limit is not considered, just because he is "out of junior high school", no factory is willing to accept him.

At that time, Lei Jiayin planned to open a snack bar.

Lei's parents have been setting up stalls for many years, and they really don't want their son to repeat their old path of petty business.

Although the job pays well, every penny of income comes from hard work and long hours of hard work.

Lei Jiayin's mother later suddenly realized that her son was tall and handsome, and he might consider engaging in modeling.

Once the Lei family's parents were firm in this idea, they set out to find a solution for their son.

At that time, it happened that an art school in Shenyang came to Anshan to enroll students, and Lei Jiayin's father immediately took his son to participate in the enrollment activities.

He met a man named Lu Xiaohe outside the examination room.

Lu Xiaohe is not a simple person, he has won the Golden Rooster Actor and the Hundred Flowers Actor, and is the actor of the movie "Garland Under the Mountain".

He also played the role of Dong Zhuo in 2010's "New Three Kingdoms".

At that time, outside the examination room, Lu Xiaohe had a unique vision and asked Lei Jiayin if he was interested in participating in the drama and whether he was willing to accept her performance guidance

Lei Jiayin didn't know much about this uncle, because he was only a teenager, but his father recognized his idol from his youth at a glance.

After some greetings, Lei Jiayin's father decided to let his son worship Lu Xiaohe as a teacher and enter an art school to Xi.

Lei Jiayin has become much more sensible in school this time, compared to the absurd dropout behavior before.

A few years later, Lei Jiayin was admitted to the Shanghai Theater Academy and ranked second in the country.

At that time, Hu Ge was the senior in the play, and when "The Legend of Sword and Fairy" was a big hit, his food, clothing, housing and transportation were sponsored by the advertiser.

The new star Lei Jiayin took Hu Ge's ** and looked at it, and then looked in the mirror again.

Shaking his head, he sighed, Hu Ge is too handsome, but he is just an ordinary person, it seems that he is destined to have no hope in this life.

Despite his words, Lei Jiayin has a character in his heart that is not to be outdone.

When he was a sophomore, he participated in the performance of his first work "Pretty Woman".

Although he only played the role of a prince's little follower, at least he has stepped into the entertainment industry.

He cherished many rare opportunities to perform at that time.

Although most of the time he can only earn one or two thousand yuan by speaking at annual meetings for some companies, the actual income is not much, considering the cost of round-trip fares.

Their female classmates can easily earn tens of thousands of yuan by taking an advertisement.

However, he gets pleasure from it, because he not only wants to make money and perform in these places, but more importantly, to be able to improve his acting skills.

At the same time, his love life has not gone unnoticed.

During his study in the theater, he and his classmate Zhai Xufei formed a partner and performed in a drama rehearsal organized by the school.

They had a very speculative conversation at the time, and soon became friends who talked about everything.

Lei Jiayin's teacher saw that his student was talented and beautiful, so he quickly matched them and suggested that the two of them fall in love.

Although the two are still young, they have a good understanding of each other, and they quickly came together under the "guidance" of the teacher.

However, a few years later, this carefree college life quietly ended after the two graduated.

They are faced with two choices, one is to break up after graduation, and the other is to stick together.

At that time, Lei Jiayin and Zhai Xufei were admitted to the Shanghai Drama Center together.

Even though they are in the same city, it was very difficult for the two hard-earned young people to live in Shanghai, an expensive city.

Zhai Xufei firmly said to her boyfriend, although we are penniless now, we can save money, no matter how difficult life is, I am willing to work hard with you.

Lei Jiayin was naturally reluctant to give up, because he was facing such a reasonable girl.

They insisted on walking together.

In fact, Zhai Xufei is 170 cm tall and looks quite good, she is fully capable of finding a man with good conditions in Shanghai to fall in love.

However, she values affection so much that she is reluctant to give up the love she has cultivated over the years. She was determined to grow with this man.

For the next few years, they both lived in a cottage with an area of only 10 square meters.

At that time, life was hard, and food, clothing, housing and transportation were very ordinary.

In the face of such challenges, they often reminisce about the happiness of their college days together, share the joys, sorrows and sorrows in class, and fill each other's hearts with emotion.

