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Redemption is the game of the brave.

Recently, some people came to consult and redeem it, and when they heard 2980, they said to consider it, and then there was no then.

More than 2980?Many, but it doesn't seem to be much for redeeming a person. Everyone cares about money, but the person who wants to save it cares most about the relationship, compared to that person, it seems to be worth it.

So what is it that makes people hold back and want to redeem but plan to think about it again?In fact, to put it bluntly, there are only three words.

Is it worth it?It's not just money, it's time, energy, and emotion.

Compared with the previous generation, modern people's love presents a trend of short, flat, fast, fast pace of life, and the concept of tight time, so that we have no time to stay and patience - it is not that we do not attach importance to feelings, but we give more priority to interests, even if it is to redeem, we have to think about whether it is worth it.

If you want to ask if you want to recover, you must think about it, but you don't seem to think about it that way, so to calculate the cost, any little obstacle, even if it is like a small pebble on the way to recovery, is enough to stop us from moving forward.

In fact, not only intimate relationships, but even friends get along like this - even if you were once inseparable, playing ball and surfing the Internet together, as long as there was a small unpleasant incident in the middle, and no one took the initiative, you may turn around and never contact each other for the rest of your life.

Years later, when you think about it, you will feel regretful, or ridiculous, and you can't even remember what it was, but that's how it turned out.

The relationship between people is like this, it seems to be strong, but in fact it can be separated at any time, and there are no absolutes.

And to save the relationship is to repair such an unexpectedly broken relationship and avoid possible regrets in the future.

It's normal to want to redeem it, because in your heart the relationship is not over yet, you can still imagine that if that incident hadn't happened, you would still be together now, and you can still talk and hug each other. The intimate scenes of the past are familiar and strange, far away from the present, but they may have only been the norm a week or two ago, but you didn't care about it then.

It is also normal for the party who wants to redeem but is unwilling to take the initiative, because you are afraid that the other party will have different ideas from you, hate rejection and neglect, and redemption is a matter with strong uncertainty, you don't know whether these efforts will pay off, so you unconsciously want to retreat.

Don't talk about redemption, even if you cite the example just now - you have a falling out with a good friend, you know that as long as you take the initiative to take a step, even if you don't apologize, just pretend that the matter turns the page and send a message to make an appointment, you will be reconciled. But there's a chance you won't.

Why am I taking the initiative?

What if I send a message and they ignore it and refuse?

Even if you reconcile, won't there be a thorn in your heart, and will it still be the same as before?

There are countless voices in your heart that are preventing you from sending that message, even if there is another voice reminding you: don't think too much, you really won't be in touch for the rest of your life.

Then you will start to ask, is this person worthy, is it an indispensable presence in my life, and what would happen without him.

The conclusion is that it won't be like that, and maybe they will contact me tomorrow, and I don't have to send this message today, and it's not impossible to delay it.

One day, two days, three days, as time slowly passed, it seemed that the distance was getting farther and farther, and it was getting harder and harder to send out information, it was too embarrassing.

You still regret it when you think about it occasionally, but it seems like there's nothing you can do about it.

As a person who has come before, I have experienced many similar separation scenes, and I have helped many people successfully recover, and it must be explained that not all relationships repaired after being broken can go to the end and be happy.

But they were generally more satisfied with the results, because they didn't have the "what if" regret, they tried and tried their best.

Trial and error is a necessary process, and in retrospect, it doesn't cost much, it's nothing more than a little time, money, and a little cheek, which are insignificant compared to saving the relationship that is about to die and the infinite possibilities in the future.

Moreover, if they really can't go back to the past after redemption, at least this time, they took the initiative to choose to end it, and they really tried their best to leave no regrets.

I don't encourage all separated relationships to take time and effort to repair and recover, but if you really feel regretful, it's best not to be lazy, because of a moment of negative energy, blocked by a small pebble on the road, bringing a long regret later.

Sometimes when I see those feelings that end regrettably, especially those that end without a problem, I can't help but wonder if it were placed in an era when the pace was not so fast, would everyone be enthusiastic enough to stop thinking too much about the cost of trial and error, and do what they want.

It's a pity that we live in modern times, and we will inevitably be coerced by all kinds of complicated sounds and busy life, thinking that we can't stop, so we have to live step by step, and we have no time to enjoy the scenery around us, let alone stop and look back on the past.

Therefore, redemption is the game of the brave, it is difficult, it is difficult to build a psychology from the first step, it is to go against the current, to find another possibility in life.

But if you really want to redeem it, then you will find that the so-called trial and error cost is just a small pebble on the road, which can be kicked away, and difficulties are just an excuse for not having courage.

Perhaps in the context of a turbulent life, it is still worth chasing a romance of the previous generation, simply taking a step, at least without regrets.

About the Author:

HazukiInterest is to observe human beings and give you another perspective and attitude towards feelings.

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