We will find a phenomenon that more and more women are pursuing career success and personal independence, but as they become better and better, it is strange that the better they are, the more difficult it is to find the right match. Why is that?
First, we need to understand the societal pressures and prejudices that good women face when it comes to choosing a mate. Conventional wisdom holds that men should be stronger and more powerful than women, while women are expected to play a more effeminate and dependent role. This notion is ingrained in the minds of some people and still exists even in modern society.
Therefore, when a woman performs well and has a successful career, she is often questioned and dissatisfied by some people. This pressure and prejudice make some men shy away from pursuing such women.
Second, good women usually have high self-expectations and demands. They seek success in their careers, but they also want to find a partner in life that matches them. However, as they get older, they will find it harder and harder to find a partner who meets their expectations.
This is mainly due to the fact that as people age, their values, interests, and lifestyles change. And those men who do not match their expectations often find it difficult to resonate with them and share a common language. As a result, good women often fall into a dilemma: either they can't find a suitable partner, or they compromise with reality and choose an unsatisfactory partner.
In addition, good women usually have independent personalities and lifestyles. They are Xi to dealing with problems and arranging life by themselves, so when looking for a partner, they also hope to find someone who can support each other and make progress together. However, the reality is often not as good as it could be. Some men can't accept women's independent character and lifestyle, so they choose to part ways with them.
So, how do you deal with this dilemma?First, they need to recognize their strengths and charisma and not doubt themselves because of the prejudices of others. Second, they should broaden their horizons and not limit themselves to successful men who are similar to them. In fact, some ordinary but self-motivated men may be better suited for them. These men may not be financially wealthy, but they tend to be more concerned about family and love life, which is more in line with women's dedication and family values.
In addition, good women should also learn to properly let go of their independent personality and lifestyle. In the process of finding a partner, they can try to be more active with the man, show their tenderness and love, so as to increase their understanding and emotional foundation with each other. At the same time, it is also possible to adjust one's lifestyle and rhythm appropriately to suit the needs and preferences of men.
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