Yesterday I heard a brother talk about his family affairs, his daughter is only in the third grade of primary school, and she has already changed schools three times.
In the first grade, he went to a private school with a tuition fee of 100,000 yuan in Caidian, and in the third grade, he transferred to an international school of more than 200,000 yuan in Zhuankou. Behind the transfer is moving, selling and buying a house.
It's all up to my wife. In recent years, when his business was good, he usually had one or two hundred per year, and three or five hundred in a good year, all of which were managed by his wife, and he never had more than 50,000 yuan on hand.
My wife graduated with a master's degree and worked as a ** teacher in middle school, I felt that he had poor education and shallow knowledge, low morality, and never discussed family affairs with him, and was afraid that he would pollute his pure soul if he had more contact with his daughter.
The brothers laughed at these things, men, their minds are aggrieved, and they can't be too concerned about the life of a family.
But in the past few years, he has always had one thing, that is, he wants to have a son. Maybe it's because after the old age, I began to have a fear of aging. At the same time, I saw the buddies together, and they all had sons.
This idea was ridiculed and refuted by his wife: What age are you, and you still have this patriarchal thinking?Still clinging to the rancid smell of inheritance!
The brother retreated and discussed with his wife, the country encouraged the birth of a third child, we responded to the call to have a second child, both men and women, so that the daughter also has a companion, okay?
The wife called back with a word: You go and ask your daughter if she wants to have another brother?Besides, you just take such a little money to go home, our mother and daughter are living a tight life, how can we have the money to support the second one?
My brother is a businessman and knows how to take a roundabout. I made a few surprises for my wife and daughter in a row, and took advantage of the good atmosphere to beg my wife to have another one, only one, both men and women. My wife happily agreed, but recently my daughter is young and young, and it is a critical period, so I will prepare for pregnancy later.
It's late, it's been two or three years, and there has been no suitable time on my wife's side. He went to urge, but his wife was anxious, so he gaged him: I didn't recover well from the knife, and the doctor advised me not to conceive, you have the ability to go outside to find someone else to give birth, and if you want to give birth to a few people, I promise not to care.
That being said, the wife manages the family finances very tightly, the company cashier is the cousin of the wife's hometown, and the house bought after marriage is in the wife's name. Their wedding house was originally bought by him in full before marriage, but it was also sold by his wife last year, and he bought a new house of more than 900 yuan by the Sand Lake, which was listed in his father-in-law's name due to purchase restrictions.
What is even more sad for my brother is that he took the time to chat with his daughter the night before, and he said from the bottom of his heart: The nature of the world is unfair, and people cannot replace reality with good intentions ......
His daughter interrupted him and said, "Dad, just support my studies, I don't like to hear what you say." ”
After listening to it, I felt pity and pain: Brother, I didn't expect you to have such a hard time all these years, brother broke the vow today, I will accompany you to have a drink, and you are not allowed to pay with me later, I have a card in this store.
After three rounds of drinking, my brother's eyes were red, and he asked: Brother, what should I do?
I couldn't hold back the tears, especially the man's, so I couldn't help but make waves, put up three fingers, and prescribed him three pairs of medicines in a row: divorce immediately, leave the house, and bury my head to make money.
The brother said: I have considered divorce, but it is absolutely impossible to leave the house, and there is room for doing business, and there is no stud. Besides, if I have money, I can still be an uncle, and I will become a master when I leave the house.
He thought about it for a long time, and finally shook his head again and again, and muttered, "It's too difficult!"She wouldn't agree. Presumably he has a plan in mind, but his wife can't pass it.
It seemed that my medicine was too strong for him, and it happened that another brother had consulted me about the division of property in the divorce a few days ago, and I told him that answer.
1. The valuation of property is all decided by the wife, and she says that she can calculate it however she wants.
2. Then divide the property into 10 parts, which are basically equal. How to divide it or the wife has the final say, and the number 1 10 is divided.
3. Make a few paper balls and write them separately (this is customized, if you discuss the equal distribution, this step will be skipped.) ), looking for relatives and friends on both sides to witness, the wife came to draw lots, caught 55 and she divided 5 shares, caught 46 she divided 6 shares, and caught 37 she divided 7 shares.
4. Then the numbers of the 10 properties were drawn again, and all of them were caught by the wife. If she had caught 46 in the last round, she would have caught it 6 times. What you catch is what you are, and you are willing to gamble and lose.
I said, if the property is divided like this, your wife won't have an opinion, right?And you, as long as you keep the bottom line of keeping enough living expenses for 3 years, it is enough.
My brother's eyes lit up, and he raised his glass and saluted me: You really didn't win the third prize in the National Mathematics Competition for nothing!
