Many people fall into a strange circle in the process of recovering their ex, that is, you find that no matter what you do or say, the other party is very guarded. It's like a hedgehog, if something doesn't go well, it will immediately curl up, or simply don't reply to you.
There are many factors that contribute to this, but the most common is the mostYou are exposing the purpose for which you want to be reunited.
Many people will refute me at this time: No, I didn't say that I got back together, I talked about normal things, and he was still wary of me.
I think you can take a look back at your chats, or think about what you've been looking forWhat are some of the things that you deliberately convince yourself of wanting to contact with the other person?
This is a bit similar to the TV series, a person sees a piece of silver dropped on the road, and then looks left and right at no one, and he is there and mutters to himself: I didn't steal this silver, everyone can see it, I took it openly. Then he grabbed the silver and stuffed it into his pocket.
Everyone's chat with the ex is somewhat of this meaning, that is: I didn't mean to find him, I really have something to look for.
Then chat with your exIf the ex replies well, I wish the whole person would come up;If the ex doesn't reply enthusiastically, come back here and be sad.
In fact, to determine whether you are looking for an ex on purpose, whether it is for the purpose of exposure, it is also very simple, that is, if you think about it, change your friend, will you still want to find him so much?
For example, if you look for your ex to ask about work, then think about it, do you have to ask your ex?Are there any other colleagues in the company who can help you with this?Why do you have to ask your ex?
I'm not saying you can't exactly ask your exBut when such things happen too often, your purpose is exposed, so don't blame your ex for always being very defensive about you.
So my advice to everyone is that if you feel that your ex has bad feedback on your information, you have to stop your losses in time, and there is no need to go to the end on the wrong path, you ask yourselfWhether you want a good result, or you want to vent your emotions, you won't be blind if you figure out the direction.
Many people are chatting with their ex, because they deliberately want to talk to their ex, so the content is full of all kinds of innocuous sentences and incongruous topics, which is not benign communication at all.
Here I want to state one point, that is, you want to contact your ex, this is normal, everyone who has loved will have some attachment to the ex after the breakup.
But you have to respect the objective factsAt this stage, under the premise that your ex is disgusted with you, your attachment to the other party does not need it, but becomestaThe more you avoid your reasons, the farther away you are from the redemption result you want.
If you really can't hold back and want to go to your ex's friends, I'll give you a small trick, but let's say it first, it's best if you can hold it.
My method is also very simple, that is, you tell your ex directly that you really want to contact him, but you also have to tell the other personI contacted you just because I myself sometimes feel uncomfortable and can't control myself, so lettaBe considerate, after a while you will be able to get better, and you will not be pestered by thenFinish.
You also reassure them that you will try your best to control them, and you will not disturb them, they will not affect their normal life, etc.
To put it simply, you have to show that you will let go, but it will take some time, and you should not be afraid to feel ashamed of saying thisBecause it's normal to like someone, everyone is calm.
At the same time, after everyone said it, if your ex refuses, you also have to understand that this is normal, you originally said these words just to make yourself comfortable, just achieve this effect.
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