At dinner, my mother-in-law unexpectedly mentioned that she was going back to her hometown, and she had already discussed with her father-in-law that she would come to pick her up on the weekend.
Wenbo is already in junior high school, so he doesn't need me to pick him up in the morning and evening, and he doesn't go home for dinner at noon, so I can't help here. I couldn't feel at ease that your dad was home alone, so I decided to go back and cook for your dad and take care of the housework. The mother-in-law said with a smile, but her eyes revealed reluctance and sadness that could not be hidden.
We were stunned for a few seconds, then looked at my husband for a moment. I got up and went to the bedroom, took out a bunch of keys, and handed them to my mother-in-law. "Don't go, let my dad pack his things and come to live in the city. ”
The mother-in-law asked with a puzzled look on her face what kind of key this was
I handed her the key and said, "You have taken care of everything in the house while you have helped us take care of Wenbo." Now that you're old, how can we let you go back alone?”
In fact, last year, I bought a small house for you and your dad in the neighborhood, so that you can retire here. I was going to surprise you, but now I have to tell you in advance. Let's go check it out over the weekend. ”
The mother-in-law was stunned for a moment and said, "Why do you buy a house for us, let's just go back to our hometown in the countryside." She had tears in her eyes, and although her tone was a little reproachful, she still had a smile on her face.
My mother-in-law asked me if I didn't have much savings at home, so where did I get the money to buy a house?I jokingly said that I saved it with the money you and my dad gave me before.
The mother-in-law took the key and looked at it again and again for a while, and the tears couldn't stop flowing. I knew why she was crying, because I understood my mother-in-law's unspeakable feelings.
The first time I went to my in-laws' house, I felt the strength of my mother-in-law. When I was chatting, she called her father-in-law from time to time, "Lao Zhang, don't forget to put chili peppers, Jiajia loves spicy food!.""Lao Zhang, the kitchen door is closed, and the fumes are wafting out!.""Lao Zhang, look at how to do this!."”…
Although my mother-in-law was kind and warm to me, I could sense her strength from the tone and attitude she spoke to my father-in-law, and she did not do housework at home. At that time, I was a little withdrawn, worried that it would be difficult for me to get along with my mother-in-law after I got married, which might lead to conflicts. When they returned home, they mentioned the matter to their parents, and after inquiring, they learned that the people in the village said that the mother-in-law was a strong person and did not get along well with the concubine and the mother-in-law.
My parents once persuaded me, saying that such a mother-in-law's family was not suitable for marriage, and I would be wronged in the future. However, I felt sorry for my husband's kindness to me, and finally couldn't bear to part ways and decided to get married. At that time, even though my parents' persuasion could not shake me, I could feel their sighs and worries for a long time, and until the day of the wedding, my parents could not hide their worries and heartaches.
Half a year after we got married, I got pregnant. When my mother-in-law found out, she called ** and said that she would come to take care of me. I hurriedly excused myself, saying that I was self-sufficient and did not need to be cared about by others. However, my mother-in-law insisted on coming and admitted that I didn't want my mother-in-law to come over. I'd rather take care of myself than live with my mother-in-law.
However, the mother-in-law came with a bunch of ingredients and groceries. She said that I don't have to worry about the housework, and she will arrange it from now on. I was smiling on the surface, but I was troubled on the inside.
However, the mother-in-law did what she said. Every morning, she got up early to prepare breakfast for me, and she was very hospitable, worried that I would not be to my taste. To avoid disturbing me, I kept the kitchen door closed even in the hot weather, and I was busy with my hands and feet. Before leaving the house, she would always hand over a bag of washed fruit. Every night, there is always a hearty set of ingredients on the table, and there is never a shortage of them. If I didn't eat well, she would ask if it didn't match the taste and even suggest adding some green chili. When I mentioned that it is not advisable to eat spicy food while pregnant, she said that she should put less green chili peppers, but not to be starved. I was touched by these moments. I often hear colleagues mention that my mother-in-law only cares about her daughter-in-law's health and fetal health, and guides the taboos, but my mother-in-law really cares about me.
Imperceptibly, my wariness of her gradually decreased, and my feelings became closer and closer. Occasionally, however, there are still some doubts in my heart about whether she will be so considerate of her future grandchildren or granddaughters because of the birth of the baby.
After the birth of the child, my mother-in-law worked tirelessly to take care of me and the child. During the confinement, she even took the initiative to help me wash the underwear I changed, although I felt embarrassed, but every time I found that they were quietly washed (I didn't know there was a one-time ** at the time) Five meals a day changed patterns, four meals during the day, and at night to prevent me from being hungry, my mother-in-law would get up and prepare a bowl of frangipani soup for me and bring it to the bed.
Despite a month of hard work, my mother-in-law suggested that I sit for another 42 days. However, during the whole confinement period, she never let me hold the child once, nor did she change the child's diaper.
After the confinement ended, my mother-in-law still insisted that I would not be allowed to do housework, saying that as long as I concentrated on taking care of the children, she would take care of other things. She cooks her own meals and takes care of the house, and also specializes in handwashing the baby's clothes and diapers. Sometimes, when the child sleeps, I want to help do something, but my mother-in-law always says that it is not good to sleep with the child at night, so I also go to rest.
