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Click on the Internet to see a passage, and I was very emotional: Being a parent is the most difficult profession in the world, and there is no one.

It is necessary not only to work hard to earn money to provide a stable life for the children, but also to take care of the children's diet and daily life all year roundNot only to deal with the hard work and hectic when the child is sick, but also to swallow the sadness and grievances when the child is rebellious.

But if the child has a problem, no matter how much you have paid, a sentence of "not raising the godfather's fault" can erase all your efforts.

In some moments when we are tired and exhausted, perhaps we can't help but ask ourselves soul torture: "What is the meaning of having a child?"But this process of going through all difficulties and no regrets is exactly what parenting is all about.

The company of children helps you move forwardIt is said that people are helpless when they reach middle age, but they live alone and become thousands of troops. The family's livelihood and the pressure of work have to be borne by you, but you can't take care of yourself. But in fact, you are not really empty behind you, because there are children who are your most loyal friends. When you are busy, your child will use an innocent smile to make you feel what unconditional support is. When you are wronged, your child will let you know that you are so needed. When you are powerless, your child will use a caring hug to make you understand that you must be stronger for the sake of those who love you.

Children are our children, but in a sense, they are more like a light in our small lives. It gives us infinite warmth and lights up the direction for us to move forward.

My friend's life is thrown into chaos after his father suddenly falls ill.

As a primary school teacher, she has always been very busy at work, and it was the elderly who helped her with housework, but now she has to take care of the elderly at the same time as family and work.

During that time, she often felt so tired that she couldn't breathe, and sometimes she couldn't help but break down and cry. Until she woke up one morning, she saw her son, who was in the third grade of elementary school, learning to make breakfast in the kitchen. Her son told her that when he learned how to prepare breakfast, she would be able to sleep a little more in the morning.

Mom, you're so tired, let me help you later. ”

Friends said that it was this sentence that became the biggest motivation to support her through the difficulties. Later, she tried to adjust herself, tried to deal with problems with a positive attitude, and finally waited for her father's ** in the first half of this year.

As the saying goes, a woman is weak, but a mother is strong. But it's not so much that parents are making sacrifices for their children, it's that it's the love and companionship of children that give us energy. Therefore, the parent-child relationship is described in psychology as follows: raising children is also a self-healing process for parents.

Children are the weakness of parents, but also the armor. Only when we have children can we find inexhaustible courage and undying hope in a life full of mud and sand.

Your child's growth will help you get betterThe problem of children's education is a headache for every parent. If you loosen the control, you will start to be lazy and disobedient;The management is strict, and various parent-child conflicts and confrontations are staged, and the contradictions are continuous.

In fact, for a family, parents are the roots, and children are the flowers. Parents often see their children's problems, but they don't know that their own problems are blooming in their children's bodies.

While attending a sharing session with his son's class, he listened to a dad talk about his experience.

Last year, because he encountered a bottleneck in his career, his temper became very irritable, and he often started to get angry at home without saying a few words. Especially for his daughter, whenever there is a situation of disobedience, he will loudly reprimand. After that, he found that his daughter, who was originally cheerful and smiling, became quieter and quieter, and did not like to speak. And every time he yelled louder, the more his daughter didn't say a word, and stood there staring at him, as if she wanted to confront him to the end. He was so angry that he couldn't understand how a child who was less than ten years old could be so tough.

But what's worse is that he soon received a ** from the teacher: his daughter's grades have dropped a lot. Taking this opportunity, the teacher had a long talk with him, which made him suddenly realize how much his emotional problems would affect his daughter. For this reason, he felt guilty and determined to change himself.

Even though the pressure of work is still there, every day before entering the house, he asks himself to try to unload his worries and put on a smiling face.

In the face of his daughter, he also put away his previous condescending attitude and took the initiative to say "I'm sorry" when he realized that he had done something wrong. When there is a topic to talk about with his daughter, he will sit down first and then try to speak slowly in a gentle tone.

That day, the father was very emotional, saying that he was glad that he woke up in time and did not cause an estrangement between father and daughter: "It was my daughter who taught her that tantrums are just instincts, and it is the ability to suppress tempers." ”

Children are the closest people to us in the world, and they are also our most real mirrors, reflecting our words and deeds at all times. If some of your child's shortcomings make you feel unbearable, it is precisely fate that reminds you through your child: righteous people first correct themselves.

Children's bad habits and bad temper may be due to the fact that parents have not done a good job of role modelingChildren's resistance and quarrels may be due to parents' lack of understanding and communication.

I like Alyssa Jia's words on Weibo not long ago: "Thank you to my three little mentors in life, because of you, I really learned a lot." Love is long-lasting and kind, it seems to be more suitable for you, please continue to teach, let me be a better mommy. ”

It seems that it is the parents who are disciplining the children, shaping the children, and acting as teachers on the road of the children's growth. In fact, it is the children who are the ferrymen of the parents, helping us to correct our shortcomings, improve ourselves, and become qualified adults.

If you want to make life better, start by teaching your children wellWe all know that the quality of the parent-child relationship determines the development of a child's life. But in fact, the relationship between parents and children is always a two-way street. Parents are the cause of the child, and the child is the effect of the parents.

Raising our children well is not only the responsibility of parents, but also the beginning of a spiritual life

1. Cherish the time with your children with joy

Look at this question: Have you ever calculated how long you can spend with your child?

The answer is that from birth to college, parents can spend no more than 91 months with their children.

In fact, the fate of parents and children is a journey that is gradually drifting apart. So, don't always be absent when your child needs you, and don't be stingy with spending time and energy with your child.

For example, set a time to chat with your child every day, or play your own game with your child after work. When you enjoy spending time with your child, your child will naturally be able to absorb full energy and happiness from the interaction.

2. Accept the problems brought by children with a normal heart

Have you ever been like this, watching other people's babies have excellent character and learning, but your own children are all faults. I was anxious and sad, and I couldn't figure out why I would have such a child. To explain the theory of psychology, this is because every child has his or her own "natural temperament".

From the moment they came to their parents, they brought their own unique temperament and temperament. The key to testing the wisdom of parents is whether you know how to follow the child's nature, accept it, embrace it, and protect it. Quit unreasonable expectations, discover more of your child's shining points, and cultivate more of your child's innate ability. Let the child be what he wants to be, not what his parents want him to be.

3. Give children a good education with self-reflection.

There is a good saying: education is a way of introspection, to persuade your children outwardly, and to persuade yourself inward. Parents' words and deeds, as well as their hearts and minds, will imperceptibly affect their children.

The premise of educating children well is to make yourself a qualified and empathetic parent first. If you want your child to have self-cultivation, then you must first cultivate yourself;If you want your child to know how to be grateful, then you must be kind to others first.

As the saying goes, you are turning yourself into a person and becoming a person. When you encounter parent-child problems, please find the reason from yourself, find ways to adjust your behavior and habits, and improve your concept and cognition. If you educate yourself well, your child will not be bad.

Write at the endI agree with such a profound sentence: "On the way to complete the fulfillment of one's own life, the child is a bridge, and stepping on this bridge, you return to yourself." ”

All encounters in the world have a reason. In particular, children conceived through our bodies are the most precious gift that God has given us.

From the moment the child comes into the world, he has been surprising you in his own way, helping you, nourishing you, and perfecting you. What we want to do is to build a warm and happy home for our children and raise them well.

*: "Fan Shu Yuan Fan Deng Reading".

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