How many people have been tormented by "love", how many people have been sad and tearful for "friendship", and how many people have been disappointed and cold for "family".
Kneeling and licking "love", catering to "friendship", and currying favor with "family", all wishful thinking and self-inflicted affection, most of the results can only be "meat buns and dogs have no return". Don't believe that "how you treat others, others will treat you as they would treat you", countless real-life cases have proved again and again that this "maxim" is unrealistic "change" thinking, it is unrequited love "you" love, but "he" does not want to. More often than not, "what you do to others doesn't necessarily mean how they treat you." It is difficult to achieve "fairness" and "justice" in emotional interactions, and the output end of emotional benefits is often "supply" and "negative", and the benefit side of emotional dividends is often "demand" and "negative".
In the operation and maintenance of a "love", just by heating at one end, the fuse will burst, the AC chain will fall, and the sensor light will go out. No matter what "love" once there is a crack, no matter how much "I love you" and "hand" water, it will often break the "realm" and be difficult to resolve. Because once the human heart is cooled, it is difficult to start and warm up.
So don't be obsessed with any "feelings" and "feelings", and the gains and losses of feelings will go with fate. What should come will always come, and what should go doesn't have to be too tangled. If a relationship is really broken and broken, let it go, trapped by love, will eventually be "itchy", "tired", and "painful", often it is difficult to "he" or "she" heal, only "self" healing. After figuring it out, it doesn't matter whether it's "love", "friendship", or "family affection", there is no eternal love. The law of diminishing marginal utility is the best explanation, so for all the fading interpersonal relationships, "people go to tea and cool" is the same law for everyone, but everyone walks at a different time.
Therefore, it is necessary to control one's emotional needs for others, get used to loneliness, and enjoy loneliness alone. We must work hard to make money, don't work hard to earn love, because "feeling" is uncertain, "love" is erratic, cannot be measured, it is difficult to store, and it is even more difficult to appreciate, and it will eventually depreciate. Most "love" cannot be exchanged for "money", but the reality is that "money" can buy "love".
The biggest emotional intelligence is to be good at dealing with people according to feelings, judging things according to feelings, and never being emotional. Half confused, half understood, half kind, half ruthless. Usually there is a high probability that being an "evil" person is safer and happier than being a "good" person. Evil is meant to be fierce and vicious. Being an "evil" person is not despicable, it is completely in line with the laws of nature's forest, what is not fierce or ruthless must be eaten, and the nature of human beings is consistent with the laws of survival of any living being. High emotional "intelligence" means that you have the "ability" and "power" to ensure that your emotions are not "hurt".
Since ancient times, love alone is not enough, the glass heart is easy to break and break, it can't stab others, it can only let itself be drenched in blood. It is only when I am old that I understand that life is a transaction, and many people's mistakes lie in exchanging "benefits" for "emotional value", while other people's success lies in using "emotion" to obtain "benefit value".
Since ancient times, I have been amorous and hateful, and I should laugh at me if I am amorous, and I was born early, how can I get the word "love"?You can be loved, but not too infatuated, you can sympathize, but not too emotional, you can be ruthless, but you can't have no "courtesy", no "reason", no "festival", no "righteousness"!Give me a glass of "forgetful" water, and from then on I will lose my "passion" feelings, lose my "bell" feelings, lose my "private" feelings, and never have "sick" feelings!