My mother-in-law doesn't do everything herself, she won't let me do it, but she will ask my husband to do it. For example: "Zhang Wei, go wash the dishes!.""Zhang Wei, Wenbo's little clothes haven't been washed yet, you go and get busy." "Zhang Wei, don't keep looking at your phone, go and coax Wenbo, let Jiajia rest for a while." ”
Later, I asked my mother-in-law curiously: "My dad does all the cooking and housework at home, I always thought you couldn't cook, but I didn't expect you to be so good!."The mother-in-law said proudly: "Of course, if you don't do it, it doesn't mean that you won't, my cooking skills conquered your father when I was young." After getting married, I gradually developed him into an excellent chef and housekeeper. ”
I smiled and asked, "Then I will let your son work in the future, will you feel distressed?"The mother-in-law also smiled, "What's so distressing about this, the man has to let him work more, and he can't get used to it." ”
My treatment didn't diminish just because I had a baby. On the contrary, my mother-in-law has always been very good to me, and even getting better and better. For example, there are always more than two staple foods at every meal in the family, and one of them must be rice, because I have liked rice and not pasta much since I was a child.
Later, the village shared dividends, and everyone received 65,000 yuan, including my in-laws, my husband and children. Because my hukou has not been moved, I have no share in the village's dividends. My mother-in-law said to my husband in private: "Wenbo's share of money must be left to Jiajia, don't ask her." Then, she secretly gave me her and her father-in-law's share of the money, and said, "We can't use up this money when we're old, you can take it, don't tell Zhang Wei, lest he coax you to spend it." ”
I refused at first, but was eventually persuaded by my mother-in-law. At that time, I was moved to tears several times by her actions. I made up my mind that this money would never be spent, and that I would save it for my in-laws' retirement in the future.
In the years following my marriage, my parents also learned that my in-laws took care of me wholeheartedly, and they often taught me to honor them. They were also amazed that such a strong person as my mother-in-law was so good to her daughter-in-law.
I also have some questions. Once, when we went back to our hometown with my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law and father-in-law went to water the vegetables, and I was playing at the door with my child in my arms. My neighbor, Aunt Li, mentioned my mother-in-law when I was chatting with me. She told me that when my mother-in-law first got married, she suffered a lot from her mother-in-law, and even did not get taken care of during confinement, but often quarreled with her mother-in-law's mother. My mother-in-law's mother-in-law prefers her little daughter-in-law, but she makes things difficult for my mother-in-law and provokes the relationship between the concubines. My mother-in-law has a strong personality and never gives in, and she has always had an unpleasant quarrel with her mother-in-law and sister-in-law, and the relationship has not been harmonious for many years.
When my husband's grandmother's health deteriorated and my daughter-in-law no longer took care of her, my husband's grandmother turned to my mother-in-law to take care of her. However, my mother-in-law did not agree and insisted on not taking care of her until my husband's grandmother died, and my mother-in-law did not take care of her for a day, although she did not stop my father-in-law from taking care of her.
Mrs. said: "The water of one river is difficult to reach the confluence of ten thousand rivers. "My in-laws' situation is quite complicated, my husband's grandmother and concubine often talk about them behind their backs, and slander them, which causes my father-in-law to suffer a lot of grievances in the past, and the whole family disdains them, and even bullies them openly and secretly. This made the mother-in-law stronger and more dignified.
An Aunt Li told me that she never got involved in these family disputes, so her mother-in-law trusted her. Before my husband and I got married, my mother-in-law once revealed to her: "I know that my grandmother and grandmother are talking about me behind my back, saying that I am strong, and predicting that our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship will not be good in the future, and they are waiting to see the joke." I will not let them succeed. ”
So over the years, my mother-in-law has been holding back her anger and treating me wholeheartedly, lest she have conflicts with me, so as not to become the laughing stock of the villagers. Aunt Li said to me: "Your mother-in-law is not a bad person, but sometimes she is too insistent on her own ideas. ”
This made me realize that my mother-in-law also had a difficult experience. From then on, I tried to treat my mother-in-law, afraid that she would hide her unpleasantness in order to please me.
With the growth of the child's Wenbo, the mother-in-law often sighs: "Time flies so fast, the child grows up, and I am also old." Maybe I should go back to my hometown. When I heard this, I felt very awkward. I knew that if she left, she would feel abandoned, and I was worried that the villagers would say, "My grandson has grown up, and my daughter-in-law will send me back to my hometown."
So I started thinking about my in-laws' pension and bought a small house for them near our community. There is a family home nearby, with beautiful environment, perfect facilities and good management, although the house is a little old, but the size is suitable for two elderly people to live. Not long ago, there happened to be a pair of children's sons who were in elementary school and wanted to move, and they were anxious to live in the house (in that community), 350,000 yuan, fully furnished. I immediately discussed with my husband and decided to buy it. In addition to the 130,000 yuan given by my in-laws and the 60,000 yuan for my children, my husband and I raised some money and bought the house in full.
I carefully furnished the house, and in order to make my in-laws more comfortable, I rearranged the interior and updated all the furniture.
I took a lot of effort to find this house. Although the community is a bit old, the environment and management are quite good. There is a nice square with all kinds of gym equipment in the neighborhood, where you and your dad can work out, or chat with other neighbors and play chess on stone tables and benches in the shade of the trees. ”
I understand that you may be worried about the inconvenience of staying with us. But rest assured, I'm not an ignorant person. You raised us, how can I not be considerate?If you want, you can stay here and mingle with other neighbors or square dance. ”
I also know that you are concerned about my dad's situation, and we can consider letting him move in, but the family land will not have to be cultivated. You would like to stay here with us or choose anywhere else. ”
The mother-in-law wiped her tears and said with a smile, "Since there is such a beautiful new house, of course we have to go and live!".”
I laughed too. You raised us, and now it's time for us to take care of you. Enjoy life to the fullest in the days to come!