My brother was directly bored and said to me: Brother, I am in a panic, you massage me for me?Next, I'll just drink and listen, I like to listen to you the most.
I let out a long sigh, looked into my brother's eyes, and slowly began to speak.
Brother, suffering is a good thing!
If the body is not bitter, the blessing will not be thick, and if the heart is not bitter, the wisdom will not come. The bitterness in my heart is to remind you that the set you guided you to success in the past can't be played anymore.
A lot of men are middle-aged people who take a break from everything, go fishing, play chess, plant vegetables, and carve seals. When you are middle-aged, you are forced to be like this, which means that you are strong and tight, and your future is promising.
People must be bold when they are in all difficulties, and they are still calm in adversity. The left and right are ugly before and after, and the city is surrounded on all sides to look up and down, and the solution to the problem must be found in a higher dimension.
Marriage is not the grave of love, marriage is not the destination of love, marriage is not a warm harbor, and it will not give you quiet healing.
Men and women in marriage are essentially cooperative, and cooperation must complement each other's strengths, complement each other's strengths, and cooperate with each other for mutual benefit. If you don't complement each other's advantages, you can't grow without mutual benefit. The root of all the giving and taking in marriage is still the unequal relationship, don't talk about love, love, responsibility, and those superficial things.
All of the family members are unjust creditors. You can make your dad heart attack, and that's what he owes you. Your wife and daughter can rub you to the ground, and that's what you owe them.
It's not that enemies don't get together, it's not that enemies don't get together. How much you liked white and thin at the beginning, how much you admired artistic temperament, and how unequal your relationship after marriage would be. The tears that flow from your eyes today are the water that entered your head back then.
How much you enjoyed it back then, how uncomfortable you were later. In the past few years, you have endured it desperately, but after all, you still have no blessings. All of man's suffering is self-inflicted.
Received and suffered, and eliminated disasters. Received it, received it, received it. If you can't stand it, you won't want to change, and once you change to a breakthrough, you will naturally benefit a lot - don't stare at me like that!Brother is not only a mathematical genius, but also a Chinese language.
Why do you have to suffer all this?It's just because you chose people in the first place, and you didn't use your brain. Use your brain to suffer in a thousand ways, and your heart knows everything. Unintentional is accepting, and having a heart is love.
Love and love, the heart is placed on oneself, and only then can one have the ability to love others. When you suffer, your heart is on others, and it is difficult for you to suffer for others.
No love can break the situation, and ruthlessness can break the overall situation. The more persistent you are, the more trapped you are in love and wasted in your work. Let go of love, things and feelings are clear at a glance. The so-called yin and yang are mutually reinforcing, and everything starts over and over again. That's how wonderful it is.
The problem now is that in the past, you invited yourself as a slave, and your wife gladly accepted it;Now you are unwilling, and your wife is willing to do itWhat woman would want to let go of a slave who has been in her hands for many years?Which woman is willing to break the situation of the quiet years and the stability of the present world?
If it weren't for your spoiling for so many years, how could she become the treasure who came to her mouth to command today?As a man, you yourself haven't grown up for so many years, and you still fill your wife and children with honey, so that they can't grow either!
Is it your fault?Or is it her mistake?** And it can be clearly distinguished. All conflicts are the result of collusion.
If a woman can't break the game, a man has to break it. If you don't go to hell, who will?
Otherwise, this family will continue to have conflicts, intensify contradictions, lose forward momentum, and fall into the abyss of decay. The new house of 900 can't save the relationship, and the blind appeasement is to bury the explosives.
If it is not broken, it will not stand, and only when it is broken can it be established. Put it in the place of death and then live, and the big thing is the way to become late.
You're still young, it's okay to live another 30 years. A man is a teenager until he dies, imagine that you are still the teenager who came from the countryside of Jiangxi to study in the big city of Wuhan 30 years ago, and give you 30 years again, single, penniless, how do you interpret a new life?
True love, no marriage certificate is required. Children, you will only be recognized if you are useful.
Life must continue to grow and always move forward - because there is no place to defend.
If you have to say it, a man's destiny is to be a cow and a horse, so why bother to expect his wife and daughter to treat you as a person?Don't care about other people's evaluations, don't have expectations from anyone, and do what you like, it's normal.
With an infinite ordinary heart, coupled with a 16-year-old enterprising spirit and a 46-year-old life experience, why worry about big things?
Then, let it all happen. Do not refuse to welcome, do not mourn or rejoice.
The list of high-quality authors has bottomed out, and the store is about to close. The words are serious, and the brothers are reluctant!
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