At the dinner table, I chatted with Xiaoli for a few words and found that she was approachable and compatible with us. The relationship between the son and Xiaoli is also very natural, and it looks like a very tacit couple. After the meal, my son told Xiaoli that he wanted to take her to look around, and my wife and I stayed at home to clean up the dishes. We both kept speculating if they would get married outside. An hour later, they returned. Xiaoli told us that she thinks this family is very warm, and my wife and I also like Xiaoli as a girl. We all feel that the fate of the two of them is not shallow, and if the relationship is stable, marriage is also something to look forward to. However, not long after, my son told me that he and Xiaoli had broken up. The reason is that Xiaoli's family is against them being together.
It turned out that Xiaoli's family was more conservative and wanted to find a better family background for her daughter. The son was very disappointed when he heard this, and felt that the two of them had a good relationship, so why should they break up because of family background?I told him that this is a normal thing, and there are always some families who are more conservative and will pay attention to the issue of family background. However, we can't give up too much, we can communicate with Xiaoli's family in a timely manner, and show them the warmth of our family and the excellent quality of our son. The son also said that he would think carefully about how to solve this problem. I think that family background is not a determinant of feelings, but it should not be ignored either. I hope that my son can grasp his own feelings, and at the same time, respect the other person's family background and parents' opinions.
Let's bless our son and Xiaoli together, and hope that they can have a happy future. But this time, I supported my son to find a girl like Xiaoli, although her family conditions are not as good as ours. In fact, the son is looking for a partner, not only for economic conditions, but more importantly, for spiritual fit. Although Xiaoli does not have the same economic conditions as us, her personality and way of dealing with people make me very satisfied. For the son, the future life is not only a matter of money, but also the need for a partner who can support each other and manage together. Of course, the questions raised by the lover must also be considered. After all, the economic base determines the superstructure, and the same goes for marriage. But I still have my opinion on this issue.
First of all, the son is not an only child, and his younger siblings can also share some of the burden. Secondly, even if Xiaoli's family conditions are not as good as ours, it does not mean that she cannot create better conditions in the future. Finally, if economic conditions affect our son's choice of marriage, then such a marriage is not strong enough. Of course, regarding Xiaoli's height, I'm just joking when I say this. Choosing a partner should not only be based on physical appearance and height, but also on inner qualities and shared values. I believe that Xiaoli and our son will support each other and create a better life together. So, I support them together. Finally, I also hope that all parents and young people can focus on internal qualities and shared values, rather than just external conditions.
Marriage is not an economic transaction, but a spiritual fit. Only on the basis of mutual support in the heart can we manage a good life together. There is some truth to what you say, but there are also some problems. First of all, boys not only need to have the ability to earn money and a house, but also need to have other advantages and specialties, such as good character, good family background, high education, intelligence and wisdom. Secondly, girls do not only face financial pressures and family relationships, but also have many other problems to face, such as adapting to a new environment, integrating into a new family, and dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In addition, when choosing a partner, both men and women should pay more attention to personal qualities and character, rather than simply economic conditions and family background.
Finally, although boys with better economic conditions can choose rural girls, care should also be taken to avoid problems caused by family and social factors, such as different values and Xi habits. In conclusion, choosing a partner is a complex matter that requires many factors to consider, and it is not just about economic conditions and family background.