Lei Jiayin got the script, and he and his girlfriend Zhai Xufei analyzed the characters together and exchanged ideas with each other.

Although life has always been hard, they have lived a small and colorful life.

Their daily communication has made them the best confidants and the most intimate lovers.

Until 2010, Lei Jiayin was 27 years old, and Zhai Xufei had also spent his 25th birthday.

Lei Jiayin has reached the age when he should get married, but his career has not improved.

Lei Jiayin, as her boyfriend, began to feel anxious.

He deliberately avoided chatting with Zhai Xufei about future marriage issues every day, and was very anxious about his career.

He didn't want to let down this woman who trusted him so much.

She also saw through her boyfriend's thoughts, just like Zhai Xufei.

She took the initiative to chat with her boyfriend one day and told him that material things are not the most important thing, as long as she can be with him, even if she rents a house and gets married, she will feel happy.

Lei Jiayin vowed to get ahead and let this woman live a good life, and he followed his girlfriend's advice wholeheartedly.

They got married in 2010, and although there was no big house and no lavish wedding, the young couple started a new life in a humble rental house.

Although Lei Jiayin has been working hard, it is not easy for him to gain a foothold in the entertainment industry due to his lack of connections and family background.

He can only wait for the opportunity by constantly polishing his acting skills.

In addition to giving birth to a daughter for Lei Jiayin, Zhai Xufei also constantly encouraged her husband's growth at home.

In 2012, when director Ning Hao started filming "**The Great Robbery", he conducted many interviews for the role of the actor "Little Northeast", but did not find a suitable candidate.

It wasn't until Lei Jiayin appeared that Ning Hao completely saw hope.

At that time, there were many requirements for the role of "Little Northeast".

First of all, he has to be a Northeasterner, and he has to reveal some cunning ruffians, and the most important thing is to play a love master in the play.

Lei Jiayin, from Liaoning, dared to confess to the girl in front of everyone since he was in junior high school, so it is very in line with the setting of the characters in the play.

So, Ning Hao quickly determined that he would play the leading role in the movie.

At that time, the assistant director reminded Director Ning that this actor is a newcomer and his popularity is not very high, are you sure you want to choose him?

Ning Hao was unswerving, and directly told Lei Jiayin: The role of "Little Northeast" is yours.

Lei Jiayin devoted himself to development for 8 years after graduating from university, but this did not disappoint Ning Hao.

He showed his ability to be both civil and military in the role of "Little Northeast", which perfectly interpreted the handsome and ruffian image in the director's mind.

The film was widely praised upon its release, and exceeded 100 million yuan at the box office in just 9 days.

Lei Jiayin also quickly emerged and became a rapidly rising new force.

Even though he was 29 years old, his late bloomers didn't stop him from achieving great success in the entertainment industry.

In 2016, he starred in the family drama "I Love Male Nanny".

He starred in the large-scale historical drama "White Deer Plain" in 2017, and also co-starred with Jin Dong and others in the urban emotional drama "The First Half of My Life".

He played the protagonist Zhou Bingkun in the 2022 TV series "The World", which made him show his acting skills.

Although Lei Jiayin has achieved great success in his career, all of this is inseparable from the silent support and dedication of his wife Zhai Xufei behind the scenes.

Zhai Xufei not only took the initiative to take the responsibility of educating her daughter and became a full-time mother, but also often exchanged various emotional experiences in life and work with her husband.

Occasionally, they would have a disagreement and get into a quarrel, but soon they would explain it to each other and then it would pass.

Although they have been married for 12 years, through constant communication, they have overcome various difficulties together and resolved many of the inevitable conflicts in life.

It is often said that a successful marriage requires both parties to get to know each other well.

In daily life, the couple's state of mind and state are long different from when they first met.

Only through continuous communication can we truly understand what the other person is thinking at the moment.

The marriage of Lei Jiayin and Zhai Xufei tells us that no matter what kind of difficulties are encountered in the relationship and marriage, as long as the husband and wife are willing to work together and communicate honestly, then any difficulties can be overcome.

After getting through the various challenges in life, you will surely usher in a smooth life path.

I wish Lei Jiayin and Zhai Xufei happiness, and I also wish all couples can maintain an open and honest communication attitude.

Only such a marriage can always be fresh.

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