Many parents in China still unconsciously use yelling to educate their children, however, they often ignore the serious consequences that this practice can bring. Many children who do not Xi well grow up to the roar of their parents. You may be familiar with these words: "Hurry up and eat, don't grind and chirp", "Have you heard it, how many times have you said it, are you deaf", "If you can't do this thing, what else can you do".
Psychological studies have shown that when children are yelled at by their parents, they usually have two reactions. In the first case, the child will suffer in silence and admit his mistakes, but in fact he just wants the yell to end quickly, rather than really recognizing the problem and mistake from the heart. This will lead to the formation of a people-pleasing personality, afraid to express their opinions, hidden in their hearts, and submissive. Such children may grow up to become cowardly, choose to run away from difficulties, and even act excessively.
In the second case, the child will fight back angrily, talk back to the parents, do it, and even have aggressive behaviors such as throwing things and crying. This can lead to a rebellious period prematurely in the child, forming a *** personality. Such children may grow up to be impulsive, even violent, and intolerant of those around them. As children get older, they become more and more difficult to control, and eventually they become irritable parents themselves, continuing to yell and scold their children, repeating the misfortunes of their childhood.
In addition to the negative impact on a child's personality, yelling can also directly damage a child's brain. A psychological study concluded that children who are constantly exposed to parental yelling and verbal violence have brain structure damage. When a child is verbally attacked, the hippocampus in the brain decreases in size, and the hippocampus is mainly responsible for memory and emotional control. This is why many parents find that after yelling at their children, their grades and Xi have not changed, and even cause more trouble.
Educating children by yelling and scolding you are just venting your emotions and not solving the problem at the root. Therefore, instead of exposing your child to the irreversible damage of verbal violence, it is better to stand with your child, analyze the root cause of the problem, and help him solve the problem.
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